why are women so stupid?

Question

I have two friends (women of course )who are in bad relationships with men who either beat them or just treat them like garbage why do they put up with it. One we can just call her T sleeps with this guy and does everything he wants her to do just because they have kids, even though he doesn't want anything to do with the kidsand has never paid child support and treat her like crap. unless she is willing to sleep with him. Then there is my friend A, she has been with the same guy for about 4 years and at times they have a good relationship but there are the occassions when he gets drunk and beats her up; the real bad part to this story is alot of times she blames herself, because she is drunk too and calls him a name he don't like or she hits him, heres the thing though she is about 5'1" and weighs about 105lbs, he outweighs her by a good 110lbs atleast. So whats his excuse ? so why don't my friends take the time to find some good men to treat them good?

Answer 1

because they don't know anything else besides what they've grown accustomed to, so be a good friend and tell them. encourage them to be more self confident and strong, so that they can get out of their abusive relationships.

Answer 2

You come off as being abrasive toward women, and I don't like that. However, ignore these fools who are insulting you or calling you sexist because most women are in fact controlled by their emotions, which trump logic much of the time.
There is not a whole lot you can do. Tell them (as tactly as possible) how you feel, but support them. That is what the "correct" response is. Me personally? I would work to subtly undermine their relationship and do my part to free these friends from their oppressive relationship.
The problem is that this may harm your friendship with these women. So make a choice: do you care enough about them to sacrifice your friendship, if neccessary, in order to help them?
Hopefully, if you succede, they will come to you after breaking up with these jerks and thank you for trying to help.
It's a gamble, but it beats pretending like all is well!

Answer 3

It's because some women feel defenseless and powerless. Some don't know what they'd do after they're out of the relationship, so they stay in it. If there are children involved they won't break it off because they're afraid their children would be resentful about being separated from their father and that they'd grow older and become messed up... Some are scared and withdraw and feel like there's no where else to go... There are many reasons why they stay, you just have to look under the surface.

Answer 4

These women may feel that they can never find another man, or they may stay in the relationship because of convenience (ie: financial reasons, kids, and so on) I agree that these women are being dumb but they may just be afraid to leave. Maybe being in a crappy relationship is all that they know. Tons of women stay in bad relationships all the time, there are many reasons for this, those are just a few that I have seen in my experience. Good luck to your friends I hope they wise up!

Answer 5

okay T is just plain stupid! she needs to get out of this relationship for her kids because they dont need to be in a home where they see there parents fighting all the time!
and A if she's gonna be hitting her man because she is drunk than she deserves to be hit back. but no woman should be hit she's just out there looking for trouble. on the other hand she's stupid too if my man laid one hand on me i'm out so it's all her fault for puting up with it no one else's. all you could do as a friend is let them know that you are concerned and see an unhealthy relationship, if they dont like it oh well you tried!

Answer 6

i think its either because they have some insecurity about themselves or they love the person so much that they put up with it... a girl will stay with a guy soooo messed up if they love them ... all women ..most women think they can change a guy but it takes time and i think they are both waitin thinking their love will show them they care and they think hopefully it will change how they act ... for ur fren T i think she should stop giving her guy what he wants he knows that he can do this to her because she keeps doing it .. she should say no once and see what he does .. then he'll be the one tryin to do something for her cause i know it would make him think crazy...and ur fren A well she jus really needs to not drink with hers or at least not get too drunk ... she also needs to quit blaming herself ... no matter what she does or says she doesnt .... noone doesnt.... deserve to be hit!!!! well thats all i have to say hope it sort of helps u understand..

Answer 7

Let me just say this. All "women" are not STUPID! Some of us find it hard to find people that we really like or really like us. When we do think that someone really cares for us we pretty much stick with it until we cant take anymore and when that days comes all of the me that have done her wrong will see the fiery of a women scorn

Answer 8

Unfortunately some women don't have enough love and respect for themselves to know they deserve better. They themselves don't even understand why they put up with these men. Maybe they are just weak-minded and don't have enough self-esteem or self-love to look for something better. And you probably want to smack the hell out of the both of them when they talk to you about their problems. Sorry hon, there's nothing you can do to save them if they won't save themselves.

Answer 9

I've asked myself that question a thousand times.I don't know the answer. Don't generalize though men do it too. A piece of advice tough, there are dumb bitches in the world who complain about their partners and bring you into their garbage stay out. They won't ever change.

Answer 10

first of all, Don't call them stupid, they probably get that at home, which is probably part of the problem. abusive men are good at not only physical abuse but mental and emotional abuse also and it sounds like your friends have fallen into that treatment and do not think much of themselves. Try to get them to see a domestic violence counselor and help by being there for them, not by calling them names.