And if so what would you do about it? I'm 24 i'm getting married next month he is 47. The people i work with ( i've only been here 6 months) are always saying little things about us. like i'm marrying him for money (which is not true) they have made bets on how long it will last and it just really hurts me. we have beent together 2 years and he is my best friend. They treat me like i'm a child the thing is i don't acted my age most of my friends are in there late 30's or 40's. I would like to say something to these people to make it stop, but it just seems like it makes it worse
Help!!!!!!!
2006-08-17 09:46:52 · 56 answers · asked by prettygirl5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
SAY WHATEVER IS ON YOUR MIND PUT THOSE **** TALKERS IN THIER PLACE
2006-08-17 09:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough! I am in a 15 year difference relationship, only I am the older one. I am almost 50. We, like you, really get along good but I just hate being the older of the two. We have never spoken about the future and so I commend you on giving that commitment. It is very hard to say "forever". I have also been on the other end of it too and I wouldn't have married the older man because of the age difference. You just have to make your own decisions whether it be a mistake or the best thing. Who knows???? You... only you can decide. Just let the talk run off you, people talk and that's just a fact of life.
2006-08-17 10:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by wyoredhd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 25 I married someone 13 years older than me. Everyone warned me against it, and turned out they were right. I wish you all the best, but I have to say there are so many factors against you. Just all those little points of reference like music, tv shows, political and cultural events at various points in your respective lives. So many things that were absolutely different in your two worlds. But maybe you'll beat the odds. I certainly hope so.
If the two of you are really happy together and on equal footing, not functioning as father-daughter or otherwise parent-child, then don't worry what everyone else says! The only one who really knows how you feel is YOU!!!. Don't worry about making them stop. They can't help seeing things through their own eyes, and they may have points that are valid for themselves and people they've known in the past. But you and your fiancé are the ones who really matter here and now for you as a couple.
Good luck and all the best in life to you!
2006-08-17 09:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by Muddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK take it from a 27 year old married to a 44 year old, I know how that feels. In fact our song is" You're Still The One". Nobody thought we would made it. We have been married for 2 1/2 years and just as happy as we were when we were dating. We have 2 beautiful daughter together. i wouldn't trade this life for the world.I just laughed when people told us things. Who cares what they think, if you are happy together to hell with everyone else's opinion, that's just what it is an opinion. Your the one who will be laughing in 10 years when you are still married. Congrats.
2006-08-18 09:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by ♥mommy of 4♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when I decided I wanted to marry my husband, who at the time was 25. I got so much grief from people that were the closest to me. They said I would go to hell if I married him, they said it would only last a year, etc. Well, we proved them wrong. We now have a beautiful little girl and he's got a great job so I can stay home with her. Be strong and if y'all love each other stick it out. It'll make you stronger in the end. As for approaching them about it, I wouldn't. Because then it just makes you look all defensive. Just smile and nod and call your fiance and tell him how much you love him!!!! Congratulations!!!
2006-08-17 09:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Niki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why there is a difference between co-workers and friends. It would be nice if they could be true colleagues and be happy for you on your joyous occasion. But let's be realistic about this, you've only worked there for six months. How well do they really know him - or you for that matter? Unhappy people will always gossip about the lives of others to make their humdrum lives seem less dull. Let them have their fantasies. A happy marriage will be the best revenge.
2006-08-17 09:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Vickage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
23 years, huh? Wow. When your 47, he'll be 70! If you look at it from that perspective (like they are) can you see what they mean? Although I absolutely agree with you that it is NONE of their business, and they should NOT make you feel bad about your life decisions. Age is only one factor. What about the woman who married the womanizing alcoholic, or the guy who married the sexually deviant sl*t? You would never judge them on that. You would keep it to yourself. Crazy people!
2006-08-17 09:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be quite honest, a lot of women who marry men twice their age are doing it purely for the money.
that does not mean all do it!!!
so if you are one of the minority and you do really love this guy, then why should their catty comments bother you? Its your life, just ignore them.
but I would like to say one thing that you may/may not have thought about.
by the time you are 40 he will be 63 a very old man, and you will have to be very prepared that he will die a long time before you do, since men have a shorter life span(which is another reason why young women marry older men)
good luck to you, if it is for real
2006-08-17 09:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by paul_heilbron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married to a man who is 22 years older than me! I'm 35 and he is 58. We've been together for 7 years and they have been some of the best years of my life! People always tell me hes too old, he's this and that! I love this man so much I got to a point where I stopped listening to what THEY thought was best for me.
If these people were your friends, they would be happy for you instead of giving you a hard time about it! STOP listening to them and listen to our heart! Tell them that they don't know what they are talking about and to shut up if they don't approve!
Its your life and you love whom you love!!
2006-08-17 09:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by redirishactress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you shouldn't have to explain yourself, let alone your relationship with anyone.It's no ones business on why or what reason you guys are getting married. the best thing to dois to ignore them, cause by getting angry you'll only give them more to talk about. Besides as long as your in love no ones opinion counts not even your own parents. So just go on with your life and hey **** the world!
2006-08-17 09:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by chex_1r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, If you are happy then who gives a sh*t as to wht the others think or say?
They do not matter.
If you decide that you want to stop it then tell them how you feel and then tell them all to f*ck off.
It is your life and you are content and to hell with anyone that gets in the way of that.
I wish you the best of luck and congrats on the upcomming wedding.
2006-08-17 09:52:37 · answer #11 · answered by Biker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋