i love my boyfriend of two years but we fight so much over stupid things. we never used to fight so much. we fight about everything and we are supposed to move in together tomorrow. we live in his parents house right now but we have to move out, and we found a place but how are we supposed to live together if we always have something to fight about.
2006-08-17 10:42:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Well it depends on how bad it is. It could be from the stress of living with his parents and having to move. See what happens after you've lived on your own for 3 or 4 months.
2006-08-17 10:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All depends on what you are arguing about..if you are both moving in together for the first time (other than his parents)..and it's the first time either have you have lived and paid rent/utilities/food/bills, etc...apart from at a parents home...you are both going to be under new stresses...that might add to an already combative situation. Make sure you have worked out already who pays what and when, etc...so that doesn't all become MORE to fight about...if you have that all worked out..and stick to it..both of you, then maybe it will ease up some..and perhaps was just living with the parents causing the tension...just be sure that the new place and bills doesn't replace the old tensions with new ones.
2006-08-17 17:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of moving in together, you should try living on you're own for a while. You can still be his girlfriend, but live on your own. See how things play out. Maybe it's stressful living in his parents house, and that's what's causing all the arguements.
If nothing changes maybe you should reconsider being with him. It makes no sense to be with someone that you're constantly fighting with especially if it's over stupid things. It'll just be easier once the arguing stops.
2006-08-17 17:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by baddest_ladybug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In every relationship there is always something to fight about, petty things or not. But that’s the beauty of having a relationship, the kiss and make up is always the best part. Just don’t rush in getting married, see what happens after living together for months
2006-08-17 17:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try living together in your own place. A lot of times people stress when living with family and that may be a cause of tension between you guys. Talk to him. Once that pressure of having others around all the time is lifted you guys will have the opportunity to be open with each other and that should help you out!
2006-08-17 17:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by DispatchGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you should be looking for greener pastures.
It's not worth it, you don't realize it now but you don't have to compromise. There is someone out there who will love you EXACTLY just the way you are no matter what. You don't have to bicker, no one even likes to be around people who bicker all the time. No one thinks you are happy or is happy for you even in the good times and the bad times are really awful.
I suggest you look for the book:
TOO GOOD TO LEAVE? TOO BAD TO STAY?
at the moment I can't remember who wrote it. Tannen? But it is a book that asks a series of self searching questions about you and your relationship and then it gives you the percentage of people who were in the same or similar situation and whether they were HAPPIER staying or leaving.
Do you want to be happier?
2006-08-17 20:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by communion6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that you'll be HAPPY with him? living together? Do you really love him? If you're not sure, then you guys can live separately and wait for one more year till you live together.
I thought i really really love this guy even when I was fighting almost everyday. but eventually it got worse, and he cheated on me because he was not happy with me. if you really love each other, you won't fight so much.... small things get bigger later.
i realized it after 5 years, and it hurts me A LOT!!
2006-08-17 17:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by makerunanrk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound slike me and mine after 4 years...still fighting, it never stopped and everyday I question if its worth it. well I know its not.
but ur case can be different cuz everyone fights...its just stress and frustration.... as long as he isnt abusive.... it could just be frustration over living with the family... and when u get own space it may dissipate.
if not, then youll know.
ive known along time but in my case... I found out he has bipolar disorder and tried to be supportive for a long while..... but , like they said on Oprah...... if the ship IS sinking... dont go down with it!!!
its at the point where it affected me far too much to be worth it.
2006-08-17 17:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by safarlsun33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my boyfriend are the same way! Girl its something about guys that they have to feel right! But, im not sayinin give in everytime just kinda be like okay yeah uh huh or sit him down and tell him how you feel that you dont want this to end up down the drain! You love him and you dont want to fight any more!!!
2006-08-17 17:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things may get better when you don't have his parents looking over your shoulder. Give it a few months, then if things don'tget better, call YOUR parents and ask if you can move back home until you can afford your own apartment.
2006-08-17 17:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋