my problem is that I am very deep and -even though I look tough - it is very easy for me to feel hurt, especially form the ones I love. For example, when my girlfriend says she doesn't answer my calls sometimes as she knows what I might say, I feel really hurt. When my students say: "I didn't like today's lesson, because it was too hard", I am in despair. Not to mention, when my friends tell me: "I don't feel like talking right now, call me tomorrow".
I am 25, very fit, people think I'm really tough and everything, which makes my problem even worse...
What shall I do?
2006-08-17 09:47:24 · 9 answers · asked by adam 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
Find things you like to do for you.It really feels good to do things on your own sometimes. If your girlfriend doesn't want to talk, don't let it ruin your day. If you are really serious about her, don't cheat, but who's to say you cant go out alone sometimes. Lol, hearing that you are going out without her, she will probly start seeing you more;). Tell your students that you felt they needed a challenge, and they will appreciate it when they get older;). Good luck
2006-08-17 09:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by ralahinn1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to learn to be more tough and not take everything your loved ones tell you to heart. if your girlfriend didn't call she must have a pretty good reason for not calling. She might be trying to avoid any confrontation with you. She's not rejecting you.
If your students say that today's lesson is hard ,it might very well be. Maybe you have to elaborate on that next time. at least they are being honest and not attacking your teaching skills. they are referring to the lesson.
when your friends don't want to talk to you right then, they might have a a good reason- for not wanting to talk about it.
Recently, i had surgery, and i told this guy that i'm in pain and doesn't feel like talking to anybody. He subsequently bombarded me with a lot of calls which i ignored. it got to a point he became a pest and i told him so. now he's mad.
you see what i mean. it's not really you that your friends mean to ignore you. the problem lies in the receiving end. Don't be too serious. Life's too short and you'll never get out of this life alive.
2006-08-17 10:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by rosieC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to have "those type of friends" I use to think they were my friends. Then I realized all they wanted to do was what they wanted to do and nothing what I wanted to do. Friendship is a 2 way street. Not a one way. If they can't take the time to help you can listen to you ever. They are not worth keeping as friends.
As for the kids. i'm not sure. I wonder if they are even paying attention to the lesson in the first place. Some kids need things explained 2 different ways. I know I did when I was in school.
2006-08-17 11:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost,NO ONE can MAKE you feel anything. WE are in charge of our emotions and it is how WE interpret a situation that makes us feel the way we do. So..... when you ask, "how can I try not to let people hurt me" remember, it is not they that are hurting you, it is YOU that doesn't like the incoming stimuli and choosing to be hurt by it. SOOoooooo, if you are as tough as you say,get some back bone and confidence and unless it is something that is so earth shattering that it is going to change your life, just let it go. Pretty simple, eh?
mb
2006-08-17 09:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its the way you were made and people should just accept that you are someone who's very sensitive, besides, the world needs people like you who are going to be sensitive to the little things in life and issues such as the plight of the poor and the victims of warfares etc, so don't say its a problem, its just something unique about you
2006-08-20 20:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to be tougher and not let things get to you so bad like they say even the hardest rock crumbles so even though we act tough we are all humans.
2006-08-20 13:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by just_plain_homely73701 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to toughen up. So, your friends don't have time for you, find something else to do. Sounds like you need a new girlfriend as well. I wish you well. If this persists, why not seek some help? Maybe you have depression.
2006-08-17 09:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's as you typed..."Let them hurt me". Granted your friends (Do friends act like this to true friends?) are rude and insensitive, but is the student's opinion really that important? Is he/she saying that because it really was too hard or because he/she didn't want to do it? Students don't need teachers that want to be friends. Have you told your "friends" that their behavior is hurtful?
2006-08-17 09:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive them, they didn't mean to hurt you, don't take things so personally...
2006-08-17 13:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by angelus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋