any one have any good thoughts on how to get through to a 16 year old stepdaughter that boys will tell them almost anything to get in their pants and not to fall in love with love and not confuse sex and love and practive self discipline and self respect. my 16 year old seems to be on the verge of making some bad choices that are going to hurt her.
2006-08-17 10:58:10 · 13 answers · asked by hawkeye 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell her exactly that....
"You realize that boys will tell you absolutely ANYTHING to get in your pants, right?? including: I love you, I'll be there for you no matter what, You are the most beautiful girl I've ever known & can't imagine wanting anyone else ever, etc"
Give her detailed common 'boy statements' so when she hears the things said, it might click.
2006-08-17 11:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by bigbadwolfe_2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to her and this is asap serious!!!! She probably has already made some wrong descisions you need to let her know you are there for her and try to talk about her personal life she will open up to you if you approach it in the right way, you have to be a parent first and a friend second, but find something that she will talk to you about and go from there, I had a hard time when I was here age and I didn't have no body to talk to me to tell me its okay and teach me the things that I needed to know, like about sex and drugs I learned all of that on the street, I deeply wished my Mom would have just talked to me about it now, she never even tried... my advice talk to her and don't yell. Just listen and try to relate.
2006-08-17 18:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by T agent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may not be a parent, but I know what you mean. But love isn't a wrong thing. I may not know the answer to your question, but I do know that, not all bos want girls just for the sex. Love is the best thing that can happen to someone, just don't let her confuse love for something else. You should get closer to her, so she could tell you stuff. (About what kind of guys she likes.) Meet her boyfriends, and such, try to make her understand that not all people are who they seem to be.
2006-08-17 18:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by Min 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a former teenager that made bad choices, TRUST HER!!! If you tell her you know she will make the right desicions, she probably will, but if tell her, "trust me" you know what it's like boys only want one thing and they'll hurt you and all the like then she will set out to prove you wrong, guaranteed!!!
I know you will make the right desicion and stand behind a girl that I'm sure you have done a good job raising.
2006-08-17 18:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by keejee97 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age you can talk till you are blue in the face. They seem to think they know it all, but don't have a clue. Sometimes they just have to learn the hard way, whatever that might be. Sorry I couldn't help, but I've been there.
2006-08-17 18:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, Thats a tough one. Basically you just need to talk with her but be open. give examples. i went threw the same thing with my daughters,and this has worked so far now for 3 teenage girls. 171/2, 15,14, basically just sit her down and tell l her exactly how it is. not in a parent way. in just 2 people talking way.
Example- I basically just told my daugter what it is that is on boys minds and why. and how it is that most females are diffrent then boys. boys are looking for one thing at that age and girls are looking for another, just tell her she needs to really find out the boys intentions first. before jumping into anything. let her know she has to protect herself from getting hurt.pregnacy, desieses . tell how after he gets her. he will most likely brag to his friend and move on.just tell her everything there is to tell her. the bottom line is she is going to make her own decision you cant watch her 24/7.but at least you have for warned her and was there for her to try and
keep her from making the wrong decision.but if she does make them . those decisions come with consequences. that she and only she must deal with. let her know it's not affecting you ( in a since) because if she gets a reputation, baby, desiese ect.. she is the one that is going to suffer not you.) use examples of other teenagers that have went there and where they are now. and if thats what she wants in life. let her know your not trying to stop her from having boyfriends. because at her age it's normal for her to want one. just tell het to pick wisely. think before jumping into anything. theres no rush.think about here future.let her know this boy must respect her and if he cares and really likes her for her, he wont try and rush her into anything.let her know your telling her all this because you love her and dont want to see anybody hurt her or take advantage of her. if you can't talk to her write her a letter. but dont do it in argumentive way. at all...
But there are also other things i do ...like rules my teenage girls are not aloud to have boys in there rooms alone . ect.. there not aloud to hang out at boys houses alone.they dont go to parties. i follow up on the things that they ask me if they can do.. and where there going . to make sure there telling me the truth. i get parents names addresses phones numbers ect...they have rules and i stand by them... if they do have a boyfriend.. i must meet him first. and i let him know right from the beginning what i will tolerate and what i wont. whether they like it or not.bottom line.. if he can follow my rules too. they'll be no problems. because she still lives under my roof.
2006-08-17 18:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by need to know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and have a talk with her and ask her. What does she think love is . And which guy she'll going to marry and what if somethings happens if something bad happen . Of how she's going to handle it . I hope everything works out . Sounds like she needs someone to talk to her aout those kinds of things. it should help.
2006-08-17 18:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. A 16 year old girl will have sex with several guys until she gets it out of her system.
2006-08-17 18:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by NOVA50 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggestion is to approach her in a way of not getting on her case like you want to talk to her for her well being, make her comfortable with talking to you as in a friend but be sure to give her a mothers perspective. once you broken those barriers of being comfortable to approach you, she will come to you when she is abou to make a big decision and you will be there to give her the right words of advice
2006-08-17 18:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by yaya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds hard but keep telling her what you wrote in your question. Some things she will have to learn the hard way. Be there when she falls.
2006-08-17 18:04:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋