2006-08-17 10:54:05 · 21 answers · asked by LOSTINTHEDARK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
molestation is the worst crime imaginable.
gather what evidence you have. take you daughter to the hospital for examination. call the cops on your brother. get the best lawyer in town- if you can't afford the best lawyer in town, ask if they would be willing to do a pro bono case or if they could work out a payment plan for you.
in the meantime, hug your daughter. you (and your husband, if he's a good daddy and is in her life) give her plenty of love. take her to a therapist- or even talk to a school councelor, if they are worth their salt. tell her over and over again that it's not her fault- Uncle ________ was a very sick man and what he did was very wrong.
don't act like the whole ordeal never happened- if you do that, Uncle______ will undoubtedly molest another child and your daughter will suffer b/c she will continue to think that it is her fault unless you punish Uncle_______ for what he did.
if you pretend like this never happened, the pyschological damage you will do to your daughter will be tremendous.
i know this may be difficult b/c he is your brother, though i don't assume to know how your relationship was prior to this discovery. in any case, what he did was sick and wrong and a violation of any trust you might have had in him. do not feel guilty for exposing him for the creep he is.
i wish you the best.
2006-08-17 11:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by miss advice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report the abuse to the Child Welfare authorities immediately. He'll do it again and again until he's stopped. Talk to your daughter and protect her from the fall-out. She can't be made to feel responsible or guilty over this. The mess it makes out of every one else is almost worse than having it happen to you. Make her understand that he must be stopped to protect others. Tell her that she's strong and brave to have told you and that when she's not feeling strong or brave that you'll be there for her until she's feeling better. Never break this promise to her! If you look the other way, even for a few minutes, he'll take the opportunity. I'll pray for you. This won't be easy. DON'T let it slide!
2006-08-17 11:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Melva M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a pretty hard one given the emotions involved- on the one hand you love your brother, but then he has done this heinous act against your precious daughter. For her sake I would prosecute, get her to a therapist, because child sexual abuse is very damaging if not treated. I don't know what to say about your brother, it's sad when another person in your family acts this way and you are caught inbetween loving them and hating them.
2006-08-17 11:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly report him to the authorities, police and children's aid society. I would arrange for my 10 year old daughter to speak with a mental health specialist and make sure that her needs are being met. I would also let my little 10 year old daughter know that whatever happened was not her fault and that her uncle has problems and hopefully he will be getting help with them. I don't know if I would go to the extent of vigilanty justice but would certainly want him to pay for his misdeeds. Good luck to you.
2006-08-17 11:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is a sick individual. I would contact the proper authorities and have him put away where he cannot hurt other children. Sex offenders, especially pedophiles, can never be rehabilitated. That is why they simply castrate them in some countries. Your daughter will need counseling, and hopefully she will be able to resume a normal life. It is a sad thing to have one's innocence taken away like that. Pray a lot.
2006-08-17 11:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by catarina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to know before or after he was made a nutless wonder. you beat the crap out of him call the police and let them beat the crap out of him if he makes it through that then when you visit him in prison be sure to say real loud why he is in there and then he can blame you for the *** ache he get :)
2006-08-17 11:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by Why are you still here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not seriously first, have him arrested. Never let him near your daughter ever again or any young girl. Thank you for believing your daughter.
2006-08-17 11:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would kill him, hide the body, and not tell anyone. People who do stuff like are sick and need to be taken care of properly. If you need help let me know.
2006-08-17 11:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by NOVA50 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops, then beat the **** out of him til the cops arrived and broke up the fight.
2006-08-17 10:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
call the police and prosecute to the fullest extent of the law!
2006-08-17 11:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by InProgress:-) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋