MY HUSBAND HAS PUSHED ME SEVERAL TIMES WHILE HE IS DRINKING. ALWAYS SAYS SORRY BUT NEVER FEELS LIKE HE MEANS IT. I SOMETIMES WONDER IF I AM THERE JUST SO HE ISNT ALONE. THIS IS HIS FIRST MARRIAGE. HE WASNT FIGHTING WITH ME WHEN HE PUSHED ME IT WAS WITH SOMEONE ELSE AND I WAS IN THE WAY. I JUST GET REALLY AFRAID OF HIS TEMPER
2006-08-17 08:17:29 · 22 answers · asked by JILL M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him & buy the largest caliber handgun that you can safely control, Become a member at a range and learn to shoot it properly.Get a restraining order but know that the supremecourt ruled that the police are not there to protect you (hence steps 1 and 2)
Just remember if he comes after you to keep pulling the trigger untill he stops moving. Aim for the Chest and Head.
As a survivor of abuse from my *** of a father the above solutions work.
2006-08-17 08:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by carlcampbelljr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful. Look for other signs of abuse. There are tons of websites full of information. You may be surprised when you read about it and it will either all make sense, or this will be the one questionable thing.
If you guys can communicate well, maybe discussing it and how it made you feel would work. Some people have allergies to alcoholic beverages which makes them more violent when drinking-they do things they wouldn't normally do.
Definatly start looking and researching though. It will help you a lot.
2006-08-17 15:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by cherry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you. It's tuff to live with an alcoholic. It's double trouble if he's violent on top of it. I wouldn't let this go please find help for him or for you both. I've lived with an alcoholic and it was tuff. I thank God he wasn't violent ever but it wasn't easy dealing with his disease of alcoholism. If you don't do nothing about this now your life can be in danger.
If any man laid a hand on me oh my gosh it would be the last time. I would wait til he was asleep and just when he opens his eyes i would have something ready to strike him. And with an evil grin I would say if you ever lay another hand on me again there will be hell to pay. There is no excuse to behave like this.
2006-08-17 15:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad, bad sign. Your instincts telling you to be afraid is a major alarm bell in my book. Being drunk is no excuse -- intoxication with alcohol makes people more like themselves, not less. If it was just once, I will allow that mistakes (and accidents!) happen. But you need to tell him straight out that he is never to do something like that again, or that's the end of it. If this has happened multiple times, and you're not the kind of girl who enjoys being pushed (and perhaps worse. . .you never know) . . .leave the jerk. If he loves you, there's no need for him to hurt you. You don't deserve it, and being alone is not so bad, especially if it means you don't have to be afraid of someone you're supposed to trust!
2006-08-17 16:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by Margaret L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its always been while he is arguing with someone else then its like two dogs fighting...reach in and your going to get biten. If its been just you and him and he still pushes you, it might be when he has alot on his mind and he probably won't mean it intentionally but the trip to the hospital for him knocking a couple of your teeth out is going to hurt none the less.
2006-08-17 15:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has a problem... Did you know it's against the law to "push" someone? There's no excuse for physical violence in any form, EVER. Being that he's done it several times now, my guess that it's only going to get worse, not better.
2006-08-17 15:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I JUST GET REALLY AFRAID OF HIS TEMPER ==translation~~~ I want to leave, but need someone to tell me to do so. Well, honey..LEAVE! Stop making excuses, pack your s*88 and go! A push will turn into a slap, and it has no way to go but downhill from there. Get out while you are alive and able. God Bless
2006-08-17 15:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Pepsi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, GET THE HELL OUT! I'll be damned if a man puts his hands on me and walks away. If you can't trust him to keep his hands to himself, you need to get out before he justifies your fear. My husband is the most loving, nonviolent person I have ever met. I trust him completely, even if he's enraged with me (which he has been). I do him the same favor, I don't get physical and neither does he. If all else fails we walk away until we can get a handle on the situation...
This doesn't seem to be an option in your case. Get help, not just for him, for YOU.
2006-08-17 15:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom always taught me that if a man ever hits you once, he will do it again and again. And, you should leave and never look back.
If he pushes you, it's the same thing... I would offer him the option of going to counselling (if I really loved him), or tell him to get out, or I would leave him.
never, ever let a man hit you. No one has the right to do that!
2006-08-17 15:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mary K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try Al-Anon online or in person, and see if they can support you and help you (it's free and confidential). The underlying issue is his drinking and the effect it has on him and those around him. I am not so sure he has a violent nature, but he is using the alcohol to cover up something emotional. He needs AA and you can benefit from Al-Anon.
2006-08-17 15:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋