Is she worth it?

Question

Well... i have a best mate and we've been real close ever since we were lil tods, and we did everything together you know, school, our first boy friend, our first kiss etc... and now shes changed alot recently, since somone called her "hot" she feels that she has to go and have a sh.ag with the next guy that comes along.
So yeah, shes sleeping around, and im here and the only real thing is on my mind is school being as i have soon got important exams. I've spoken to my mum about this and how dissapointed i am becuase i always thought she was worth more than that. My mum said "just ditch the b*tch" but i feel i can't do that, not after the years we've spent together... is she worth keeping? what would you do?

Not only is she having underage sex but... shes found someone who sells cheap drugs, so now shes hanging out with other druggies, but when we are together we have a really good laugh together, but i dont wanna be over-protective of her.

oh come on you lot... talking isn't really gunna be good enough is it? sure i can tell her "its bad" but it won't stop her!!!!

Answer 1

I can relate to personal experiences.In situation like yours, I changed with them & towards them.
1, I started to think that everybody is accountable for their own doings - if they knew or not what they were doing.
2, I was still the same friend to them,as long as they were straight and honest with me.
3, Give them their space and time, sooner or later the penny drops,- either they help themselves or help is offered to them.As a friend you can offer help but don't get sucked into their lifes.
4, Do let her know your feeling & thoughts for her,
then give her time and let her reflect upon it.

In this way you will concentrate on your own life and the things you need to do for yourself. Support and care for them if they want you to.

Answer 2

Man you sounds like a really good friend. You should have a serious talk with her and tell her how shes ruining her life. Tell her that you are only telling her this because you love her and don't want her to get "lost" into that kind of life...i've been through this where I was the one on the other side..like how your friend is...and she's probably not going to listen to you..but all you need to do is just be there for her when she really needs you. Because after the rush of experimenting and having all that fun...shes going to crash and be utterly empty and alone...she may not see it now but she will see it after the joy ride is over and she's either dead, or has some STD....you just need to be there for her and just hope that she realizes that her life is worth more then what shes doing...

Answer 3

People grow up and get new friends. Just start spending less and less time with her.

There's nothing wrong with that!

I had a best friend till we were in high school and he started hanging out with the wrong crowd.

I actually wrote him a letter telling him that I couldn't be friends with him anymore because it wasn't the kind of life I wanted.

He understood and the funny thing is I sometimes still talk to him 10 years later.

People change!

Answer 4

You have to be really careful otherwise you will be labelled as a 'slapper' and a 'druggie' by others because of your association with her. Why not concentrate on your exams for now and afterwards have a serious talk with her and warn her of the danger she is putting herself in. If she doesn't listen and change then I think you should seriously think about ending the friendship before you get sucked in to her way of life. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

At the end of the day it is her choice to do these things. I had a friend like this and we came to the agreement that she would not do this sort of stuff when she was out with me. This worked and our friendship continued in the end she found this really nice fella and had kids and moved away, me I'm still here and single.
Who is the dick head???

Answer 7

Stay true to yourself.

If you don't want to do drugs, just say no.

If you don't want to sleep with someone, just say no.

You have to realise that your friend is going through a period of adjustment as she grows up.

Maybe she'll mature back into the sort of person you want to be friends with, maybe she'll become a junkie or contract STD's only time will tell.

Be her friend and don't be too critical but be prepared to walk away to protect yourself if needs be.

Answer 8

My Dear your Mum's right. To bad. But sometime you just have to move on. You will have a better life than she will too. I can see she's going to get hooked on drugs. You might try talking to your mate. But she sounds like it's to late. Have a good life.The world expects great things from you!

Answer 9

I think you are both growing up and growing out, every body changes its part of life. you should maybe hang out with new people and get on with your own life, but stay friends with her, if she is taking drugs god knows she will need a friend like you some day. Best of luck to you!

Answer 10

Well for 1 thing you need to so get rid of her and no she's not worth it if she's going to act like that then that's her problem that really has nothing to do with you b/c it seems to me your friend doesn't really care about herself anymore. So what i would do is just forget about her and move on with life you know.