how can i have a baby with my girlfriend without having sex?

Question

Me and my girlfriend have been trying for a baby for one year now, she doesn't know i'm going through other methods to have my own baby. Iv'e made an appointment to get fertility tested, but in myself I feel that's not the problem. I feel I am the cause of the problem giving her stress by arguing with her, I have been told that stress can sometimes prevent one from having a child, is there another way of making her fall pregnant without insertation. Many thanks.

Answer 1

Don't give her stress and you won't need any other method..

Answer 2

OK, there is just so much wrong with this, I have to take this on.

1) Honesty: how can you not be totally honest with somebody about something so important? Trying to have a baby, and seeing a fertility specialist, and not telling your mate? Horrible.

2) Stress: yes, stress can certainly affect a woman's fertility, but not forever. Eventually, if nothing else is wrong, she will get pregnant anyway. But... cut it out !! How can you even think of bringing a child into a home where people are arguing all the time? A little is normal. But you need to seriously think about it.

3) Other methods of impregnation: ok, this is just too expensive and ridiculous. It costs a LOT of money to go to a fertility specialist and have in vitro fertilization (where they put your egg and sperm into a test tube). PLUS... what an unloving situation that is!! It's OK if a couple can't have a baby any other way, but really, not a great idea for normally fertile couples.

Just relax. Remember that God... or whomever you think created all these people and things on this earth.... decides when life begins. We are the bows from which our children as living arrows are sent forth. Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness.

THINK HAPPY - MAKE HER HAPPY - HAVE A HAPPY BABY !!

Answer 3

I can't even begin to fathom why you have an aversion to sex with someone you want to have a baby with. Why do you want to screw up a child's life by having a baby with some girl you don't even get along with? And I don't get what you mean by trying other means to have your own. Do you mean you're interviewing other women also? Sounds like this might not be the brightest idea.

But here's a great idea.... Marry the woman, and be a committed husband and father so your kid doesn't have to grow up having part-time parents. It might be ok for your schedule, but it's not good for the mental health and well-being of your kid. That's a much better alternative than populating the planet with yet another illegitimate and emotionally deprived kid. Do a search on the effects of divorce on a kid. Whether you were married to begin with or not doesn't matter. The effects are the same.

Answer 4

there is but if your fertility tests come back normal why go to all the trouble...it's true that stress doesn't help but surely the fact that you are arguing should tell you that maybe you need to resolve some issues before adding a pregnancy to your load? trust me people think babies bring couples together....they really don't and it can be a very stressful, hormonal and uncomfortable experience. get your issues dealt with relax and let nature take it's course, unless your girlfriend is over 35 what's the rush?

Answer 5

How bout, seriously talk to her about WHY y'all, nay, YOU, want to have a child with her. It may take a while to get pregnant, especially if she was on the pill or other contraceptive method... It takes time for that crap to wear off sometimes... which is weird cause there's cases of people gettingpregnant by missing a few pillls. ANyway, I got off track... if you really show you are willing to make the relationship work and make your home a likeable place to raise a child: she'll loosen up her tensions and stress. And perhaps that'll make it easier to conceive through insemenation... I can't think of any other way to conceive... Unless y'all want to have artificial insemenation or in-vitro... Another tip: get her to orgasm before not during (or after) you. Again, after the muscles down these do their spasaming, they relaz and allow for more semen to pass on through... Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

Artificial insemination (AI) has a long history and is much less 'high-tech' than some other methods of assisted conception. In AI, semen is introduced into the woman's uterus at around the time of ovulation, with the aim of getting the sperm nearer to the egg. It can help couples where the man has a low sperm count, or where the sperm are unable to get through the woman's cervical mucus. Because sperm is placed directly inside the woman, AI can help couples who are unable to have intercourse because of disability, injury or difficulties such as premature ejaculation. The procedure is also called intrauterine insemination, or IUI, and is often combined with fertility drugs.


HOW IT"S DONE:

While some clinics carry out AI/IUI without using drugs to boost egg production, taking fertility drugs can improve your chances of becoming pregnant. You'll start taking the drug near the beginning of your menstrual cycle to stimulate your ovaries to develop several mature eggs for fertilisation. (You normally release only one egg a month.)

You will track your basal body temperature and use an ovulation detection kit or, more commonly, your doctor may use ultrasound to detect ovulation and thus make sure that insemination is carried out at the optimum time. You may ovulate naturally, or be given an injection of the hormone hCG to bring this on. Once you ovulate, your partner produces a sperm sample, which is 'washed' to extract the best-quality, most mobile sperm. Using a catheter through your cervix, doctors then put this sperm directly into your uterus near a fallopian tube (this is IUI). You rest for a short time afterwards and then carry on life as normal. You'll be able to take a pregnancy test in about two weeks.


HOW LONG DOES THE TREATMENT LAST?

The insemination itself is straightforward and takes only a short time but you'll be on fertility drugs before you ovulate.


SUCCESS RATE:

Success rates depend on the causes of you and your partner's infertility and your age. You're more likely to conceive if you're trying to solve a cervical-mucus problem than a sperm-quality problem. Couples who turn to IUI have on average a conception rate of approximately 36 per cent after three treatments cycles. (There are no national statistics on live birth rates.)


ADVANTAGES:


This procedure can be an effective solution for men with a low sperm count or poor sperm motility, where the sperm can't make the long journey to the egg. It's also a good treatment option for couples who have problems because the man's sperm can't get through the woman's cervical mucus, perhaps because of an immune reaction. It can only work for couples where the woman has no fallopian tube blockages. Donor sperm can be used in cases where the man is producing no sperm at all.


DISADVANTAGES:

Because timing of the insemination is so crucial, your partner must be able to produce a sperm sample quickly by masturbating into a cup at your doctor's office or clinic. The procedure can also be uncomfortable for some women.

Answer 7

Dude, you are not making any sense. If you think it is because you are stressing her out than I fail to see how impregnating her without insertion is going to help.

If you want her to get pregnant, than here is a hint: Quit being a fu$%ing jerk!!

If you are simply just scared of the pu$%y, and don't want to tell her then just get her artificially inseminated. Although, I think that it is messed up that you won't tell her the truth. Using people in order to get a baby is wrong.

Answer 8

If you are trying TOGETHER for a baby, then you should go for tests etc. TOGETHER.

Perhaps you are trying to be kind to her by not putting her through any stress - but if the stress is affecting you then you are not doing her any favours!

Is stress preventing penetration? Just chill out and relax and it will hopefully happen soon for you both.

Answer 9

If you are arguing with her enough to the point where you think it may be affecting her fertility, there is something else you should know.. Stress can cause MISCARRIAGES!! Seek relationship counseling to work out your disagreements before you try to have a child.

Answer 10

The only proven method (and you'll be far better informed of this if her fertility tests come back negative) is invitro fertilization. One of her eggs and your sperm are combined in a test tube and then inserted into her womb.

Answer 11

Well ... Stop arguing with her and stop trying so hard to get her pregnant. Try having sex when she ovulates ... that's about 14 days after the first day of her period.

Only other way is to use IVF which is expensive and not pleasant at all.