She has always fantasized about having 2 men at once,should I go along with it?
2006-08-17 10:42:11 · 24 answers · asked by Tom S 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Introducing a relationship to polygamy is fraught with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundamental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality.
2006-08-18 19:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should ..... if you are schit stupid! You are at the cusp of a very dangerous thing! First you are toying around with the dark side of OTBT (Off The Beaten Trail). Not a good place to be. Second, you are going to be rolling aorund with your "pepe" out and about and the other guuy's "pepe" out and about...that's too many ***** out in the open. That sounds like you're asking direections to "broke back mountain". Third you are going to have some guy (who may be bigger than you) slamming your wife. Go into the bathroom and take a good hard look into the mirror. Ask yourself if this is really what you want.
I think that she has disrespected you even by asking for he "extra". She's not happy with you sexually. If she wanted to have an orgy then she should have done it before she settled down.
If you don't have kids with this woman then you need to dump her. Because once she walks across that road she won't ever come back...not completely. You'll always be wondering when you're banging her if she's thinnking about you or that one time (maybe one time....maybe more).
Now if you're doing this so you can get her to do a 3some with a chick...well then your marriage is doomed. You might as well get out of it. The time for experimentation was when you were in college or single. You're married and this would be so destructive to that marriage.
Sometimes we have to protect ourselves from ourselves.
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2006-08-17 11:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Well I've had 3somes with my hubby and another women and a 3some with a man. My hubby was jealous over the man but I wasnt over the women. Its personal preference. Dont do it if you think you cant handle it. I must say its very exciting but some people just get too jealous. Personally, it makes our sex life even better. We dont have 3-somes with other men any more just the women which is fine to me cause taking care of 2 men is too much for me. Men just seem to have this issue over penis size for some reason so god help if the other guy is bigger. Women dont seem to get jealous over other women as long as the man shows equal attention to both. I'm not a jealous person and I enjoy watching my hubby with other women but thats just me. Good luck
2006-08-17 12:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by adatude4u 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Tell her that you want another woman in a threesome first and she can pick the woman. Tell her after that you will find some guy for her fantasy.
If she doesn't like the arrangement, then she might already be sleeping with some other guy.
2006-08-17 11:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tyler Durdin 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well if you do this be prepared for the fact that this fantasy can get carried away right along with your marriage if she decides to run off with the other man. HIGHLY don't recommend this if you want to maintain any semblence of a marriage. We all have fantasies but a decent person can control these impulses. Good luck.
2006-08-17 10:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Would you expect her to go along with it if you wanted a threesome with another woman?
2006-08-17 10:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd do anything for my wife........but not this. No, never, uh uh. Just imagine a hairy butt in your bed that's not yours. Oh, the misery. Here's another option, set her up with two other guys while you go to a game or bar with your friends...if you can handle that mental mind blow of always thinking of her with other men. Either way, Good luck!
2006-08-17 11:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It all depends on if you are comfortable doing that for her...
Ask her if should could return such a favor for you.... And if you are the type to get jealous I don't recommend it!!! Cause it sucks!!!
2006-08-17 11:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
only if youre comfortable with it. if youre not comfortable with it then i dont suggest u do it because it will haunt you forever. you will be wondering if he was better. on the other hand, if it doesnt bother you, you could always milk the situation and compromise with her by tellin her that if she gets her fantasy fulfilled that you would have to have one of yours fulfilled too
2006-08-17 10:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by theelementgod 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating. A threesome is cheating. It's also wrong and will be the beginning of the end of your trust of one another. She's basically asking your permission to be unfaithful.
2006-08-17 11:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋