with out my spouse finding out? We have a joint checking account and she keeps up w/ it. She knows when I get paid and always looks at my check stubs. She is a lot more tighter than I am when it comes to money. I don't want to argue over money but I need a little of my own to have if I feel the need to spend some. I don't want to argue over the check stub either. I would apprieate some help. Serious answers only please because the only thing we fight over is money and I know if she knew I wanted to save just a little a week just for me she'd have a fit. Thank you in advance for you help.
2006-08-17 07:29:17 · 7 answers · asked by ~wishful~ 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Personal Finance
I know when I was a child, my mom always gave my dad an "allowance". He got the same amount every week out of his paycheck to carry in his wallet. The money he had was to cover cost of gas for his vehicle or if he needed the money in case of an emergency (tow bill if he wrecked etc) My dad used to put a little bit of his 'allowance' back every week as his "mad money" just in case he saw something he wanted and my mom wasn't there to write a check.
My husband and I are on a shoestring budget, but I make sure to give him a little bit of money every week just in case something comes up that he would need it. He has been known to save this money and surprised me a few times when we really needed some money to buy gas or groceries, or pay a bill and produced the money he had been saving. By giving him even a little bit of money to keep in his wallet, we were able to avoid arguments about finances. We haven't argued over money in several years because of our current arrangement!
2006-08-17 07:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by geniec67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given what you said, there is no way to take a slice of your pie without her knowing. Trust me.
Money often becomes the battleground for mistrust in a marriage.
Find out why she does not trust you with even 1% of your paycheck... perhaps you already know.
If that doesn't work, look over the books yourself and see what she is saving for. Ask what she is saving for.
If all else fails, set up a bank account with, say, Bank of America, then set up debit info with BOA to take from your checking to take 1-2% transferred each week.
It will be detected, but at least you have reasonable action (only a few bucks) and sound reasoning to back you up.
Hope this helps and good luck!
2006-08-17 15:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by kcincon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your wife just has too tight of a grip on the wallet. I can't see any way to hide it from her, but how about just telling her that you want to have some spending money? If your finances allow it, and you've earned it, she really has no arguement against you.
2006-08-17 14:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by obviously_you'renotagolfer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if your company offers a 401K program or something so that it is payroll deducted. Maybe they could even automatically deposit a portion of your check into a savings account.
2006-08-17 14:36:10 · answer #4 · answered by stay_sha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join a credit union have money payroll deducted, they will issue you a debit card that you can use to withdraw funds,your check stub will still be correct!
2006-08-17 14:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by razorbuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth! you want to have your own money and stuff like that... you may have a little argument at first but then again you may not.. it's not like you're getting a divorce right after!!!!
2006-08-17 14:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by CDM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm.... may be if you get a bonus or something put it in a new savings account in your own name.....honestly i dont know what you could do if your spouse is that uptight with money
2006-08-17 14:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by Union Jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋