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Question

For all the gay people how did you come forward to tell them you were gay.how did youre parents react and how did it go?

Answer 1

well it went good actually
most of my friends knew, as my mother did, my dad was a bit taken aback but after a day or so it was all back to normal!
my bloke is accepted as a son in law, and we couldnt be happier

Answer 2

I was told I would not inhert any of my first born right properties since I didn't want to be with a woman to procreate. My younger brother now will get everything. In the millions! Any way I talk to my straight married mom and dad everynow and then but only when I have too. I am now educated own two homes and have a partner of years. I am the first in the family to have ever went to college. I think that is why I get so mad at people who don't want gay couples to adopt. Turn that table and understand that gay people were not raised by gay people. Just a thought.

Answer 3

Sadly my parents were dead before I came out. I think my mother would have been fine, but my father would have had major problems with it.

My brother had no problem, though continues in private to be somewhat homophobic.

I didn't find a single friend that had a problem when I told them - though many said "Well, I've known THAT for years - so what's this news you said you had?".

People who respect and love you in general will have no problem - and those that do have a problem are probably not worth keeping close to you.

A favorite story told by a gay comic:

"So last thanksgiving I decided to tell my parents I'm gay, but I just couldn't find the right time. Finally, during dinner, I said to my mother 'Will you please pass the gravy to a homosexual?' She gave it to my father, and a terrible scene ensued".

Answer 4

I was cybering at the time and a whole nast coversation I had with another man some how wound up printing out. So I came home and my mother wasnt speakin or looking at me. My father told me to go up to my room and wait for him he had to speak to me. He threw the print out into my face and told me he had called my sister and was aiting for her to come pick me up cuz he idnt want no homo in his house! My sister wound up talking them out of it all. The next day My mother decided to tell me how when the very thought of me disgusted her and when ever she saw me she could only imagine me with a D*ck in my mouth or a C*ck in my A$$! She then told me I was a waste of an investment of 18 yrs of her life and she wished I would of died when I was a born. She apologized 3 days later. But I just recently forgive them in the last year or so, because they have come to accept me more and my relationship with my fiance (a man). God is good I dont know where i got he strength to Forgive such hard words but I found it and all I could think is, GOD! But that is another issue. This is why I always tell people being Gay is not a choice. If I could have changed everything to have never heard those harsh words, I would! If it was possible i would be the straightist Women banging guy I could. But Im not Im a man who loves men!

Answer 5

I had told my mom about the stuff I did with my first boyfriend, and she'd said I could come to her for anything, and she had gay male friends. Unfortunately, I didn't know she was *lesbo*phobic until she talked about how disgusting it all was, in the grossest terms. (For straight sex, she used "science words" and urged us to do the same.) I was 15. It really hurt. I didn't say much to her about being bi for a couple years after that.

Then I left the church and met this incredible girl at 18. She thought it was a phase. She still hoped it was a phase right up until I was 30, when me and the "little Russian *****" got married.

She is *much* more accepting about us now. And you won't believe what helped. They talked about both loving the show "Law and Order" and being sorry that Jerry Orbach, one of the stars of it, died, right before our wedding!

Answer 6

my experience went like <> 's...my parents found gay porn on the computer and since I was ALWAYS on the computer (even into the wee hours of the night), they asked me about it and I told them I was gay. They were very surprised. I know this may sound embarrassing...trust me it was. Now that I look back on it...its kinda funny. I live with my mom now and she's fine with it. I dont think my other relatives are fine with it though..but to hell with them. Now my only problem is finding a boyfriend. hehe...good luck!!

Answer 7

well, I didn't tell my family until a couple years ago. I had been for a long time in a relationship with someone very closeted, and she even insisted I lie/not come out to my family or she'd leave me. well, one can only take that crap for so long...I broke up with her. but, after I got together with my current partner, I finally called my mom on the phone and said I wanted to come talk to her...she wouldn't say yes until I told her why, so I told her over the phone (my dad passed away 15 yrs ago). she cried, but she's pretty much ok with it, as is my stepdad and brother. she was most upset that I hadn't told her years ago! I was out to most of my friends before...a lot had figured it out long before I said anything.

Answer 8

I'm still mostly in the closet. A few close friends know, but my family doesn't. Though I do drop hints every once and a while. I'm pretty sure my mom knows but she has never said anything. I called her from the Pride Parade this year to say hi and she was like, "Oh have fun." My dad knows I went to Pride but thinks I just went to be with friends.

I think when I do come out my mom will be cool with it, but my dad and step-mom will flip. I don't think they are as open as they think they are.

Answer 9

It was really hard to tell my mother-i know she already knew-she had to have known,but she acted like she didn't.My dad died in 94,i never told him-but he proabally wouldn't have cared.I am finially comfortable with myself these days to tell anyone.I figure they will either like me or they won't,it's their choice.All my family on both sides know about me now- i don't hide it,it's just that noboby talks about it.But i was in the closet until i got with my g/f i have now,She was straight until me,and when she got with me she didn't care who knowed.That brought me out fast.
Trust me everyone-you will feel alot better if you just tell people and don't live your life hidden away,be open and honest with people-whats the worst they could do? Not like u?

Answer 10

well i cam out to my dad about 3 years ago he was fine with it my mom was the one that had the hard time she didn't talk to me for a couple of months. i remember exactly what my dad said. "Thats great honey, i don't care i love you no matter what you're still my daughter and i love you unconditionally. now you and i can argue about which women is prettier." LOL i laughed and he gave me a great big hug