My wife had a baby 8 months ago and since then hes felt very un sexy, I try desperately to make her know I love her and I still find her very sexy but to no avail... everything i do is wrong.... I tell her she's beautiful, she just denies it.... i try just holding her and she wonders why.... ive cooked and served by candlelight for her..... nothing!.....i miss the woman i used to hold... the one who was aware of how feminine she is and how sexy she is and how she could just drive me wild with just a kiss..... what can i do? any suggestions
2006-08-17 07:42:52 · 21 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her that
how she is feeling is actually fairly common for woman who just gave birth. Ask her to talk to her doctor to see if there is some sort of hormonal imbalance that they might be able to work on.....Go to the library and read up on post partum depression and after pregnancy symptoms....hang in there - she will come around.
2006-08-17 07:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by jachooz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's going through post-partum depression. Maybe she needs to seek counseling of some kind...you could go together since you want to help her. By you being there, it will validate the fact that you really do still find her sexy and attractive and that you really do love her and want to help her through this. A lot of women go through this. Just keep being encouraging and supportive, but you must learn patience too. I know it's been 8 months and it may seem like a lifetime to you, but look at all the changes her body's went through over the past couple years, it can really take a toll on some...good luck!
2006-08-17 14:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby to someone for the whole weekend. start by taking her to a spa get her pampered. Then when she comes home you won't be there but there would be a beautiful dress on her bed with a sweet note next to it and a bubble bath is waitng for her.Make sure the note tells her to put it on her be ready by a certain time you come around that time and ring the door bell with a rose and chocolats like it was your first date and she would come to the door looking beautiful and you would escort her to the car and open the door for her like a gentlemen. Tell her how beautiful she lookes and take her to a nice restaurant and when ya'll go home you know what to do. Just don't have another child.
2006-08-17 14:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already told her as well as showed her that she is still beautiful & sexy to you! This kind of thing happens to many women! Why don't you talk with her and find out what she thinks could be making her feel so undesirable? And let her know that she is certainly not undesirable to you!!!!!! It has been 8 months and you have already let her know how you feel about her. Just give her a little more time! She will come around!!!!!!!!
Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-21 11:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not a whole lot YOU can do, she'll have to find her sexiness again...having a baby is not a sexy thing, you gain weight, you get stretch marks, you feel like the most unsexy thing in the world........but in time it DOES go away...
Just keep reassuring her that she IS beautiful, SHE has to believe it..
If you can afford it, get a babysitter, get a hotel room and the two of you have a romantic night out.
2006-08-17 14:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of the baby for a day and let her go do her own thing for a while. She's probably stressed out from being a mother and just needs a break. Hopefully, her overall mood will improve after having a much needed chance to relax.
2006-08-17 15:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill Bro!! U wrote somethin cool in there! check it out, "i miss the woman i used to hold... the one who was aware of how feminine she is and how sexy she is and how she could just drive me wild with just a kiss..... " For me, that's something incredible and touching for ur girl fella! I f u try to say that to ur girl, I believe she'll be highly motivated as if "SHE'S Back!!!" ain't that cool!!!??? PATIENCE, U can't expect the girl to change that fast, give her sometime to think. Let U say "Hey baby, I just want to let u know that I really miss ma boo, my girl, my lady, my everything. The girl I used to hold. I just want to see u happy. nuttin can make me feel better than seeing u smilling" (That example is for if she's sad) try to say somethin touching.
2006-08-17 15:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by Wim I.G. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your wife has postpartum depression....women who get it feel really bad about themselves no matter what you do or say to make them feel otherwise...try getting her into some kind of new mother's support group or counseling....once she is over the problem you will have the woman you love back....but watch out it may be too much to handle....we can be a little freaky once we realize what we've been missing and good luck you sound like a great guy!
2006-08-17 14:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by Honey Dip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sympathies for the husband in you... but this is a very natural thing that women experience after delivery. Why don't you take her out, show her some not-at-all sexy women, and yet comment positively on them..... she will perhaps be able to relate to them. Tell her she feels more cuddly than ever before... compliment a fat lady or pass a cute comment on another just out of pregnancy mother in front of her...
good luck!!!
2006-08-17 14:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by chweetestme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw Hunny i suggest you take her shopping let her buy anything she wants and get her to buy something sexy. then take her out and show her off to everyone.then when u get home take her in front of a mirror stand behind her and tell her what does she see.then tell her everything that is beautiful about her. hope i can be some help hun good luck
2006-08-17 14:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋