I am naturally a jealous person. I have thought about having a threesome with my boyfriend and another female and feel I would really like it, but how do I overcome the jealousy part? I am afraid I would freak out when I saw him touch the other girl. Or what if I am so into the other girl, that I want her there all the time?
2006-08-17 06:47:06 · 31 answers · asked by Good Gushy 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
dont do it.
bad idea
2006-08-17 06:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by Well i Say.. 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
If you are so jealous then you won't be able to go ahead with it but I think you have a number of questions here too:
1 The thought af having sex with another woman turns you on so do you do it with your boyfriend too or just a twosome?
2 Will your boyfriend be happy for you to be with another woman?
3 Would it make him jealous?
4 Should you just try the threesome and see if you have all those concerns about jealousy?
5 If you really want a threesome then would it be better with two men and you or would that leave your boyfriend jealous too?
2006-08-17 14:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by peter b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw a study,I forget exactly where.. but the bottom line was the majority of relationships do not make it after a threesome. Someone (male or female) gets jealous and it creates problems. What if you, or your boyfriend likes the 3rd partner more than each other? If it's a fling and you don't see yourself with him in the future,that's one thing. Some relationships can make it thru the problems it will create but,if you want a long relationship with him, you're better off not introducing a 3rd party.
2006-08-17 14:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kennyp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very confused about your feelings. It is great that you are keeping yours and his sex life fun.
A threesome is usually for the benefit of the minority person, in this case your boy friend. You and her should be working together to enhance his pleasure. If you focus on that then the jealousy should take care of itself. I am sure he will want to see you and her together during the fun, so you will get that chance to try her too. If you decide you like it and want her again, then that is a discussion to have with your boy friend. I know I personally would not mind.
Remember, acts of this nature are meant to be fun, don't let bad feelings ruin the fun. I have been involved in both MMF and FFM and they are fun.
2006-08-17 14:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Just Another Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I feel ya!
I am in the same situation as you are. I too want to have another woman join my husband and I but I, like you am a jealous person. I am also concerned with how I feel once this has actually happened. So I talked to my husband and expressed my feelings and he assured me that I am the one he loves and wants to be with, this other woman is there only to help both of us explore a fantasy. He also let me set the rules and restrictions and when we find a woman to join us we will talk to her and tell her what we would like to happen and have her tell us of any restrictions she may have, that way there will be no surprises and nothing will happen to make any of us uncomfortable. Now the hard part is finding the other woman, so just talk to your husband and good luck!
2006-08-17 14:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by girlfromflorida 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then do not do it. Threesomes can be a dangerous thing for those that are not emotionally strong enough. If you think you will have a problem you are probably right. Everyman may dream of having a threesome but it is not a right of every man. So just tell him your sorry but you cannot. If he leaves over that, then he was not worth it to begin with. He should respect your comfort zone if he is a real man.
2006-08-17 13:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That can lead to a lot of problems. You have a right to be jealous. Your guy is going to be rubbing, kissing and doing another girl right in front of you. What if he spends more time concentrating on her than you. I have seen many times in the past that bad things can happen. In one of the cases the guy dropped his girlfriend and started dating the other girl... complete BS. Be careful of what your getting into. It can be really exciting and kinky, but can also ruin a relationship and make you really jealous.
2006-08-17 14:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by americasyankee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you gotta ask, then don't do it. It will bother you. I don't think jealousy is something you can get over. You either are or you aren't the jealous type. My personal opinion would be for you to try another woman by yourself first and see how you feel about that.
2006-08-17 13:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by rando_59 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well ,it depends, how long have you been with your boyfriend?
Do you trust him? If you really want to do it, don't deny it, however, why don't you try doing it just you and the girl, while he watches? You can see from there what kind of vibe he will emit, for you as well, and take it from there....
I mean, if you don't think you can handle your BF touching her, then you make out with her and when it's tiem for sex, he can do it with you while she watches....
And if you end up liking the girl and would want seconds, then go for it....I mean, you are young and it's the time to do it....
2006-08-17 13:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that you are a jealous going into it than DON'T DO IT. After wards you will be mad that their boyfriend touched the other girl and you will start to wonder if he enjoyed the other girl more than you. Only do it if you want to break up with your boyfriend.
2006-08-17 13:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by Merrick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello,
Well,i have...in the past...
Been involved in duo's with two lady's...
And the thing is,that you need to go into that scenario with a mindset of open-mindedness,and maturity about what it is exactly that you are going to be involved in...
As it changes your outlook on sexual relations with your partner/lover,and yourself...
Think very hard before you just go for the pleasuring and erotica of more than one lover at a time lady...
Thank You
2006-08-17 14:11:17 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋