why does this happen ?

Question

before my wedding my husband use to call me talk to me for hours but now its been 2 years i have been married thanks to god but now it seems that am chassing him and he is just ignoring me we are kind of goin through a rough stage in marriage some family issues but if he is not talking to me or calling me does that mean he wants some time to think? or what only womens would really understant this i guess

Answer 1

My ex husband did that. Chased me like crazy, treated me like a queen... until the day we got married. I remember the end of week 1 of being married to him, I wanted to leave. Guys get married for strange reasons just like girls do. Read "The Rules" and see if it helps.

Answer 2

Sorry, you are welcome to the deceived wives.
Men usually change a lot after being married, moreover if he keeps on the move working and you stay at home. Sure, being all the day alone you expect some attention from him. He just wants to arrive, turn the TV on, perhaps a bier, and some food. Talking? No need.
Not all men are the same, but are quite frequent.
Can I give you just a little idea?
Before things are hurting you further and it becomes too late, please give yourself a chance: take time to feel good with yourself, I mean feel pretty again, do some sports, and moreover keep your friends and if possible, make some more. Do no close yourself in the trap you are now in, otherwise one day you will not be able to get away if necessary. Find yourself a job: making your own money will give you the chance to choose more easily and less painful.
In the meantime, try to get in touch with your husband, see if there is still a chance and keep on working hard with the only objective of getting stronger and feeling better. You will need all your strength if things get worst, and if better, to maintain the situation controlled.
Do not accept psychological mistreatment: works little by little drilling your brain till your confidence is completely gone.
Save as much as you can, of course without him noticing it.
Be careful, you will never be alone since millions of women are being neglected every day by their husbands.
Be strong. Do not give up your soul; you are a lovely woman that does not deserve to feel ignored.
Sincerely,
Fro
If you need somebody “listening” to you, send me a message. I will answer you.

Answer 3

Sometimes the bait is more enjoying than the catch. I say this is before you married him he was infatuated with you and the day to day life situations probably didn't rear its ugly head until you got married so you were living in a state of fairy tale until you start spending hours and days together as husband and wife and get to see how each handle finances, child rearing, and other issues that can cause friction and distance in your marriage.

One of the most important criteria needed for a successful and happy marriage is the Big C
communication and the other Big C commitment to making each other happy by listening to your mate concern instead of ignoring your mate its not the common sense thing to do and I suggest you let your mate know how this is making you feel , I hope he listens and communicate to resolve your issue.

Answer 4

Hmm..it's really hard to know. It is most definitely possible that he just needs time to think. However, it could be many other things as well. Sometimes people are trying to impress the people they are dating and once they are married to you...they think they don't have to try anymore...sad but true. It could also be that he is stressed more...there is so much more financial responsibility, etc when couples marry. It could be sooo many things. The only way you will know for sure is to talk to him about it. Tell him that you are not trying to be critical or anything, but you really miss the phone calls and that it has been bothering you. That would be my advice...good luck!

Answer 5

Don't chase after him, just go on with your everyday life! Just because he is not calling you constantly does not mean that there is a problem! It just means that he has confidence in your marriage,and that he feels very safe & secure with the relationship that the two of you have acommplished together! And also he knows that his beautiful wife will be there when he comes home from work each day!!!!! You should be feeling the same way about him!!!!!!!
Good Luck!!!!!

Answer 6

Its just a faze, the chase is over! The lion has caught the kill and is lazy now! j/k. No, really, he probably is a little too secure in the relationship. Ignore him, Literally, give em the cold shoulder and do your thing and see how long it will be before he turns back into P. Charming.

Answer 7

Me and my wife have times where we can talk each other heads off and other times we dont talk much at all. I dont think your husband is wanting to quit on you or think. Maybe he is just quiet and doesnt like to talk much.
Have y'all thought about getting away for a weekend or even just going on some dates, and remember most guys do not like to be nagged or like to talk about the same thing all the time.
Enjoy him tell him how much you love him and you are so glad you are married to him
Most men like to recieve affermation, they like to know they are loved and wanted

Answer 8

just do the same... my husband was like that too.. called me all the time at first.. then barely nothing.. and I felt I was always bothering him... until I decided not to call him.. well !.. he called me a couple of times and was wondering if I was okay... man are a weird specie.. can't live with them.. can't live without them...

Answer 9

just give him a little space, don't nag. it will only drive him away. find something to keep u busy like an activity or hobby. let him miss u. spice up the sex a bit too.

Answer 10

it is probably because the spark is fading away...you need to have quality time with him, or at least have a nice talk about his day at work.....