i dont feel wanted, or understood he thinks im nagging i stay home with the kids so i expect for him to ask me how im doing not what em i going to now ? it s hard to explain, but i could see the changes :(
2006-08-17 11:21:45 · 5 answers · asked by liz_805 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Many at-home moms feel the same way. You need to become more involved with things outside the home.
When my children were young we started a "play group" once a week for the children. Several of us moms would plan an outing to the park, children's museum, pool, and would meet there with the kids. The moms had a chance to talk and the kids got to play. It was a great way to get out of the house and talk to adults. It also gave me more interesting things to talk to my husband about, and he communicated with me more.
2006-08-17 11:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men take for granted their wives. They automatically assume that we know they love us by being married. What worked for me is becoming more independent. It takes time, and if you'd rather be a stay at home home, (which is great!), then you should try to find new friends in your community, like a mom's group. Search on-line, that's how I found mine. Men are not capable of supporting a woman's emotions, that's why we should turn to other women. Spending time away and time together might be what you both need. Not saying he is, but he could also be doing something that could be changing him such as drugs or drinking. It could alter a persons judgment. Or he could be bi-polar. Remember, we all have a free will. You, and everybody else in the world, don't like others telling them how to live and do things. We get defensive when someone makes us do what they want us to do. Not saying that's what you do, but try changing a few things without him knowing it, and see if he takes notice.
2006-08-17 19:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by sweet southern charm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre bored and wondering if this is all there is in life. Life is what we make of it and obvious you once thought this was the answer to what you wanted in life, but now youre there, life isnt what you expected it to be. Your negativety is rubbing off on your partner and thats why hes acting that way. You need to get out of your everyday life, get a job or hobby, or even volunteer a few hours in something you like. Thats the most important part,finding something you like or you wont be any better off than you are now. You may just have to figure how to do it around the kids schedule but maybe helping at a day care center may help and give you a break from the kids. He will see a change in you and will probably change himself then. But all this depends on how bad you want to save your relationship. Good luck
2006-08-17 18:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably waiting for you to say something if you don't it will stay the same. communicate first make sure he knows how you feel .don't assume he knows . then you will know when in conversation
2006-08-17 18:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him! Do you love him? Are you happy? Only you will know the answer to that.
2006-08-17 18:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋