I am happily engaged and love my fiance very much... we are intimate even though we are not married yet, which we both feel is ok. But the thing is, I love making out with him and fooling around, but when we have sex it just isnt enjoyable. I am totally turned on but as soon as we start intercourse, I am in pain and am not feeling any enjoyment. I would like to enjoy it. I dont know what is wrong with me. I have not had any other sexual partners, my fiance is the only one so maybe it is because I am not an expert at it. But if there is any advice out there for helping me enjoy sex I would love to hear it.
2006-08-17 11:19:05 · 13 answers · asked by s..... 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You should see a doctor. There are probably different things that it could be, but one thing it may be is endometriosis. This is a condition that many women have, and it causes intercourse to be painful. For more info about endometriosis, check out this
site
http://www.womenshealthmatters.ca/facts/quick_show.cfm?subject=Endometriosis
It could be a different problem, however, and your doctor should be able to help you determine that. Just don't give up on sex!! You need it, and your fiance definitely needs it!
2006-08-17 11:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by Random 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can't say exactly because I don't know what kind of pain you're having. Is it because you're aren't slippery enough maybe? In this case, relaxing will help a lot, try not expect the pain, but you might need to use some lube as well (astroglide is really good and doesn't get tacky). Or does it feel like he's hitting too deep? Like he's hitting rock bottom? Have you tried it with you on top? It could be he's just too big for you and you being on top will allow you to control how deep he goes. I had a boyfriend who was too long for and sex just wasn't enjoyable sometimes. He had to really control himself and some positions just weren't possible because he went too deep (that hurts!). Also, trying positions that tend to make for more shallow penetration helps (lying spoon style, with him coming at you from behind is a good one).
Good luck!
2006-08-17 11:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also suffered from painful intercourse. Some factors could be that : you may not be aroused enough, and need to use a lubricant like "astroglide" I personnaly like that product. Also, if you are having pain, maybe you have a condition known as endometriosis, go to your doctor and tell him your problem. Also communicate with your partner because he may not know that you are not enjoying sex. Good luck
2006-08-17 12:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by jillmbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use some kind of lubricant,ask you partner to start out slowly.have a little for play. There is nothing wrong with you that you cant do something about it. Starting out slowly will make a big difference. I have the same problem and I do just what i told you. hope everything works out for you. It works for me, plus you should have sex more often to . it may help if you stretch your vagina a little.
2006-08-17 11:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by boo boo bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try adding things to your sexual encounters. Like strawberries and whipped cream, honey, rose petals, soft music to set the mood.....something to ease your mind. You may be a little to tensed after you all are done fooling around and about to begin the real thing. You know? Or maybe participate in oral sex...if that doesn't bother either one of you. If you continue to be in pain then maybe you need to check out the doctor hunney......
2006-08-17 11:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what's wrong, sex should be enjoyable. If you are comfortable about it, talk to your doctor, they know people are out there having sex and not married (as you aren't married yet) and it wouldn't hurt to ask a few questions. Your doctor is there to help you.
2006-08-17 11:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by Goldenrain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, tell your fiance to be gentle and enjoy it. Don't think about it, just feel the pleasure. And don't be negative!
If the pain continues, you may consider seeing your doctor.
2006-08-17 11:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be a psychological thing , could be u are not ready to have sex yet , could be something that happened to u in the past , try relaxing ,take ur time ,and also use a lubrican . u could talk to ur obgyn ,maybe there's a physiological problem also.ggod luck!
2006-08-17 11:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by the greek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a product called SOMATOMAX that will remove any inhibitions you may have (even those that may be subconscious). It is an extremely powerful libido enhancer for both you, and your boyfriend.
2006-08-17 12:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by RobsVision 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have pain.
Something is wrong. Is your vagina dry? use a lubricant.
See a gynecologist soon, if not tomorrow.
If you have no health coverage check the free clinic.
2006-08-17 11:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋