plz give reasonable answers.i will give a presentaion. i need to know what u think.
2006-08-17 08:48:35 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
There are a few people in life who have this problem. They don't recognise that they are invading your space or the gap that makes you feel safe in conversation. If you carry on moving away they will persist in getting closer to close the gap. These people are insecure and seek some degree of initmacy as they speak.
The key thing here is that they desire to be heard and that what they have to say is important. When you move away unless you indicate otherwise these people who have this insecurity recognise the movement as a invitation to follow and get closer or that you have judged what they have said as unimportant.
So what is the correct thing to do, how do you indicate that all is well and you would rather converse at a safe distance for comfort?
I'd start by saying that you have no trouble hearing what they have to say, and ask, "do you have a problem hearing"? Then you establish the distance you like to converse at, arms length say or on the opposite side of a table. At a bus stop place your briefcase or bag between. If this person insists on leaning very close - you will have no choice but to be up front.
"Excuse me but I don't like having a conversation with someone in my face". This may result in an immediate apology during which he or she will start to coverse normally. If the problem occurs again within minutes this person has emotional and psychological problems.
Good luck with your presentation. I believe there are books about human behaviourial studies, spatial psychology, learnt and practiced behaviourial and psychiatric disorders, social psychology in libraries. The Study of autism may have a few answers in relation to this.
As autistic sufferers grow up behind a wall of glass locked in a world of there own, when they mature they feel the need to become the glass.
2006-08-17 10:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by Nosey parker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sb= somebody? It varies within cultures and within settings. What is acceptable social space in American culture is not acceptable in Japanese culture, etc. Usually when a person's social space is invaded (being moved too close to) he will feel threatened and try to retreat or move away from the other person or persons. If that doesn't work, he will eventually say something, politely or rudely, depending upon the cultural setting.
2006-08-17 16:11:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ariel 128 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I'll answer what I think you're asking - I just back up a couple times, but if it doesn't stop, I just call a time out and say, "You have got to get out of my bubble, man. You are tooooo close, here!"
Sometimes I'll actually move in closer when I respond and they usually back up a lot. Or maybe put a desk or something inbetween you.
2006-08-17 15:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sb (somebody)? if you have a pair of balls like me you usually say something, point in case: ever sat at the front of a bus and someone standing up sticks their but in your face ? i usually say "do you want to sit on my knee" if that doesn't shift them, they must be deaf hence too old and i stand up and offer my seat.(yes i was referring to a man).If you are in a pub i suppose alcohol plays its part by breaking down the barriers and inhibitions
people usually like to stay an arms length away (security ?)sincerely hope your presentation goes well,bw Terry
2006-08-17 16:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD!!! This guy at my job always does that. It bothers the hell out of me. I just keep backing up and keeps coming forward. he's crossed eyed too so it makes me really uncomfortable because I don't want to stare into his eyes, but he's so close, LOL. When you get an answer let me know.
2006-08-17 15:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huge invasion of personal space. Walking backwards usually makes your feelings clear
2006-08-17 15:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by woohoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep strong eye contact. If you want them to get close then let them, if not cross your arms and if they still don't get the hint tell them to back off. I'm not a backing off kinda person.
2006-08-17 15:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by azimouth4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My instinct would be to tell them to get out of my face. Most people would feel that because we all have our own personal space barriers, and when somebody breaks those we feel very defensive.
2006-08-17 15:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by JeffE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be a good slap depending on what sb means
2006-08-17 16:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by slim4josh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps if you learned to speak English you might get some answers.
2006-08-17 15:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋