I started divorce poceedings when he told me he was seeing someone else because I thought that was the only way, but I miss him and love him. My familylife is falling apart without the stability of our relationship, and our children are suffering. I want him back.
2006-08-17 06:38:26 · 22 answers · asked by trixiepipworth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him that
2006-08-17 06:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him back then you have to be a woman and tell him you want him back he wont know unless you tell him because he cannot read your mind and stability is what all families need especially when children are involved DIVORCE hurts like hell but if you want this man and he still wants you then go for it and dont act in haste anymore w/o taking time to think about what you want to do but before you consider a reconciliation you need to make sure that your Husband doesn't have a cheating heart be blessed.
2006-08-17 06:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are able to forgive him for seeing someone else and he is willing to stay faithful to you then by all means...tell him. Tell him to his face. Leave the kids with a relative and ask him over for a heart to heart. However, if you are unable to forgive him or if he is unwilling to give up this "someone else" then you will have to face the facts that divorce may be the only viable option left to you.
People will tell you that a leopard can not change his spots. That is true but a human being can change if they are willing to do so and if they are remorseful for what they have done.
2006-08-17 06:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there
It depends on who did ask for divorce
If he was the one, forget about it wont work
If you were the one
Ask him out show him some of the old pictures that you were together and happy
remind him some of the good memories and why did you married and what was the feeling and than ask him to give it one more chance because you really love him
and the kids love him …
buy him one of the things that he loves the most and tell him that you are proud of him because( you know better than me why..)
Wish you luck
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2006-08-17 06:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by shahyad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can advise you to do is PRAY and ask God to intervene in your situation because His will is not for adultery,fornication or your marriage to breakup.Even if you are divorced,neither of you can be with anyone else other than each other without committing adultery and fornication.God has no pleasure in sin therefore if you truly love your husband you would not encourage him in anything that would give him leeway to sin.I emphatise with you because I have been like that for more than two years(he just left without a word) but I am a Christian and I know & believe that "from the beginning God created them male and female.For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and they twain shall become one flesh so then they are no more twain but one flesh.What therefore God hath joined together let not man put asunder". God's will is that you love your husband with the love that He loved you when He gave His life for you and God's love never fails,nothing can stop God's love from reaching us.I believe that God's hand is not too short to reach my or your situation so just bare your heart to God(trust in God not in man in whom there is no help-I am advising you in this way because I was saved by Jesus and I know to trust in Him alone otherwise you are setting yourself up for disappointment & heartache).Have faith in God,only believe in Him,that He is able & wait patiently for Him to work.He will not fail you.God bless you and I will be praying for you.Love you.
2006-08-17 07:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want him back? Can you forgive him completely? Or do you just want him back for the stability only and nothing else, like Love?
2006-08-17 06:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to find out if he wants you back is to ask him. I mean, be sure this is what you want because when you separate, it's hard on everyone, and it brings new problems to the relationship. So, make sure you both will be able to work on it, and make things better. Good luck!
2006-08-17 06:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stability of your relationship??!! He was seeing someone else! What fantasy world do you live in? Buck up girl, you're in charge now, take care of the family, don't turn to your children for emotional support, PROVIDE IT.
2006-08-17 07:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by st pete rn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, but also express your feelings about the other person he is seeing. But make sure that you really are still in love with him and can forgive him and that you are not just wanting him back for the sake of the childern.
2006-08-17 06:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him flat out - if you are ready to forgive the affair. If you are not totally ready to forgive, continue with the divorce.
Don't be surprised if he says no to you. You will find someone to love you again.
2006-08-17 06:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
d only way u can save ur marriage is 2 express ur feelings to him.. tell him dat u love him n need him...explain him abt d future of ur child.....even after all this he proceeds wid d divorce he is an unlucky man 2 lose a women like u...
2006-08-17 06:47:42 · answer #11 · answered by whymeofallpple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋