My questions are many actually, but I will start with this. He said: we just aren't compatible anymore...help!

Question

We are having issues. My BF says he should have dumped me along time ago, but then says I am the girl he see's marrying in the future. He says he is not happy with his life, and he is not happy with me. He feels we are not compatible anymore and that he is not getting enough attention and is neglected. He said he is jealous of my life, because he feels he only gets to work and not enjoy life, while I stay at home, and yet I clean everyday, cook dinner, do the laundry and study about relationships to try to fix this. Also we have sex twice a day if not more. Sometimes it is not satisfying to him and he feels he has to resort to porn, if he feels he didn't get want he wanted from me. He has been saying that he doesn't want to be veiwed as controlling or an asshole but is convinced that this is what I tell my friends, this is also NOT true. He told me he feels I am spending more time on my intrestes then quality time with him, and yet we spend time together everynight. this came out today

Answer 1

you should tell your friends exactly that, because he's miserable and expects the same of you...sounds like he's a little jealous too and has much, relationship issues. i think your devoting a lot of time to someone that does not have your interest @ heart...step back and look at the real picture....and you will see

Answer 2

it sounds like he is jealous and trying to get attention.. yes he sounds immature, but at the same time read between the lines... he is acting out *because* there is something wrong in the relationship. but he thinks u are the one!!? therefore u need to communicate w/ him. thoroughly. figure out first, what do u expect from urself as a girlfriend? what do u expect from him as a boyfriend? and what do u expect from the relationship? now, ask him what he expects from himself, from you, and from the relationship? if u have similar goals, you are on the right track and will be able to at least *try* to fix it. but if things are extremely different, different expectations, and u cannot come to a compromise, most likely u are headed to a dead end.

now it sounds to me that he feels neglected....and although u don't understand why because u spend evenings w/ him and have sex more than twice a day, it could be a mental/emotional connection, not just physical. are there things u can share with him, so that he doesnt' feel left out? is it a time issue, where he's at work and of course u need other things to do, and he wants to control your fun? depending on what u guys communicate on, figure out what u are expecting from eachother, and if i'ts doable to compromise. i mean, if he wants u to sit home bored and wait for him and Then have fun, it's hardly fair. but if just wants u to talk w/ him more, and interact w/ him more when he gets home, or if u call him once in awhile at work, maybe that will help him feel more secure.

u need to make sure you are satisfying him Mentally, Emotionally, and Physically. and u have to make sure He satisfies You Mentally, Emotionally, and Physically. that way, as u work on trusting eachother and growing the relationship, you will be able to discuss and talk about anything and everything that is going wrong....and be happy about the things going right! but it takes effort, and it takes work. but not bad work; it's the kind that makes u appreciate the other person MORE because it's worth it to you to keep it going. if it becomes not worth it for you, u will start thinking u can do better, or want to break up, etc. try hard if u love him, to give him and you a chance to work on things. but if u try, and feel that u can't commit to him, or he can't commit to you, then u both need to move on and find people who will make you WANT to commit and compromise and grow together. good luck~ it's important to seek out positive, healthy things in your life. make sure u are the best girlfriend u can be, and if that's not good enough for him, then u need to find someone who it Will be good enough for.

Answer 3

Girl, I would have dumped him a long time ago. Tell him that you have grown to a different level and he know longer is needed.

Answer 4

He needs to grow up. How old are you? Anyways if he wants to break up with you let him go. Do not hold on to someone who does not want to be with you.