I asked why she doesn't want sex and she said she is too tired. My wife doesn't move much. Is sex that tiring

Question

Even when we have sex, I do most of the work. Is even lazy sex tiring for women? Or is it that she doesn't want that energy jolt afterwards that will keep her from going to sleep right after?

Answer 1

Sometimes a woman and even a man really IS tired.
If she has worked all day and then come home and has to cook, clean, feed the kids, bath the kids, put the kids to bed..........they hell yeah she is tired.

If you want her not to be so tired then try this........when yall get home from work, help her out.
Help clean up, cook, take care of the kids, give them their baths and put them to bed.
And all the other little things that most wives have to get done before they can even think about going to bed.

She will not be as worn out, she will be very appreciative and you might actually be surprised and get lucky.
You might also try holding, kissing, and talking to your spouse alittle after sex instead of rolling over and going to sleep.

Also a lot of women are fully awake after sex and it takes them awhile to get to sleep after sex. Where as it seems men can turn over and fall sound asleep immediately after sex.
Sometimes I get really aggravated because I'm awake and want to talk or get up and do something after sex and he is snoozing like a damn log........lol

Answer 2

Interesting.

Is sex that tiring?
No, but it requires a great amount of effort in the pleasure to reach the climax henceforth,it can be pleasurably exhausting.

Is even lazy sex tiring for women?
Is that another way of saying not reaching orgasm?
Why participate in intimacy when your mind and body aren't one and ready to begin with,right?It's suppose to be a mutual interaction between two people in love not some sort of a chore,an obligation to meet before the day ends..

Or is it that she doesn't want that energy jolt afterwards that will keep her from going to sleep right after?
No,offense meant but is this your primal reason?
If it is then I'm afraid that's the very reason why she keeps on making excuses and turning you down.Think about it before you land your plane please.

Spice it up a bit so she's mentally and physically present in your next union...consider her wantings so together you get explosive and ecstatic.

Get her into the mood so you both can get into the groove.

Answer 3

No, sex isn't that tiring. Maybe she doesn't like sweating or something... Or, if that's how it's always been, maybe she just doesn't know she's supposed to move and is afraid she'll do it wrong or something. Tell her how sexy she is and say things like, "it would be so sexy if you wrapped your legs around me and scratched your nails down my back." Or "I love it when I can feel your body moving with mine" (even if it never has... she'll take the hint). The energy jolt is nice and usually wears off quickly and makes for a great sleep. Try having sex after work, or in the morning. Then maybe, she won't be ready to go to sleep.

Answer 4

Has your wife always been this way? Does she work long hours? Maybe she is tired. Have you tried it in the morning? I know early on in my marriage, I really didn't want to have sex either. This not may be the same with your wife but maybe she doesn't enjoy sex. Do you make sure you take care of her needs before you take care of yourself? The first half of my marriage my husband only thought of himself when it came to having sex. He forgot that there was another person involved. I finally told him that I would rather use a dildo and enjoy it than have sex with him. Now, the foreplay and sex last anywhere from an hour to two. Sex is probably the only good thing in my marriage other than my children. As far as her not moving, what position do you use. Is it a position that she is able to actually move in or are you not knowingly pushing her down while getting yourself off? It is hard to move when you have someone pushing you down instead of pulling you towards them.

Answer 5

Sounds like the two of you are having more issues then just sex.
You need to sit and have a serious talk with your wife and get down to what is really wrong.
Maybe you should put a little more effort into other ways of showing affection and possibly other aspects of your relationship.
I personally being a women, have a hard time enjoying or wanting sex when there are other issues in the relationship that aren't being resolved or when there isn't a emotional connection.
Maybe you should do something to show your wife that she means more to you then just sex and see what happens.
good luck

Answer 6

This an excuse for not to have sex. And when she complies with your request unwillingly she of course does not actively participate.
Usually desire discrepancy is a matter of communication. She might actually be tired, and might be feeling pressure or concern from some other part of her life that is affecting her sex drive. Maybe she thinks you two are having plenty of sex. You won't know unless you talk to her. It's one of those calm conversations in which no one gets accused of anything and the tension is kept at a minimum. Have this talk when you're both relaxed and in a non-sexual situation. You share your concerns, she shares hers, and you try to reach a mutually satisfying compromise. Whatever you do, don't ignore the situation, and don't try to figure it out without talking to her. You will just end up making it into this big thing, when it may just be a phase.

Answer 7

Have you ever talked to her about it? Are you sure you are even giving her an "energy jolt"? If you were, it may be a different story.

When women don't feel good about themselves, they don't feel sexy and they need to feel sexy to get into it. They don't feel sexy just because you say you want them. Oh, no. They know you'll just take them because they are there. Then what you are getting, what you call "lazy sex", is what women call "duty sex".

Sex for women starts way before the bedroom. You have to make her feel special earlier in the day, and not just in a sexual way. Tell her she looks good, get into her head.

Exercise would also help her sex drive.

.......or wait till she's 40 and you won't be able to keep her off you.

Answer 8

She doesn’t have the sex drive. She should see a doctor. Is she out of shape, insecure about her body? Diet and exercise could help her drive, or at least give her some energy in bed. Maybe a good vibrator and a nice bottle of wine could get her going. Is she on the pill? The pill is notorious for bringing down a women’s sex drive.
It’s hard to say, only getting one side of the story. I do know that in order to have a close and happy marriage, you need to meet your partner’s needs (within reason, of course), and that takes constant effort. If one partner stops putting effort into any area of the relationship, the intimacy will dissolve away. You two need to work out this issue and its root causes, or else your marriage could be in trouble. Your wife and perhaps a doctor are the only people who can give you the answer that you are looking for. Good luck to you both

Answer 9

You sir have a problem. You are not letting your wife enjoy what is happening. Slow down take the cues your wife gives you. Ask her what it is that she likes most. Than do it. Let her know what it is that you like. In plain simple language. Do not make her guess. Let her know it is she that is important. Stop the wham bam and it is over type of sex. Foreplay is not the number of player in a card game. You need much more foreplay. A woman takes much longer to get aroused than a man. When she tells you want she wants do not ridicule her no matter how much you do not want to do it. Let her take charge of the sex act for a while.

Answer 10

Sex is great when your with the person you want it from. Sex sucks when you have it with someone you don't want . Has it always been like this? if so Sorry, try games, roll playing, dress up, or try alcohol. Is she pregnant? maybe she is afraid to get pregnant. Is she a full figured woman? if yes maybe she is insecure and if that is the case if it does not matter to you prove it to her, {if it does well get over it or move on} 4 play/ massages/ make it more than SEX . OR ignore the whole sex issue all together and see if you get a different reaction! GOOD LUCK!!!!