My wife and I had our baby 11 weks and one day ago. We had sex after the doctor told us it was okay. It was great. Anyway now when we do it, it hurts her very bad. It will get better right? should we have more sex the relive the pain? Should we take it easy to relive the pain?
2006-08-17 07:17:13 · 29 answers · asked by chris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have her see her doctor, something may not be healed yet. Having a baby takes alot out of you and can take a while to adjust!
2006-08-17 07:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by fox69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a good husband for asking this question!!
I remember it hurting very much the first few times we had sex after each of the kids. I think it was a hormonal thing.. my body went back to normal maybe 3-4 months after I had our kids, it did take a little while. Just take it easy, you might need more lube until it gets better. Good luck!
2006-08-17 14:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by spike_is_my_evil_vampire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello.
There are other romantic things you can do together, that can be just as enjoyable as sex. Sex is not the only option. But if it is painful you should stop. You can cause your wife to have an infection. The doctor may not tell you this because he/she wants you to spend money on medicine to cure her infection. So just take it easy for now.
2006-08-17 14:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Maria S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all with the 11 week old baby (congratulations) she has a lot of things on her mind, and hormones surging through her body. Desire will probably wane for quite awhile, making things a bit dry, this will get better. Be supportive, don't pressure, remember what makes her want to have sex with you and do those things (but don't be nice with the sex as the only motive)
2006-08-17 14:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by st pete rn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is sound like is your taking it to fast... remember her body just when though 9 months of (wow) building a person .... with complete everything................................................................. give her a reason to want to enjoy sex again.... for the both of you...what she is telling you is that she's not in the mood.... sorry to put it that way but.... its true! You should try more 4-play! try new things, things that you would not normaly do... Remember you have this person 4 the rest of your life... you both need to have things to remember about each other...it becomes funny ...now don't try everything all at once... Example: if she's like me then she would like this......just the two of you ... listen to some good mood music... nothing crazy...some oldes of your favort music have a fruit cup ...yes fruit cup...we women have this thing with our weight...get it now..(lol) do a little dancing... or even sing a song... do something fun. then when the mood is just where it needs to be than you start just a little bit of what ever... then stop and talk....yes i said that word...talk! say things that you like about the person...you have the most softest skin i just love to rub my hands all over it and then kiss her skin, whooooooo her......... then get a scarf and block her view... by that time your mood music is playing the lights are low and your taking your time....at least 45 min ... this has nothing to do with sex....................!!!!!!! your looking 4 satifcation, pleasure ... to do this you have to give a good reason? because the question will come? why? why what? a man will always ask that question? then it becomes an argument>>> the answer is because your worth it... you desirve it....even if you don't mean it... lie yes i said it Lie about it... the point is you need a better sex life....(point blank) don't get me wrong it was good before ... you want to look forward to the furture ... look for better.... then you want great... you see how this goes... example you don't want a good job you want a great job with more money... your just giving your self what you want... while lie--ing in a good way.....................................................to save your marriage... other than that i would say...... pray about it or go to a book store and find a book that gets straight to the point answers, on things you like....or try something off a movie that you like... before doing anything look at the movie ture lies... (with arnold) that should help you with "doing things that you would not do...."
Enjoy!
Mrscaramelow
2006-08-17 14:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by lapeachroses 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What ever you do don't force her because she will hate that respect her and ask if she is really ready? Make sure you LOVE her no matter what try other things if she is willing Because if she is not it can be very traumatizing for her. That is what happened to me my ex husband wouldn't leave me alone I also had a bad dilivery. Anyway we are not togrther anymore because it all started with the over bearing sex.
2006-08-17 14:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by lexi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't hurt 11 weeks after she needs to go ask the doctor
2006-08-17 14:26:52 · answer #7 · answered by freeatlastboone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right after having a baby, a womans body needs some time to get back to normal. I do think 2 months is enough time, so i suggest you have your wife see her doctor to make sure everything's ok.
2006-08-17 14:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it easy. take some time with her and you may need to use KY. Stress and being tired may be the cause of it too, so just let it take it's natural course. It will take a little time to get back in the swing of things. In the meantime there are other ways to get and give pleasure - so experiment a bit too.
2006-08-17 14:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will get better, it just takes time, especially if she had a vaginal delivery.
Though, if the pain is bothering her a lot I would suggest talking to the doctor about it. He may be able to offer some suggestions.
2006-08-17 14:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by bluesie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋