well let me tell u...ive been in this relationship 4 about 3 months...our chemistry and attraction 4 eachother is amazing! i really do feel like hes the one! everything is so different wit him then its been with neother guy...i want to marry him...but im still in high school...and still living with mom and dad. hes 21 and can support me...its up to me though. he cares about me enough to let me finish school and make something of myself! he makes me feel really good. i can hardly go a day without seeing him...i really really do love him. should i follow my heart and commit to him already??? or should i wait til' i know 4 sure...and have my life together?
2006-08-17 08:12:45 · 19 answers · asked by lizlatina69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
too early for that
2006-08-17 08:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mrsashko 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 18, after I graduated high school and spent some time in college... we are still marrried (11 years now) BUT it has been a very rough road. We also dated for 2 years. Give yourself some time. It is amazing what you find out about a person, you didn't know after you get married. Date him for a while, there should be no rush and also... you need to expirence life and discover the "adult" person you are. There is so much to learn and so many opportunities... If I had it to do over again, we would have waited until I was at least 22... I was so much more "grounded" then.. and I love my husband with all my heart. Good luck !
2006-08-17 16:52:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married the first time at 18, and believe me, you're too young. Also, yo haven't been in this relationship long enough for the first stage to pass (and it will). You have to give it more time to find out if there really is something there besides the physical which will change and evolve with time.
You need to finish school even if you never have to support yourself. You need to do it for your own sense of self-worth, your confidence in yourself, and just to feel good about your accomplishments.
You should give it some time because if it's real, it will still be there when you're done school.
2006-08-17 15:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you two engaged yet?? If you are just stay engaged for a year or two and go from there , if he's the one he's not going to go anywhere, even try living together to make sure you two can get along under the same roof all the time, trust me things are different when you live together, but i wouldn't recommend that step till after you graduate high school
2006-08-17 15:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time. Finish high school (at the very least, college would be better).
I married at 18 and ultimately divorced. At least we dated for a couple years, but it was still too young.
Don't rush into marriage. You might consider engagement, but learn to know yourself better as an adult, get educated, confident, and learn to live on your own first.
Even though I was married at 18, I spent 6 months on my own in my own apartment, supporting myself before that. It was a valuable experience!
2006-08-17 17:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ragdoll Kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I got married at 18 cuz I thought I loved him too. But now we are getting divorced after 4 years of marriage with two kids. It sucks (marriage) at least wait two years or try this! I tell all my friends to do it and now they thank me for it. Get a place together and see if u two can live with each other first!! Money wise, bills to pay, helping each other, housework, etc. like marriage than u will know how it feels and what it will be like in the future. 3 out of 5 of my friends decided to wait after doing this. Trust me it works! Let me know how it goes!!
2006-08-17 15:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by smile114 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't marry him after only 4 months. I have no doubt you love him right now. If you really want to make a committment then do so by getting engaged. Then give it a year before you get married.
I can tell you that I met my wife and was engage in 7 months and married in 18 months. I do not regret it but I was also 32. Give yourself a chance to really get to know him without that euphoric feeling of "new love". If you still love him after that wears down then you know he is the right one.
2006-08-17 15:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know waht, what i think is that you should wait a little longer so you can really see if he is the one you want to marry! But you know if you do decide to go through with this and it doesnt work out you still have more to live and you can just go from there. Like they say everyone learns from their mistakes. and if that is what your heart really wants then who cares what everyone thinks!!!
2006-08-17 19:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by la cangri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you know that he is the one and he feels the same about you then waiting untill you are our of school will not hurt, and are you sure that he can support you? Try living with him till you get out of school, see how it goes? But have safe sex if you do, dont end up preg.
2006-08-17 15:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by bdmrplemons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen honey i was married at 18 too then i remarried at 37 and i don't think any one really knows what they want til they expericence life and make there own mistakes my sister was married even younger and she is very happy but my daughter at 33 and has been in a wonderful marrage for 10 years but she wants out so you really have to try your own thing and remember it is your life noone can live it for you not even your mate . east coast okie
2006-08-18 11:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by east coast okie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you stupid and crazy??? Firstly, you're 18... way too young. Secondly, you've been with him for ONLY three months. You hardly even know him. 3 months is the still "the getting to know each other" faze. Trust me his true colours has not come out yet, he is still trying to impress you. You're falling for him too quickly. Wait till you're older and wait till you've been with a person for more than 1 year.
2006-08-17 16:06:40 · answer #11 · answered by Jamacaray 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋