Are women aware that what men want in a woman for dating and what they want in a woman for marrying...?

Question

are different? How do you ever know when to be which?

Answer 1

No, most women find out the HARD way.

Answer 2

I disagree. I think the women men want to date are the ones they eventually want to marry. Maybe you mean the type of women men only want for a booty call? I wouldn't call taking a girl out with the main goal of banging her "dating."

It is true that some guys have one type of women they like to screw around with, and another type they get serious about. I think most women realize these different male desires exist. It is the same way for women. I remember the sleazy, dumb, but totally hot character "Paulo" on FRIENDS. He was a one-night stand kind of guy, not the marrying type.

I also think most women don't try to be one way or the other. You are what you are. Lots of women are wild, and enjoy being adventurous and free. The men they sleep with are booty calls for them, as well. Other women are kind of made to be wives, and that just comes across in their personalities. Women who are trying to predict what a man wants, and then changing their personalities to fit that don't ever seem to be too happy with their love lives.

I think this question underestimates what women value. Most women are not concerned about becoming what a man wants. Life gets too busy, and trying to spend a good portion of it acting out a fantasy for a male is unrealistic.

Answer 3

Women are aware of it but many do not understand why it is not the same, just as much as Men are aware of the proper answer to the question; " Do I look fat in this?" or how men almost always get caught oogling at other women, but when women spy with their eyes 90% of the time, the guys would NEVER know :).... unless of course its Colin Farrell, Denzel Washington or Tom Cruise :)

Answer 4

It's not a matter of knowing which one to be. It's a matter of which guy will accept you for who you are.

You may not be appropriate, as a woman, for a casual relationship with one guy, but may be the perfect life partner for another.

If you want to get laid and party, you're the "dating" kind.

If you want to settle down, have a family, and be the other person's best friend, first and foremost, you are the marrying kind.

Guys look for a girl who's unwilling to commit if they don't want something serious. They look for a girl with the same values as theirs, amongst other things, when they reach a point where marriage is appealing.

Answer 5

As an only male in a family of 7 other females I can tell you that most women are not forwarned that most males categorize females into several groups... just buds/friends, hot momma's to get laid, sexy yet very pretty things to hang on to ya (dates), the marrying kind, hoes & prostitutes. None of these can ever carry a stick to your mother. Though the one you marry should come close & should also be a mate/friend. But as a defender of my sisters... I take on the courtesy to illuminate them to us slogs of the male persuasion. In my opinion, us guys do take advantage of innocent females not aware of our shortcommings. As the male figures in their lives have not forwarned them of our gender wiring, which is most definitely different behaviour than that of a female. So, with my siblings keeping me in check, I've learned to be respectful, & definitely be upfront as to what I want, how I think, let them know I'm just being honest & hope they're on the same page as me. If not... what ever type I'm looking for I move on & not disappoint the woman by pushing her to be something she's not, by not playing any games & make her feel like she's the problem, because I give mixed signals, & most important I'm honest to where I'm at in my love life, & if that means NOT READY TO SETTLE DOWN, then I feel better knowing I've laid all my cards out & she can make her own choice to be with me or not, cause there's lotsa babe's in the world whom I'd like to meet! Lesson: Just be honest of what you want & who you are!

Answer 6

I just broke up with a guy that thought i was great dating material, but not marriage material. His excuse was that I was the right girl at the wrong time. I can't wait to read honest answers from men.

Answer 7

I don't think anyone knows how a relationship is going to turn out from the beginning. You date, have some fun, it goes nowhere. You date, have some fun, and decide that you want to know more about this person, it continues to go well, commitment looms.

Answer 8

Women know everything. no, Both are the same the only difference is time

Answer 9

I just be myself, an if they like me then they will want to be with me, I'm no booty call, and if that is what a guy looks for in dateing I'm not interested

Answer 10

Women are smart like that. We have the ability to be either or both whenever we want, and with whom we want. We're versatile.....we can be whatever we want to be.