hey
Well i desided to keep my baby. Im 3 months along and i havent told my boyfriend that im keeping yet.Nobody i know knows but him. I think I want to break up with him.
He hurts me emotinaly..he calls me a sl*t...stupid..f**k up...ect.
He tells me what to do..I "cant waer makeup" , "look nice"..get on the computer when he isnt on it..i have to ask to do things..cant talk to guys..basically restricting me to looking ugly and not talking to anybody.I know i need to dump him..but im to weak. and when i do he calls me and shyt.idk im scared to keep a baby alone..but i think i need to just give it up for adoption..and say screw him.am i right?
2006-08-17 10:45:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
iIt seems best to get rid of him he doesnt sound good for you or your baby.. There are so many programs out there that will help you with that baby, specially being a single mom :) If you have any ?'s just email me :) Good Luck
planned parent hood will try to talk you into doing something you will regret later in life. Dont contact them. I know its hard but just follow your heart.
2006-08-17 10:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how old are you? With a father like that I would definitely recommend giving the baby up for adoption. Do you want to deal with someone like that for the rest of your life? And since you have already decided to keep the baby, then at least you will know the child will be placed in a good home. You can even pick out the parents and get to know them a little. Leave the opportunity with an open adoption so that in the future you can try to contact the kid. Then finish school. And Good luck.
2006-08-17 17:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your situation. Well, you definitely should not stay with him and if you are scared to talk to him alone, may be you should have someone else there who you trust! If you dont think that you can support a child than find it a good home for it to stay in. The right thing to do is keep it, but if it isn't going to have a sufficient life, then you need to talk care of that. I hope you the best. And about dumping him....you can do anything if you put your mind to it, just tell him the truth!
2006-08-17 18:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by livelaughlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing. I admire you for wanting to keep the baby, and I hope that somebody really nice comes into your life and helps you out. If not, adoption is really a beautiful thing to do for your baby. Think of all the couples who have love and support to give, who can make your baby happy. Pregnant or not... I encourage you to get away from that evil man. You need to get away from him before he figures out there is a baby, because he will use that against you, and then the baby won't be safe from his abuse either. Don't break up with him. Just disappear.
2006-08-17 17:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well be careful, yes if he is that aweful leave his *** and keep the baby and make him pay child support, thats not right for a guy to treat you that way, you dont have to give your baby up for adoption but if that is what you want go ahead, there are alot of woman out there who cant have kids and wants them, but make sure you know that you dont want to raise the baby before making the adoption decision, cuz you might change your mind, so sleep on that a few months, and um just leave the guy, you can find better
2006-08-17 18:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find support, planned parenthood or social services or something, they can help you get out of the situation and help you with your decision with what to do. If you want to keep this baby there are options and it's not as bad as you think, depending on how old you are, if you want to give the baby up there are fantastic options for that as well, open adoptions and such, you need to get help to get away from this situation and look at things clearly. Please make a responsible and mature decision!!
2006-08-17 17:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he treats you that way, how is he going to treat the child? Go and get yourself some good community support to help you as a single mom and either tell him to get some serious help, straighten out his mental problems, or tie him up by the eyelids and knee him in the nuts 'til he blinks.
He makes me cringe and I don't even know him but I know you have a precious life growing inside you that is deserving of one healthy loving parent rather than two with one who is a sociopathic idiot.
2006-08-17 18:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by krazykritik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would not be wrong for you to put the baby up for adoption. If this guy is violent, take some steps to make sure you and the baby are kept safe.
2006-08-17 17:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by t79a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving the baby for adaption is a great solution. There are to many people out there who want children and are not able to have one themselves. leave the biological father of this child alone, you deserve BETTER. He will not be there for you or the baby.
2006-08-17 17:53:45 · answer #9 · answered by Susanne R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definitally need to dump him. if you think you can take care of the baby by urself then keep it but if you don't have what the baby needs and you can't provide for it or anything then give it for adoption. there are many people who are looking to adopt a baby.
2006-08-17 18:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by mommy2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋