My hubby and I moved to a big city 6 mos ago to try to find him a better paying job. My mom hated this idea a started spreading lies about him to other family members. Now his daughter who is back home is in need of our help and we dicided to move back. If we move back we will have to start all over again. The more money thing hasn't turned out and there is no family here so it's hard. But, when I spoke with some of my other relatives about when we were coming back they all shunned me and told me they wanted nothing to do with me. I assume my mom's lies are certainly affecting their attitudes. Now I don't know what to do. We still need to go back for our little girl, but I feel awful that none of my family (other than my lying mom) will have anything to do with me or my boys. Her lies have destroyed the way my family sees me and so most of them are saying don't call me, I don't want anything to do with you. I feel so stressed about it all. What do you think?
2006-08-17 07:52:02 · 7 answers · asked by colorist 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My mom has told my whole family that my hubby cheated and gave me a whole list of std's (which is not true at all) and that he lost his job here is why we're moving back. He still has his job here, and will even be a week behind me and the boys while he finishes out his 2 week notice. I will have to stay with my mom while I find a new house and it just seems so hard to even talk to her right now. I can't confront her about her lies because most of my relatives say that mom said I would say the things weren't true and they should decide who is more believable her or me. I'm so stressed, please help!!
2006-08-17 07:55:10 · update #1
They think that I'm stupid for staying with a man who they believe to be a lier and a cheater.
2006-08-17 08:20:33 · update #2
Don't argue with them about their delusions make some friends when you move and they can start to help you, my mother is conniving dishonest and shes on methadone she's a heroin addict, i just made alot of close friends and they are my family, i wonder why your mom would say he cheated on you maybe she just cares about you and she is in fear of loosing you so she is trying anything to keep you there
2006-08-17 08:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by creativebeloved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are going to have to live above the lies and prove mom wrong. People believe what they hear, but believe more what they see. No need to give anyone any explanation. If they don't see it after a while assume their blind and find new friends to hang with.
2006-08-17 08:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would YOUR family not talk to YOU if it was your HUSBAND that was supposedly the dirt ball? Something doesn't make sense with your story. Either you left out details, or you have a very uncaring family. To think that a family would "shun" you for having an unfaithful husband is MIND BOGGLING!!
2006-08-17 08:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move back for the child and do not have anything to do with your mom or family until she apologizes. You don't need the drama of her lieing all the time anyway.
Good luck!
2006-08-17 07:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you, your husband, and your step-daughter need to take care and look out for each other. you can make it. just don't give up.
your mother is crazy. stay away from her.
and if the rest of your family hasn't realized how crazy she is, then they can't be much better. you are better off without them.
2006-08-17 08:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by miss advice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey do like I did when my mom and sister did the same thing to me and I told them to stay out of my bussiness and try to take care of their life ..I have mine under control..thanks but not thanks I have got this !!
2006-08-17 08:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move back and work hard to get reputation. good luck.
2006-08-17 08:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋