say u have beeb seeing this person for a long time, sleeping with each other no protection. its the love of your life. But one day they come to you and say, listen I just found out i have an std. One that DOESNT go away, its aids, but almost as bad, am sorry. They have had it for like 2 yrs so they didnt cheat on u, and they just found out about. now what do u do? stay with them? leave? freak out?? what would u do next?? think than answer!!
2006-08-17 11:28:45 · 9 answers · asked by jamaicanstar1971 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
say u have been seeing this person for a long time, its the love of your life and u have been sleeping with them without protection. But one day they come to u and say i have an std, one that doesnt go away. its not aids but its just as bad. what do u do, they have had it for 2 yrs without knowing so they didnt cheat. do u sty with the one u love , or leave? r u pissed or calm about. think than answer
2006-08-17 11:32:17 · update #1
I can only imagine how this would feel. If I truly loved that person, I'd stay. Yeah, I'd be hurt and probably angry, but I'd also have to realize that this is partially my fault. If you consented to unprotected sex, you can't just lay all the blame on your partner, you also knew the consequences. You can live a normal life with several STIs. They only affect our female child-bearing processes. Herpes= c-sections are generally necessary. Syphilis (once past the curative stages)= best to not get pregnant. HPV= can cause cervical cancer. Just remember that life goes on and everything always happens for a reason.
2006-08-17 11:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by Tai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-09 00:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by Michel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, go get yourself checked to make sure you haven't already contracted it from him. If you haven't and decide to stay with him you must wear a condom every time. Even with a condom, depending on what disease he has there is a possibility of catching it..if the condom breaks or if there is a rash or something around the surrounding area and it rubs against you. This is a difficult decision to make if you love someone..but no one can make it for you. Is this disease curable? If not, you have to ask yourself, "Do I love this man enough to catch a disease that I may have the rest of my life?" I hope everything turns out okay for you in whatever decision you make.
2006-08-17 11:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by jenny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First things first, go visit your doctor and tell him/her what your boy friend told you. The doctor will do a test to see if you have this or not. One way or the other examine how you feel about each other and if he truly is the love of your life and he feels the same way about you, then continue the relationship as before, there are treatments available to help with this kind of hurdle in life.
Good luck to you!
2006-08-17 11:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by shy_one964 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is love but love alone do not make a relationship. You must love yourself and that person must love you too he or she should tell you what he or she has done in their past relationships so you could make your decision. I would leave because if this person have sex without protection and never get tested and then sleep with you years after he or she has no love for him or herself and that mean no love for you. Communication, love, trust in each other make a relationship.
2006-08-17 11:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by breast 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok honey first of all you need to got to your gyno and see of you have this and if THIS is herpes it can be treated. if he is the love of your life and you know for certain that he's not cheating and for certain that he didn't know he had it before now i think you should stick with him.you'll both deal with this together and get through this. what don't kill us will make us stronger. good luck!
2006-08-17 11:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I would totally freak out, ´cause if he had it, means that I do too!!!, but if he is the love of my life and if he never cheated on me, it would be stup@#~if i leave him, any way we both r infected now, so we better live the rest of our lives toghether....don´t you think so???
2006-08-17 11:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow i would work wit him but never sleep wit him again
2006-08-17 11:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by sissie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you might as well just stay with them now.
you both have it and its uncurable, so think about it.
2006-08-17 11:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋