I have developed strong feelings for my doctor. He has also been flirting with me but has not discussed his feelings with me. I can tell that he wants me to open up first due to him being my doctor. The kicker is that we are both married.
He and I spend the whole appointment flirting and touching innocently. We share sexual jokes and people have already been saying that we are having an affair.
I am scared to approach him as maybe this is a game to him. He won't wear his ring around me or if he does it is on the right hand. He touches me and gets close to me and basically gives me the suggestive eye. He always gives me intense eye contact which sometimes makes me uncomfortable. I don't know what I should do.
I know I should talk to him about this but don't know how. I love my husband and that is why this is so confusing. I want to continue seeing him even if I can't have him any other way.
What should I do??????
2006-08-17 09:19:40 · 17 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He should have told you that it was inappropriate for him to
be your doctor any more, as it represented a conflict of interest.
He is ethically obligated to do that if he has feelings for you.
You are not ethically obligated to do it, but I suggest that
you find another doctor - you will get better (more objective) care.
I would tell your current doctor that you think you have feelings
for him and that you would like another one simply to ensure
that your medical care is professional.
If he is interested, he should wait a little while, and come talk
to you. You can certainly tell him to do so, but you cannot
continue to be his patient while seeing him.
It is unethical up the wazoo.
2006-08-17 09:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Elana 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't even walk down that road. Men always flirt,shamelessly at that. You made a vow in front of a hell of alot of people(most likely) to be with your husband forever. Why trade momentary happiness for someone you've been with for quite some time,whose been there for you,through thick and thin.
By you encouraging him,it just makes him flirt even more. Most likely he is flirting with more women then you. Safe yourself the grief and embarassment and don't even try to play that game. If you have children for the sake of them and your marriage get a new doctor. For all its worth saying,your children will have less respect for you because they will see you as a cheater and what values do cheaters have?
You should go to your doctors appointments and come home and be the wife you have been,and give up on this fantasy.
2006-08-17 09:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your husband, you won't wound him to the core, or disrespect him, or humiliate him, or destroy your marriage by cheating on him. Would you want him to do that to you?
Instead, you'll change doctors ASAP. Then you'll talk with your husband and figure out why you feel this way, e.g. why your emotional needs are not being met within the relationship. Work on that, and these stray feelings will not be a problem. See a marriage counselor if you believe it will help. (It almost certainly will.)
The bottom line here is that you need to re-establish your relationship with your husband. Ask him out. Date him. Seduce him. Plan the future. Marry him again. The article below may help.
BTW, your doctor is very much at fault here. He is trained in medical school to deal with this sort of situation. It is his job to recognize the situation and diffuse it. To do otherwise is unethical on his part. You may want to consider that in evaluating his character.
2006-08-17 09:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy...get another doctor! You shouldn't be messing around when your both married, your just going to hurt everyone around you. Besides maybe your looking too hard into the situation. Maybe what you think is flirting is just his way of being nice.
2006-08-17 09:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find yourself another doctor. What your physician is doing is unethical. It is quite normal to have feelings for your doctor. Many people have these same feelings because doctors are caregivers. It is not normal to act on those feelings. Both of you are married. You are playing with fire - STOP before you get burned.
2006-08-17 09:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what you should do? I think you better go to a psychologist. By the way, your doctor is playing head games with you, it gives his ego a boost. How many times do you go to the doctor anyways? You must have great medical coverage.
2006-08-17 09:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what you should do, you just don't want to face it. Get a new doctor NOW if you love your husband and want to stay faithful in your marriage. This is a no brainer.
2006-08-17 09:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, I have been attracted to my new doctor the minute he walked into the room, his eyes, his eyes are just like staring into heaven. But sadly unlike you, I haven't noticed any hints that he was attracted to me. I wouldn't tell him if I were you and just keep enjoying the sexual tension.
2006-08-17 09:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless both of you want a divorce, you need to get a new doctor...and fast!
2006-08-17 10:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by ajy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOOOOOOOOOOOPS, you may wanna leave that alone. DO not walk down that road, it is very dangerous. You are married my dear, you vowed to forsake all others and cling only to your husband. Remember your vows my dear, don't forget them.
2006-08-17 09:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by sassy_sexy_honey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋