2006-08-17 08:45:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'll tell you what not to do...Don't turn into one of those women who wrongfully keep the father away and then call him a dead beat in front of the baby. Why don't you let him come to see his child? It would seem that he wants to and what are you prepared to do when he doesn't want to? Or when he get with someone else and have a child with them and then you want your child to have his father's attention too. Bottom line is unless you have a good reason don't deprive a boy of his father. There are enough things and people (Gangs, jail, police, etc) that's doing that already.
LIVe, LOVe, LIFe, and LeARN!
PS. Don't listen to "Cupcake" that's a real bitter way of looking at it. A child is not a weapon to get even, nor a way to MAKE a failing relationship work. Hell she probaly got pregnant on purpose hoping it would change things. Two people can raise a child very well without having a relationship.
2006-08-17 08:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by Taz7705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you won't let the father see your child. If he's abusive or your worried about your childs safety, then ignore what people think and do what's best for your baby. If it's because you're trying to "get back at him" then you are 100% wrong. You should consider how many dead beat dads there are in the world and if this guy wants to be a part of his childs life, you should let him.
2006-08-17 15:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget what people say you make your own decisions. I'm in a situation like that and i feel that if the father really wanted to be near the child he would have tried to make the relationship work. And anyway he might have your child around another female and you know you dont want that. Just let him come by and visit but until u and him come to a good agreement then visits are all you should allow
2006-08-17 15:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a reason for not allowing your childs father to be with him? If you don't have a really good reason then yeah, I'm afraid you're wrong. Not only is it bad for the father, but your child will resent you if you try to keep them apart. Think of the big picture and many years down the road: isn't it just possible that you'll welcome the help, or the reprieve from the constant 100% responsibility? Wouldn't it be nice to have someone in your corner when your child is hitting the terrible two's the horrible teens, starting to drive, starting to date. I don't know anyone who thinks it's easier to do it alone, no matter what YOUR relationship is like...
2006-08-17 15:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a certain reason that you don't let his father come get him?If it's a good and plausible reason, maybe you should just tell your friends that and if they understand, great, and if they don't, it's fine. Why do you have to care what others say? All you need to care about is doing the right thing for your baby.
2006-08-17 15:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by LTD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well telling us why you dont let the babies father come and get him would have helped with my response.
2006-08-17 16:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends.
If the man is into child porn, molesting, or abusive then don't let him around. And you're right for protecting your child.
If on the other hand you just don't like him for whatever reason, then you are wrong for not letting him around.
2006-08-17 15:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by justanotheruser 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋