I have been with my boyfriend for two years at Xmas, we got engaged in Feb of this year after a rocky Christmas and a few weeks apart where I saw someone else twice. I have a 6 year old from my previous relationship. One month after getting engaged I fell pregnant, baby due Nov 06. I always thought we were so strong and in love, always felt such a strong connection between us. I know he never really wanted kids, but I knew how much we loved each other. He spoke of coming to where I live 50 miles away and living with me and my son. Pregnancy is also dangerous for me and I ended up in a coma with my son, so I have alot of check ups. He has grown cold last few months, we are rowing all the time, shows no interest in the baby coming and now says he cant hack travelling to and from where I live. Which was only temp until we moved together next year. I feel let down. In a row last week he shouted he has no interest in the baby. I feel an emotional wreck, I want to die...He has hurt me so bad
2006-08-17 11:38:18 · 9 answers · asked by treelovertwigs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I really want to say that you need to move on because he is not worth it but there is a baby involved and the baby needs their father. How can he say he dont want kids. They are that most precious things in the world. Is the timing bad or something. He needs to know if he dont do what it take to have a child he wouldn't have to worry about it now. Good luck, I wish you the best for you and your baby.
2006-08-17 11:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by hodgesandguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he doesn't "truly" love you... But then, doesn't sound like you "truly" love him, either - if you did, you would not have put both of you in this situation. You betrayed his trust by going ahead and getting pregnant while you knew he did not want kids. How do you think this made him feel? I don 't know if your relationship can be salvaged; clearly, you're going through a tough time with your pregnancy, and would like to count on his unconditional support - but he's letting his resentment get in the way. Perhaps, if you show your understanding of his point of view, you can find common ground and talk things out. Ideally, this time in your life everything *should* revolve around you... but, your situation is not ideal, and you should try to make best of what you have. Make it at least partially about him; a little understanding goes a long way. But be prepared for you two growing further apart; perhaps, you'll just have to tough it out, and stike out on your own. For the sake of the baby - be strong, whatever happens.
2006-08-17 12:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have to ask any of us ur own mind is questioning it this is the clue- he seems not so interested as he aint ready .. if its gonna risk ur well being stop all this now 'th eother clues words are - hurt- wreck- wanan die- u get rid of the baby if you can and him above all and be alive and well ..its abuse starting a pattern already .. see ? he yells well he aint happy .. netiehr are U get over him asap to hell with him . i had similar situation once upon a time but i had no choice i lost the baby .. and .. i felt let down too as he dint care .. back and forth is hard u need to be solid before a child.. child is not in the stars tho for u and him.. at all
2006-08-17 11:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Cry and spend your time resting. Then spend your time with the children and improving yourself. He is only causing you heartache now. And right now you don't need that you should be spending time preparing your son for a new sibling. Yes the man let you down. Pick yourself up and provide a good home and mother for the children.
2006-08-17 11:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by lona b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its best to leave the relationship and start again. I think there is something going on with him that you are unaware of. You need to focus on yourself and unborn child. How does your 6 year old react to him? How does he react to your 6 yr old. Maybe he is stressed out from the pressure of raising his child and someone else's. Fighting is unhealthy for anyone and you need to look at the signs before you commit any further, otherwise its more stress for you and your children.
2006-08-17 11:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you truly, he would be with you every step of the way. Find a true friend or your mom that can help you when it is needed to bring your healthy baby into this world. God bless.
2006-08-17 11:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In reallity haven't you answered your own question??? Why do you need to ask when the answer is right there in front of you. Time to move on.
2006-08-17 11:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by mysticideas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he really love you. Does he show any emotion to you and your child. Has he cheated on you
2006-08-17 11:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hurt you he does not truly love you. and dont think about dying theres better out there for you
2006-08-17 11:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by ricco_0101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋