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its over 50% isn't that sad. :(

2006-08-17 10:55:33 · 23 answers · asked by Mae-Day 3 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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I agree people are givin up to easy now days its like one says I like pepsi the other likes coke oh well lets get a divorce cause we dont like the same .

2006-08-17 11:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by camarozsonia 3 · 0 0

It's incrediably sad. What's even worse is the effect it has on the children. But this is the immediate gratification world we now live in.

So what do you do to mitigate this threat. I mean doesn't everybody who stands at the alter of the most holiest of holies and chants the sacred words mean it. Of course they do! Why wouldn't they (unless you're heather McCartney). SO what went wrong?

We (as a society) have been trained by the media to identify a threat, overcome adversity and live "happily ever after" all in a span of 22-72 minutes (the actual viewing time of a show or a movie less the commercials). It's created a fantasy life that is far different then the real world. Kids date, fall in lust/love and then get married. It's all a bunch of fun becasue during that time we have absolutely no responsibilities. Now once we get married we have children, jobs, mortgages/rent, car payments sickness etc. All of a sudden we don't like marriage anymore. We look at the person who was once the perfect lover and he/she has now turned into the perfect fool. So we go running off in search of the perfect stranger....(thank you Jackson Browne). We think that the end of fun is the end of love and is now oppressive. SO we say "I don't love you anymore" and off we go on a trek to find the "really right one".

In the old days it was too hard to get divorced. You had to prove infedelity, abuse or someting to get the judge to say okay. So people just had to work it out. Now a days you don't have to prove a thing. Just sign and party away.

The best bet to have a good marriage is to "choose wisely". Not an easy thing to do today. But it starts in the choosing...looking at the guy/girl and judging their past relationships, religious background etc. Walking out into the world saying "I'll let my heart do the picking" is almost a death sentance today. You heart has to be connected to your brain.

Check out the following website. It's for guys, but girls use it as well. It talks alot about marriage and the cost of divorce.

http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/

Good Luck

2006-08-17 18:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0 0

Verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry Sad.

2006-08-17 18:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by the_saint1963 4 · 0 0

I do. I think too many people go into marriage thinking that it will "fix" whatever problems there are in the relationship ("Oh, he won't spend every Friday with his buddies once we're married." "Oh, she'll stop being such a nag once we're married" "Oh, he'll pick up after himself more once we're married, this is just a bachelor thing" "Oh, she'll clean the house better once we're married, it's what wives do") and then are *gasp* shocked when it doesn't work out that way.

I also think too many people buy into the fantasy of "And they lived happily ever after" so they don't realize that a relationship takes WORK. It's not all roses and song all the time - there are disagreements and issues that come up. The question is how you deal with them, IF you deal with them, or if you ignore them and hope they go away, or if the marriage just goes away.

It's also one of the reasons that I laugh at the whole "it will endanger the sanctity of marriage" argument against gay marriage. If what we have now is "sanctity of marriage" I'd hate to see what would happen if the institution went all to hell. Letting gay couples marry couldn't possibly screw it up any worse than straights already have, IMHO.

2006-08-17 18:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It really is sad that families are torn apart by divorce, and at such a high percentage. Lots of children raised by only one parent.

I believe this comes from the lack of respect people have for marriage. They think it is a "throw-away" item. If it doesn't please the people they just divorce and don't take the time and effort to make things work.

2006-08-17 18:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0 0

There is nothing wrong with a high divorce rate. I would rather an unhappy couple split up and move on with their lives rather than stick with it just because society says so. Life is way too short for that.

2006-08-17 18:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by Elvendra 4 · 0 0

Everybody, but everyday people are still marrying the wrong people for the wrong reasons without even putting any thought in to the life that comes after the wedding. Thats what is sad to me.

2006-08-17 18:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0 0

Yes the divorce rate is to high. It show how few people stand behind the word and commitments. We are a selfesh society.

2006-08-17 18:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No. I think the marriage rate is too high. People get married these days because they "really like each other" and call it love.

2006-08-17 18:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by jax0817 3 · 1 0

I agree the rate is way too high. People move on with their relationships too fast instead of working on the one there with.

2006-08-17 18:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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