My boyfriend came home drunk three times this month. The last time was too much for me. As soon as he walked through the door I grabbed him as he stumbled toward the living room. I was able to over power him and I undid his pants and put him over my knee. I also pulled his underwear down and proceeded to spank his behind until he was actually crying like a baby. Was I wrong to do this and why did I enjoy it so much? Since then my bf has not come home drunk again. He also seems to have more respect for me now.
2006-08-17 08:41:57 · 48 answers · asked by linda 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Humm. Let me guess. You wear the pants in your relationship. If he was drunk i am sure it did nothing for him so that just comes under abuse.
If you were both sober and decided to spank the crap out of each other then I guess that is Okey Dokey but you abusing a drunk doesn't say a whole lot for you punkin especially if you got turned on by watching a grown man cry.
Whats it gonna be next week? You gonna dress him up in a diaper and cram a pacifier in his mouth and make him call you mama?
2006-08-17 08:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There could be a multitude of reasons why you enjoyed it.
The main reason I believe that you enjoyed it is the power that you felt over your bf. Normal society dictates that women are "supposed" to be submissive in everything. What is your personality like normally? If you are a quiet, shy girl, this was an outlet of your subconscious.
Another reason could be that you were tired of your bf's antics, and he allowed you to spank him. I say allowed because it sounded like he did not fight, argue or resist in anyway.
Either way, it sounds like you enjoyed the power that you wielded over your bf.
If I were you, since you enjoyed it so much, talk to your bf about the occurance. It sounds like he enjoyed it also. Or else he would have "forced" you to stop.
Ask him," Remember that night when you came home drunk...well I enjoyed it...can we try that again."
There's nothing wrong with you enjoying some naughty behavior. In fact, this will strengthen your relationship with your bf.
2006-08-17 09:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by ninety1pony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually this is physical abuse and u shoudln't have done it u should have talked with him while he wasn't drunk and tell him what you think but now u can't do anything it is over and why you enjoyed is that maybe for the first time u felt you had power over him and you really controled him.Maybe he puts so much pressure on you and when u really had the chance to be powerful then him you ook that chance.But it is good that he understood that he was wrong and now he respects u more:)
2006-08-17 08:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by SugaPie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were not wrong. He was in the wrong and needed to receive some corrective measure to ensure he would respect your wishes and do the right thing. You most likely enjoyed spanking him because you may be a dominate female that feel men should be submissive to you. He is showing respect because he now knows you will spank him if he disrespects you.
2006-08-17 08:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by tim_s9999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you achieved the ideal balance in your relationship that both of you - maybe unconsciously - were looking for. His repeatedly coming home drunk may have been meant to provoke just that kind of reaction from you. Some men want to be physically dominated by a woman and respect her for it. Good luck with it!
2006-08-17 11:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question you need to be asking your boyfriend. Find some time (when he is sober) and ask him how he felt about it. You might also want to discuss your reasons for doing it and how you would feel if he did it to you.
As far as why you enjoyed it, you might want to discuss that one with a therapist. I'm not saying that it makes you crazy, but therapists are trained to help you answer questions like that.
In my opinion, if you would not like him to do it to you, you were definitely wrong. The only time a double standard like that would be OK is if you discussed it before hand and both agreed to it.
2006-08-17 08:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were absolutely right to spank him and I'm not surprised you found his submission, wriggling and crying sexually stimulating. Get hold of an English school cane and, next time, use that as well as a good pasting by hand.
2006-08-17 08:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You enjoyed it because you were in control. He could have easily gotten away from you but gave in to your control. Sounds like you might want him to come home and pretend to be drunk again. Go with it and enjoy.
2006-08-17 08:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by Magnus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now thats what im talking about! i hate seeing my husband drink and get drunk. they loose that piece of humanity in tham that makes you attracted to them. maybe thats what he needed, some motherly love. but this time it came from his girl friend. good for you. maybe next time when he pulls at that wallet in his jeans to buy another beer, he'll remember why his butt is still sore and he will change his mind.
and its not abuse. i believe in dicipline, the world needs more of it. look at these teens hitting their parents and doing drugs and killing people. i bet they never had their hands smacked one time.
dicipline will make you wonder if its worth doing something again.
2006-08-17 09:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-17 08:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋