I 've been with my signifigant other for almost 3 years now...We just had a beautiful baby boy a week ago. It's a never ending cycle of him getting on here and lying. Saying he's single...talking about meeting other woman and bragging about his penis size. When confronting him about it...he almost always gets mad verbally then it turns out he actually does physical harm. Yes he did it to me when I was pregnant....(i should say i hit him back..only for him to leave me alone b/c I coudln't take it..so stunning him was the only way he would usually stop...)Then the mental abuse saying I get what I deserve b/c I started the fight. HELLO...WE'RE ENGAGED AND YOUR ON HERE LOOKING FOR OTHER WOMAN??? I know he will see this...but maybe seeing other peoples response to this might ...MIGHT open his eyes. I'm not going to be somewhere where I'm not good enough and where I'm not happy b/c then my baby boy won't be happy. I don't know how much more I can take...
2006-08-17 07:46:44 · 18 answers · asked by heavensent2454 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Everything that everyone is telling me is something I already know...and what makes this situation worse...is that My dad was abusive to my mom and my sisters...my mom got me out before I was old enough for him to start on me...
2006-08-17 08:10:03 · update #1
Honey, come on be serious with yourself, he's a dog any man that puts his hands on you pregnant or not Is a dog, get rid of him and start working on yourself your son needs a strong mother. I know It's not easy b/c my mother raised me and my brother all by her self b/c my father was a dead beat and he like to put his hands on her and me and my brother. Sooner or later he'll start beating on your son this Is not a situation that you need to put yourself or your son In. Your son deserves an environment that Is stable and with two people who love him, a mother and a father, If he can't be their for you or your son then It's time to move on, and believe me you can make It without him. You say that he will see this probably and you hope that all of us can open his eyes do you understand until he's ready to grow the fu*k up that he's not, your a beautiful WOMEN and you deserve better than this, be honest with yourself If he's on the internet telling other women his penis size and saying that he's single then what's to say that he's not already cheated on you. Girl please wake up for youself and you beautiful baby boy that deserves so much more than ignorance. GoD bLeSs and I wish the best for you and your son and I hope If your fiancee reads this that he understands how much you need him and want him to be a father and partner, and that If he dosent want to be together then why does he stay and put you through this bullsh*t, b/c you allow him to put you through this, honey walk away If having his son didn't wake him up, then all of us posting our answer Isn't going to do anything. Have faith and I wish you the best ((Hug)) and please take care of your self you deserve the best In life and so does your son!!
2006-08-17 08:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by twofroggiesand1princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you two lived together the entire time? Depending on the answer would depend on the reply. If no, there's nothing you can do except break it off, go to court and seek child support. If you two have lived together for a year or more, give him an ultimatum. Give up the perv talk or you'll leave. Depending on the state you are in, you could be entitled to half any assetts accrued during the period you lived together, child support, and maybe "spousal" support. A good divorce attorney in your state would be able to tell you exactly what you are entitled to as a "common law spouse".
2006-08-17 14:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by Cambion Chadeauwaulker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You pull the plug on the computer and the relationship, and toss them both out with yesterday's dishwater!
If he has not made a commitment to you in 3 yrs, especially after having a child...then face it girlfriend, he never plans to! He is a player and always will be.
The verbal and physical abuse will only get worse.
His online behavior
is proof of his selfish, untrustworthy side...and when he gets a woman online to agree to meet him, you bet your sweet boots he's gonna cheat!
You deserve better!
Kudos to you for hitting him back!
2006-08-17 15:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is probably a waste of time answering, because you are obviously putting up with it and I fear you won't change but I will do my part to assist you.
You are in danger, and so is your child. If you are ANY KIND OF MOTHER and you have any shred of self esteem or self pride, take you and your child and leave him. he's a dog who is selfish, abusive and his opinion of himself is so low he can only get off on lying online and then abusing you and soon ABUSING YOUR BABY.
Get a life and think of your kid. GET OUT. NOW. Even if you think you don't deserve better, your child certainly deserves to grow up in a safe home and the chance to maybe cultivate a high self worth when older.
2006-08-17 14:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by mishel24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb. If he hit you, especially when you wee pregnant with HIS child, he isn't a man at all. You don't need to raise your son in this environment. If you do, your son will do one of two things, either get hurt by this man himself for trying to defend his mother or he will think the way you are being treated is how to treat women and the cycle of abuse will continue. Neither scenario is good. Cut your losses and move one. Raise that little boy to respect and cherish women.
2006-08-17 14:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't understand why you are still with this abuser. Get out of there now!! It's not healthy for you or the child. You want to live like this for the rest of your life? If not ...hit the road. Tell him you r gone and it's over. I wouldn't give him any more chances like you people always do. Just LEAVE!!!
2006-08-17 14:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by Gez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're confused. Why are you asking about computers when you just admitted that he's a wife-beater. You think he won't eventually hurt your baby? Wake up. You MUST LEAVE. If there's ever a chance for your marriage, you have to get him to stop talking with his fists.
I can tell you now, you have almost no chance at a happy future with this person.
2006-08-17 14:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
git rid of him, he's abusive, what happens when he gets mad and takes it out on the baby. If he hit you once, he'll do it again, not to mention the verbal and mental abuse, thats worse then the physical. if he's looking for other women- why would you even want him?
2006-08-17 14:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by mightymight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont have a fiance but i do have a bf. n i totally dont agree that he's going on looking for another women!!! wat's the matter wit him. if something's wrong then talk abt it calmly n get to a solution. n if coundn't stay steady then shouldn't have gotten angaged in the 1st place. n now that he is. he should learn to 2 b honest n loyal!!!! he should have learnt that far b4 but he hasn't still so better start asap!! n abt getting physica.!!!! hellooooooo!!!! have some respect! its totally wrong watever the case is... have some self controle.... n if all this doesnt work better off just leave!!
2006-08-17 15:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by bjm_116 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
baby or not, or maye especially because of the baby: if he hit yuou cheats on you lies to you, don't yoy have any self respect? They types don't stop, they may get slicker, but they don't stop the abuse or cheating or lies. You have screw on your self respect and courage and get the hell out of there, and no, don't make any grand statements or speeches, just waitr for him to go to work, pack up quickly and leave. If you don't, your baby remains in danger of abuse and you a forever vulnerable. Leave and don't look back...in fact fill an order of protection AGAINST HIM
2006-08-17 15:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by SuzieQ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋