been together for four years. at the moment i don't have a job and he just wants me out. he sent me to the hospital on a couple of occasions and i never reported him. is there any legal resource for me? i need a little time to find a job and a place.
2006-08-17 08:48:56 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he is the sole owner of the house or if his name is the only name on the lease, then yes. And, he can do it whenever he wants.
2006-08-17 08:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If the house in only in his name I think he can. If the two of you are renting I don't think he can make you leave.
If he has sent you to the hospital you have another option. I know that it's not the best option but you can call the domestic violence hot-line and they will let you and your son stay at a domestic violence shelter. Some of these shelters are wonderful but others are not so good so be careful. They will (should) help you find a job and an apartment. I don't know what the number is in your area but if you call any social service office or police department they can give you the telephone number. I don't believe you need to file any sort of report against your boyfriend in order to be able to use the shelter. Give them a call it can't hurt - then just use your own best judgment. keep in mind once you leave it's doubtful he will let you back in even for your things so make sure you take everything with you.
2006-08-17 09:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a restraining order on him, but first you need to find a place for you and your child. Talk with your local police department, and perhaps a local church. Most often, a church would put you and your child up for a few nights in a hotel. once you are away from your boy friend, you do not need to contact him for anything, even if you left something at the house, consider it a lost and move as far away from him as possible. save yourself and your child. your medical records is proof enough, that your were abused.
more than likely, you told a different story at the hospital and didn't make a police report. don't worry a lot of women do this out of fear.
Go, leave now.
2006-08-17 09:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by WOODSAK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get out of the house before your so-called boyfriend does anything more to you or your son. There are shelters in really any town for women in your situation. Ask your doctor, church, police, welfare office...anything. As for legal resources, I'm not sure. You didn't report the abuse, so there is no reports. You'd strictly be going on your word against his. Get out. Go to a friends house. Staying with him will only continue the cycle and do great damage to your son.
2006-08-17 08:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a D***H*** you should be glad to be away from. You may need time to find a job, and a place, but where you are now isn't the place to be while you are trying to do that. I urge you to locate a Women's shelter in your area. They can, and will help you until you can get your act together. But from what I can tell, neither you or your son are really safe there.
Not to mention the head games this kind of situation is playing with your son. It could easily be teaching him that women are suppose to be treated that way because you are staying and putting up with it. Is that REALLY the lesson you want him to be learning?
2006-08-17 09:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about your situation, but honey wake up and smell the coffee, you said the magic word HIS house! He can do whatever he chooses to do, even thought it ain't right. When he sent you to the hospital the first time you would've reported him, that way you have something to fall back on. Baby girl there are plenty of shelters around to help battered women with children used them. You don't need him anyways if he put u and your son out in the streets like that. Call a battered women hot line, tell them your situation and they will help you. May God Bless You and your son.
2006-08-17 08:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by denisechocolateblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were with him before he brought the home, no. If after he can, but within a reasonable amount of time, which any judge would find in your favor because that is your living quarters. The reason he'd have to give you ample time to leave is because of common law marriage. After six months in most states you are considered to have a common law marriage if you can prove you have been living with a person sharing the same residents. Also, just as in marriage half of what the two of you built together can be divided by the court if he tries to take more than what is rightfully his.
2006-08-17 09:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by mrpuffandstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe this is what they call a domestic case. In short, he can't legally kick you out. But if doesn't want you there he can make you feel uncomfortable. If you make him feel uncomfortable by staying, he may decide to not pay the bills anymore and then you'll all be skrewd. From this point of view, do you see why it's so important for you to find a job instead jumping on the internet looking for strangers to help you with your problems?
2006-08-17 08:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by Spirit-X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to a lawyer....before you go anywhere.
After you have some legal advice then you can leave. You don't want to be in a situation where you or your son will be physically harmed.
You have rights as his common law spouse for the past 4 years. Too bad you didn't call the police and then there would be a record.
Good Luck!!
2006-08-17 08:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not on the lease or deed then I don't think there's anything you can do. Besides, why would you leave your son and yourself in a situation that could lead to another hospital visit, not just for you, but for your child. Get out, there are resources for battered women, use them.
2006-08-17 08:55:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends what state you live in, but in some states if you live together for I think it is like 3 months it is a common law marriage and he can not kick you out. If I were you I would report him and get him locked up for a while and you can have the place to yourself. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
2006-08-17 08:57:55 · answer #11 · answered by Daxzakk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋