At the end of last year, I got a new boyfriend. He told me that people were making fun of my make up and said?

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he would suggest that I wear less because people are so mean. Then he even told me, "I don't like it." He told me to wear my hair in a ponytail and go to school w/o any make up, so I did. Random days in the hall, he'd stop me and frown and say, "Your make up..", and I'd ask what about it, and he would say "I have to go..". When I brought it up the next day, he said he didn't remember saying that. I got blonde streaks in my brown hair and at first, they were bright and he just asked if I dyed my hair and he didn't say he liked it, until the next day. I did it because I wanted to, but I still don't feel good I feel good enough at times. I feel like he wants me to change way too much, and I have never asked him to change something about his appearance.A few weeks later,he didn't want me to wear a ponytail and said about the make up, "It's who you are.If you want, pile it on."He wanted a ponytail w/o any make up then changed his mind. What should I do about him,since he says he "loves" me?

Answer 1

he should love you for who you are, not the way you look...but it is ok for him to make a suggestion here and there...."Hey, I think you should try and wear your hair up in a ponytail one day. I think it would look cute." And he should compliament you on the way it looks or if he doesn't like he should say he is sorry and you should say it is ok......
But if he loves you the way he says he does he should be responding to you when you say something to him.......
I think you should tell him that he should acept you the way you are but it is ok to give a suggestion here and there. Also, that he should not ingore you.......
If he doesn't change after you tell him that (give him a week or two), DUMP HIM!!!

Good Luck :-)

Answer 2

Now I see why a lot of ladies find it hard to keep the right guys. The fact that your man does not want you to dress in a given way means that he wants the two of you to be socially acceptable.

Now if he does not like the make up, who are you trying to impress? Do you want to look ugly to your man and beautiful to some philanderers. Again, if you doubt his "love" (as you described it) why are you still in the relationship?

If you listen to these losers, including the man pretending to be a woman, you will soon been in the search market. And you better get it right. No one is perfect, there is no ready-made and groomed-to-size man. Also if you were perfect, the other men would not have left.....Or as ladies say....YOU would not have left the men.

Stop dreaming and talk to your man. If he is still one.

Answer 3

He sounds like he is worried about what everyone else thinks about you. Love has no judgment if he loved you he wouldnt care what you looked like he would love your dirty bath water, love makes you see pass a persons flaws. So it seems to me that he has this picture in his mind of what the girl he wants should look like and you dont look like his picture. If he does'nt like you the way you are then leave him alone and let god send you someone who loves the way you look makeup and all. But sometimes to much makeup can cover up your real beauty so what you could do is ask someone who really loves you like a loved one, does he/she think you should wear less makeup or maybe even show you the correct way to apply makeup. You don't need anyone who tries to change you (get rid of him) and pay no attention to him and when it's time, date someone else and you just wait your old left overs will want you like you just had a plastic sugery make over. Best wishes ,hope I helped

Answer 4

He either has some sort of short term memory issue or he's yanking your chain. If it's the latter, he's obviously very controlling. I dated a guy like this and if it wasn't one thing, it was another. I finally got fed up when he told me he didn't want me to wear sandals because I had sexy feet and he didn't want other people looking at them. "Other people looking" was also his excuse for not wanting me to wear make up or style my hair or wear a shirt that was snug enough to show my shape or jeans that were anything other than baggy... and the list goes on and on. He was a control freak with a jealous streak and huge self-esteem issues. He married the girl he dated after me and managed to keep her barefoot and pregnant for seven years before she got wise and divorced him. He's still single to this. Big shock... NOT!
Be true to yourself and everything else will work out for the best. Good luck.

Answer 5

WHOA!!!! What is the matter with you???? This guy is a looser!! Forget letting some guy trying to control you! Do what you want to do and anyone who does not like it......they can kiss off! Be your own person and don't try to be a "people pleaser". If I were you......dump this guy........he has no respect for you and is making a fool out of you!

Answer 6

Suggest that he change his hair. Ask him to wear a white stripe down the center of it. If he does it, hes a keeper. If not, bye bye.

Answer 7

he sounds GAY! what kind of guy has preferences on his girls' make up & hairstyle!!!?? that is so incredibly GAY!! You should wear what your want to wear & do what you want to do with your make up & hair! he needs to stop that because it will only be a matter of time b4 he starts to try & tell you where to go, who to talk to etc...etc.. he sounds like a control freak!! Dump him!

Answer 8

He sounds very controlling, are you sure you want that kind of relationship? He sounds like he is twisting you around his finger to do whatever his whim is. Be careful. If he is like this now watch out later.

Answer 9

Wear the pants.

Answer 10

If he loves you for who you are, then it shouldn't matter how you choose to look, he should still be able to care about you whether or not you adhere to his preferences on how he thinks he wants you to look.