I Think my friend is gay. He never really told us if he's gay or not.?

Question

By the way he acts and by the way he talks - it will make you wonder. How should I ask him w/o offending or hurting him?

Answer 1

i have a gay friend too. so all u have to do is do wat i did to find out. tell him i no a guy that likes u and wants to hook up with u and see wat he says. if hes gay then kick his *** and chop his dick off.

Answer 2

You sound like a nice guy. Just ask him in manner that does not sound like you're making a judgment against him. Assure him in some way that you would not want to end the friendship if he is, in fact, gay. You might want to throw in a few comments in conversation that you do not hold anything against gay people. Do this in some conversations prior to asking him so that he is relaxed and not afraid to come out. If you have not already told him your sexual preference, do so. That way there cannot be any misunderstanding. Good luck.

Answer 3

Not to be rude or anything, but why do you care if he's gay? You seem to be acting like you are upset or disturbed at the fact that he may be gay. And if he doesn't tell you, then maybe he's not ready, he might not want to tell anyone at all (and that's his right), or he may not be gay at all. Don't ask him about it, there's a high chance that he will be offended.

Answer 4

If you're a true friend it shouldn't matter what he is. I'd just leave it he'll come out if and when he feels like. If you can't accept his choices maybe it would be best for him if you distanced yourself from him. Many homosexual people have killed themselves without ever coming out because they were convinced they wouldn't be accepted. If your worried about this ask him about his mental state and suggest where he can get help, without mentioning sexuality. I'm hopefull because you're worried about offending him or hurting him that you'll make the right choice.

Answer 5

You shouldn't ask anything. He's your friend. Why does it matter? If he is gay and wanted to tell you he would. There is no 'one way' that a gay person acts, and there's no reason why a heterosexual man can't posess similar mannerisms. If a girl is a tomboy and likes DIY it doesn't make her a lesbian. Let it go and enjoy your friendship.

Answer 6

According to one of my friends, who is gay, he says that the guys you think are gay (because of the way they act/talk) lots of times aren't and the ones you'd least expect are. So, maybe he is or maybe he isn't.
I would ask indirectly, like tell him you have a girl you might want to set him up with and see how he responds.
Anyway, it really shouldn't matter to you that much if he is or not (unless you want to sleep with him :-)

Answer 7

Don't ask him. I have a friend who is gay and I never asked him in the beginning. But finally opened up and told me he's gay.

Answer 8

Simply wait for him to feel comfortable telling you. But if you really want to know, I suggest talking about girls at school and see how he reacts. If he seems a little uncomfortable talking about girls, theres a good chance that he is gay. If he is gay, you can continue being friends with him, it does not matter.

Answer 9

i'm Catholic too, and to be common I merely about left the church till a gay-pleasant Priest talked to me at a function and advised me that there are numerous individuals of the church that do not accept as true with Rome's stance on homosexuality - and are completly supportive of open sexuality. I recommend you come across a more effective pleasant Priest that you'll divulge to. That being reported, the rationalization your son doesn't desire counselling is because, to be frank, he's executed no longer something incorrect. you may help your son by technique of being there for him, reassuring him (without making a large deal about it), and providing numerous hugs and making constructive existence retains on as standard. If he starts seeing someone and needs you to fulfill them, try your suited to be open and inviting besides. that's the actual try for you and your spouse: are you able to agree for his existence totally even as the time comes. in case you may, your son will be between the most blessed and grateful children in the international. popping out of the closet - ESP. THE CATHOLIC CLOSET - might want to correctly be very, very scary. you may want to truly get exhilaration from the quantity of braveness it took on your son to allow you to recognize what he did and to confide what's possibly his inner maximum darkest secret to you. I in uncomplicated words wish my dad and mom were more effective accepting. Mine kicked me out of the abode and nevertheless really communicate over with me. you've executed more effective on your son than you'll ever recognize, and in time your spouse and children will boost and be wholesome and rich.

Answer 10

Don't ask him. Let him come out his shell and tell hiself. Don't force him. My brother is gay and he didn't come out until last year and he is 15. Your friend may not be comfortable with his body yet. So let him to you. Alot of gay's commit suicide because they think there is somthing wrong with them. They feel like they are agaisnt God. Just be there for him and let him tell you okay?

Answer 11

First off: Tell him that no matter WHAT HIS ANSWER IS, you love him anyways. And then ask.

If he's straight, oh well, just have a good laugh and tell him to get over it, cause he "acts" gay and never talks about girls. No harm done on your side.