Should I Change for a Boy???

Question

I am 13 and I like this boy.He said I would have tol lose weight for him or lose weight for myself???

Answer 1

NEVER. Never change for anyone.

Answer 2

HELL NO DONT EVER CHANGE FOR A GUY, that said if your weight is high enough for it to be a health problem then yes I would lose some weight, but not to get some boy to like me, however if he was actually thinking like a grown up here and said to lose weight because he doesnt want to date an unhealthy girl that could be a little different, but I'm guessing the boy doesnt want to date a "fat chick" which by the way I was 265 in high school and never got any dates, I lost 100 lbs when I was in early 20's and all the boys wanted me then hahaha, so any guy who demands you lose weight to date him is not woth your time at all hunny!

Answer 3

I do not think that you should lose weight FOR a boy. If you are medically over weight and YOU want to become healthy; then you should change. However, If you are only thirteen, I would not worry about losing weight. Your body is still changing and you may still be dropping baby fat. You should never let a guy tell you how to treat your own body. He's a boy, he doesn't know what a woman's body is like. Make sure you know your own body before you let other people try to tell you what to do with it.

Answer 4

Never change for him, only for yourself.

This is the problem of dating at an early age. You should be pursuing personal interests in things, not in people. Figure out who you are. Volunteer at the theater putting together sets or volunteer at an animal shelter, walking dogs. Do something and find out more about you. The earlier you make boys the priority, the less chance you will become a solid individual as a person with your own interests.

Too many young girls date early and start on the path to losing themselves to boys. I saw it happen to my twin when I was a kid. She dated very young and has never had personal interests. She's only ever had the interests of the person she's dating. One was into Sci-Fi, the next Hunting. She didn't like any of it but didn't know what else to do because she spent her whole life being supportive of another person's interest and trying to change for that person. She's been married several times and changes jobs constantly. It's not a pretty life.

It's not worth it. You can like the boy but believe me, you are are more interesting individual than you give yourself credit for. When you become a strong individual with your own pursuits, then you are at your most attractive no matter what your body looks like. You don't want a boyfriend who you have to change to suit. You want the boyfriend who will appreciate you for the unique person you are!

Answer 5

okay- honey
If you EVER ask that question, then you must move on!
Be a wise and self assured young woman.

At 13-20, The environment really effects you emotionally. Trust your own heart and "gut" feelings. Take hope in your spiritual life. You will find the right man when its time.

Write these saying on all the things in your room, locker and books.
Shakespeare~ To thine own self be true.

My Life motto~ Live each moment of your life with out regret and when you look back at past situations, you will have confidence that you made the best choice at that point in life. No anger, guilt or pain is worth it. Rise above and others will follow or fall away.

Answer 6

You're only 13, you have a lot of challenges and changes ahead of you, you will meet more guys as you move on through life. If this boy likes you, he will accept you the way you are. If he is not content with how you look right now, he will never be....what's next...asking you to go for a breast enlargement or reduction? He will always come up with reasons to try to change you and if you don't do it...he will threaten to leave you...but you know what? If you can no longer please him the way he WANTS you to.... he is out the door!

Answer 7

If you are happy with your weight do not lose it!
he sounds like a pig and you deserve better than that.
the only person that should ever tell you to lose weight is your doctor and if he/she says so its for your health. dont go by these "celebrities" either.
I'm a size 10 (clebrities are size 6/8),australian sizes are differant, compared to them I'm over weight but compared what is actually true I'm still slightly underweight. Beauty is inside. Dont change for any male (or female for that matter).

Answer 8

I don't agree that you probably need to lose weight. Young girls are too hard on themselves and have unrealistic body expectations. Eat healthy food, get fresh air and exercise and do not worry about your weight! Also do not worry about boys yet. You have your whole life ahead of you - have fun being a kid for a few more years.

Answer 9

You should never change for someone else. And even if you do lose weight for yourself, and he wants you, you shouldn't take him, because he's a total jerk to want you to change. He should like you the way you are, which I'm sure is great.

Answer 10

Baby.... never change who you are for someone else... ultimately you have to be happy and changing 4 a boy will never even come close to making you happy... are you happy with your weight? if so then dont even bother with him... if you are not happy with your weight do something about it for yourself not for some guy that probably wont even be in the picture in 6 months..Good luck, im sure you will make the right decision

Answer 11

Ick. I hate overuse of sarcasm. :/ It's not even funny.

To answer the question. No. Don't because if you're fat everybody thinks of you as "the fat girl" and, that won't change. He'd be too embarassed to go out with you even if you did loose weight. If you really want to loose weight, loose it all then change schools. Never mention about how fat you were to anyone you talk to there.