Domestic Violence - what has been your experience ?

Question

Has you wife beat you with the frying pan - or has your husband gave you a bunch of fives ... ? what has been you experience ?

Answer 1

I have never been beaten!

Answer 2

WELL I CAN TELL YOU IT'S NOT A FUNNY SUBJECT,especially if you have been abused,i put up with verbal and physical for almost 20 years ,every weekend was a verbal or physical fight...because he was a alcoholic,i stayed because i didn't want to have to live on welfare to help compensate for the loss of his income,i worked,we had 2 children and they would have had to been pulled back and forth and he had also threaten to take them because his father had money ,and he also threatened to kill them if i left,and I felt he was crazy enough to do it if he was drinking.So I never told anyone til the day I left him. I really didn't want my family to know what a big mistake I had made,so I stayed ,every holiday i usually got punched,and then when i had finally had enough and started fighting back,I broke his nose,and contemplated killing him,but knew I could never live with it,and my children would be orphaned,so at one point it got so bad I tried to kill myself.
my children were the ones that said it was time for us to separate,one was out of high school,and the other was a year away from graduation,when i left,if i hadn't we probably would have killed each other,it was a horrible existence.
Now I'm married to a Angel,totally different from the other we don't fuss or fight and we just had our 11th wedding anniversary last week,and we consider our self still on our honeymoon. so anyone going through this kind of thing,don't be afraid to ask for help,because I'm still suffering from the physical attacks still now,I'm disable,and want work again from a muscle condition bought on from being kicked in the head by my x husband with steel toed shoes. So don't take it,I thought I was suppose to stay,Id never seen anything like this when I was a child and i was raised you marry for life,i was very naive,but that was soon replaced with,depression,hate,loneliness,and dread.so no its not funny ...please seek help if you are being abused

Answer 3

Wow! That's a good one. I will start by saying that I have been through this with a guy that I thought loved me. Being young and dumb at the time, I fell for a guy that was a total jerk. We were together for about 2 1/2 years and it all started with him being controlling and accusing me of sleeping around. About 2 years in to it, he decided that I was not allowed to wear skirts, make-up or have a phone hooked up in our house and if I did wear make-up, then of course I got accused of sleeping with other men. The rule of not wearing skirts was kind of obvious. And the no phone thing was because if we got into it, then he figured I'd have no where to go because nobody would be able to come get me if I couldn't make phone calls. I left him at 2 years and then he sweet talked me into coming back, promising that he'd changed. That was in February. In April, I was hospitalized with a kidney infection and the day after I came home, I was being really mouthy and I spit into his face because he just wouldn't let up. He then slapped me with an open hand across my face and gave me my first ever black eye. I fell to the floor and he started kicking me in the back of the head and my back. Then he made me wear sunglasses until the bruise healed. That same summer, he held a knife to my throat in front of our roommates kids and also tried to strangle me at a party in front of all of our friends. Nobody tried to stop him and when he let me go, I walked out of the house and he came looking for me. I felt like I had nowhere to go, so I went back to the house. Stupid of me, I know, but when you feel you have no other option, what do you do? In July of that year, I ran from him and haven't seen him since. Nor do I ever plan on seeing him again. I am a stronger person now and if I had half the b**** that I have now, his butt would have been locked up because of the simple fact that he was on parole at the time and I should have turned it in to his parole officer. He went on to marry another woman that has the same name as me and she quickly divorced him because he beat the crap out of her too. I will say this. Nobody will ever hit me again. It will not happen because I WILL NOT live in that kind of fear ever again in my life!

Answer 4

My ex slapped me while I was driving. He and I were fighting and he just slapped me. We almost got into a car wreck and then he began crying saying that he was sorry. I kicked him out of my place within the next couple of days and refused to see him ever again. He was always emotionally abusive, but that was the first time he got physical. I knew it would escalate eventually.

Answer 5

I have been abused mentally and physically in the past....mostly got worse during my pregnancies. It's devistating to love someone and be hurt so much by them...it almost hurts worse than the bruises...
Take care.

Answer 6

ive been thru just about anything u can think of. its not easy being urself after going thru something like that either. it takes years to get over it and then sometimes u see something that reminds u of it and it really messes w/u.

Answer 7

I beat the piss out of my wife every night.