my parents are seperated and they dont get along so how would you deal with tring to tell them what parent you want to live with when they try to put you on a "Guilt Trip"
2006-08-17 09:08:47 · 17 answers · asked by Lovey dovey cuddlekins 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
every time i say somthing about wanting to be treated better than like a outcast becuze they dont want anyone to kno anything they say"its not a compitition but thats how they act"
2006-08-17 09:31:51 · update #1
tried to tell my dad i wanted to go with my mom and he called my grandmother@12&kept me up And had her in tears
2006-08-17 09:38:18 · update #2
you just tell them. period.
they are wrong for putting you on a guilt trip and i'm sorry that they have stooped to that level.
the bright side...at least they both love you and want you to be with them!
i would recommend living with the one you want to live with more during the school year, then the one you don't want to live with as much during the summer. or vice versa.
summer and school year is a good way to split the kid.
my friend does this with her first son and it works out well. she misses him in the summer, but it's only 2-3 months, so they manage. plus, it gives him time to bond with his dad and that side of his family.
good luck darlin and don't let your parents drag you into their mess. it's not fair of them and feel free to tell them that.
i just hope that they realize what they're doing before they hurt you too much.
take care.
2006-08-17 09:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are not going to hate you deep down no matter what you do. The best thing for you to do is listen to what your heart is telling you to do on the inside. Don't give in to one or the other because they are telling you that's what you should do. You are the one that is going to have to live with your decision the rest of your life. Do what you think is right.
2006-08-24 11:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation when my parents split. I told my mom that I wanted to live with my dad but she wouldn't let me and my dad didn't want to sue her for me. Just tell your parent how you feel and you feel like you might be happier living with the other parent. It may or may not go your way, but y ou should at least try. Good luck.
2006-08-17 16:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by curious_maya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reverse the tactic and tell them that they need to act like an adult and not play guilt trips on you. You have the right to choose, and they should support you in your choice, even if they don't like it. Get a neutral 3rd party (pastor, counselor, etc. to help).
2006-08-17 16:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Charles B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest with both parents as to how you feel. Regardless of which parent has their feelings hurt. I say this because my oldest son just left me yesturday to live with his father. for months he wanted to. But my son caught the neighbors hay bales on fire and cited for reckless burning he did it because he was in trouble for distruction of public property. He was over at neighbors pulling weeds. He decided he did not wnat to so he lit fire. He was told he was grounded to his roomuntil the state sent him to court. 2 weeks later and a 3 day camping tri p he decides he dont wnat to be grounded to the room so he treated me real bad until I smacked him for backtalking I shook his head and that day he told his councelor and she had to report to DHS. He then came home and told me what he said to her and that he want to live with dad so I let him go. He treats me like a personal punching bag walks all over me and I get in trouble for smacking him after he yells and cusses at me. Had he not been in trouble I would have let him go when he said. Had he just talked about his worries and fears of his dad and I spliting up we could have worked out arrangement s. So hun talk tothem both.
2006-08-24 03:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by reniebambie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if either one of your parents is moving far away from where you live now, decide if you'd rather stay where you are or move away. you're going to want friends to help you through this. either way, follow your heart. you sound old enough to make the decision on your own, and your parents will have to respect that decision.
2006-08-17 17:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by KatyBeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go with the one that you think would be the best parent. They shouldn't do that and you should tell them that you know what they are doing and that it is mean to do that to their own kid.
2006-08-17 16:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your hearts girl.. my parents are seperated too but I have no choice but to live with my mom!
2006-08-17 16:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try 2 make a deal i guess lyke u live wit 1 ofem then spend ur summer vacations wit the other
2006-08-24 20:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by --->*FaFa*<--- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pick the one that u trust and can talk to about anything w/o gettin yelled at or in trouble or u can go stay wit one visit the other one every other week your choice and its really not up to u to deceide dont yall got to go to court
2006-08-17 16:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by true boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋