2006-08-17 07:34:31 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Can't you teach him how you like it? A marriage is more than sex. If sex is your only issue, teach him, don't divorce him!
2006-08-17 07:40:01 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon! You don't wanna do that. marriage is much more important. As for the sex part, it's just one of the things that's not working out (just like so many other things in marriage). Work it out......tell him that you love him much more than anything else and that you wud like to try different things. Don't just limit variation to sex, extend it further to getaways, movies, some new hobbies, excercise, dresses, lingerie......pick some different kinds of clothes for him, try a new restaurant, change the wine you drink and have sex in different places......Don't sound as if you are complaining. You guys are married......and that is above all other things in life. Just try not having sex at all for a week or so.....TRY EVERY THING ON THIS PLANET. If it doesn't workout, try some more.
I have written this presuming that there is no love lost between the two of you.
Wish you a blissfull, happy and a beautiful married life.
2006-08-17 07:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Knowitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends would you like it if your husband wanted to divorce you based on your ability to cook or keep house?
Marraige takes work, you should be able to work through problems. Not just bail at the first sign of a problem.
I hate to tell you that this is something that you need to discuss b/c it may make it worse. Perhaps you can involve other elements into it [ie toys, videos, role playing].
Not only that but, perhaps by changing your frame of mind may help. Don't be so critical of him or yourself. Sometimes when you are concentrating so hard on "OMG this sucks you aren't really present to enjoy the moments. Also, not every time is gonna be earthshattering.
Good luck
2006-08-17 07:48:41 · answer #3 · answered by iceycalm101 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you divorce your husband for something like that?
Why did you marry him in the first place? If sex is not good, than you guys need to practice, practice makes perfect.
How long have you guys been married, and how old are you guys?
That is not a good excuse to divorce your husband. You need to stop your whining, and start practicing.
2006-08-17 07:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by Happily Married 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is never a good enough reason to divorce someone. If that was the motivating factor behind your marriage, shame on you...grow up!!! Some guys have no clue how to be a "woman", to be in touch with their feminine side, and thusly miss the boat, no pun intended, when it comes to being a good lover. Try asking him if he would consider role playing or something like that....All guys love a good freak, whether they admit it or not. If this fails you......Pray for direction in your marriage. God will rescue you if you need it.
2006-08-17 07:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by dad of dallas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is the rest of the relationship? If its good then consider marriage counseling. Sex is a very important aspect of a health relationship. It is were you bond emotionally and physically thru the release of endorphines. If you don't fix this guys will look elsewhere to fill this void.
If you guys never get along or fight over minor things and can't seem to resolve anything maybe you should split up.
2006-08-17 07:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by Goblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try communicating with him. The main reason for divorces is a lack of communication between partners. Be honest but in a sensitive way. Tell him that you would like to try some different things in bed and then just experiment. It'll be fun. Tell him in bed what you like and how you like it. If it makes it more fun for both of you in the long run, then it's worth the effort and work to get there.
2006-08-17 07:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not for that until you've tried all you can to spice up the bedroom. After all you did get married for better or worse, & this falls under that vow. There may even be some classes that can be taken to help in this situation for married couples, & he may be in cline to go if he knows what the consequences are coming too (divorce). He deserves a chance to clean up his act, so talk to him about it and see where it goes. If he refuses, then do what you need to for your happiness.
2006-08-17 08:05:47 · answer #8 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this man you should find other avenues to make it more intresting for you and him and never give up. But if you feel like you are going to cheat on him just to get sexually satified maybe you should talk to him before you do something stupid. I mean a guy with good sex, might not ne able to provide you with all the things your husband can like stability, emotional, physical support. Think about it!!!
2006-08-17 07:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by lencia2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this sounds like a case of waiting until marriage before having sex! If that is the case I would talk with him and directly tell him in a nice way what makes you feel good. If he doesn't know he won't know what to fix. Us guys love to fix problems, try to have reading material available and try new things to help him improve. It worth a shot remember its better to have a loving full relationship than to endure a poor one.
2006-08-17 09:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, marriage is just not about sex. Divorce him if you don't love him, but not because he does not perform well. Talk to him, tell him in a nice way how you want to inprove things. I am sure, as a man, he would be happy to try new things and be more adventurous.
2006-08-17 07:41:30 · answer #11 · answered by josievan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋