Is My G/F About to Bail?

Question

We been together for 8 years. Two kids.

I love her to death, but I have a problem staying faithful.

I have put her through so much, and I feel bad everytime I hurt her, but I still cant seem to stop cheating on her.

She left me for 6 months. Before she left, our relationship was so dull. We cooked together, took care of the kids - everything. But when it came to sex or intimacy, it wasnt there. We always had different sex drives (me more, her less) and not much communication. She is a good girl, who at one time loved me to death, but now, I dont know who she is.

She came back (VERY relucantly after all my crying/begging) but I still see suspicion in her eyes, like she still deciding what she's gonna do. While we were separated, she basically gave me her a$$ to kiss. Now that she's back, she's sleeping in our daughters bed, she's still a little distant.

She found out I was still talking to a girl and she blew up at first, but hasnt said anything else about it.

Do you think she hasnt said anything because she's trying to make it work, or because she dont care, or because she's plottin'?

My friends, her family, and my family have told me (before she came back) that maybe we both should go our own ways. She has even told me, but I dont take no for answer, as she always tells me. My best friend told me to let go because it will never work, I've put her through too much.

But if all this is true, why is everything so peaceful? She dont ***** or fuss like she used to.

But I dont trust her, and she dont trust me. I almost feel certaint she had a boyfriend while we were splilt too.

She's been back for 3 months now. Are we on the "up and up" for good?

Answer 1

If you have been talking to another girl, you ARE cheating. That is what you are supposed to do with your girlfriend. You said you are worried that she is plotting? You are lucky she is taking time. If it were most of us we would have been gone the second that we found out that you were still talking to another woman. From what you say it seems that the two of you are not compatible and are only staying together because you don't know what else to do and do not want to give up or quit. Time to move on. Just keep in mind, what comes around goes around. One day you will find that love of your life and she will do to you want you have done to this girl. Good luck.

Answer 2

If the trust isn't there, the relationship is dead. I hate to break the news to you, but after a VERY SIMILAR 7 year marriage, my wife ended up cheating on me in the end and left me for him, so yeah, the sleeping in the kids bed, lack of sex, distant non trust, she's on her way out the door, and every time you hurt her stole a piece of her soul and now theres nothing left to care about. Although after we were divorced for a year the spark came back and we talk again romantically. Its best to back down and let her go and see what happens my friend.

Answer 3

Sounds to me like she has decided to stop trying. She may leave, she may stay but she obviously has stopped caring. This is the time you need to be over affectionate. Bring home flowers every night (even if it's just a single rose, or a $5 bouquet) tell her in your actions that you love her and want to be with her. If I ever hear that you were talking to another girl or cheated again I will personally call her and tell her to leave you as fast as possible. This is serious, you can't toy with her emotions by cheating.... it's hurts worse than any pain immaginable, it's sort of like looking her in the eye and saying, "You suck, I don't love you, I don't even respect your love for me, I hate you and wish you would find a real man who would make me look like a fool!" Since I don't imagine you mean to say those things think about that next time you think about another girl. Best wishes

Answer 4

I think you really need to let this woman go, you have held her as a hostage too long. She deserves a lot better than you. I kknow that there are some men out there that can not be pleased byone woman no matter how much that woman does.

You have slowly and intentionally killed her love for you and from your own admission you are still not faithful to her. What you want is what our old ppl say ' you want to have your cake and eat it too'.

You want other ppl but want her too. How would you feel if she is unfaithful to you. Give her a choice. Let her choose to stay or leave.

Answer 5

You could be, as long as you stop cheating!!! Women have a large capacity to love, and we are very forgiving of the people we are close to, but enough is enough, and you are going to, or possibly have, pushed her to the edge. Why can't you stop cheating on her? This is an issue that you will find most women cannot take. 99% of women want a man to be faithful. If you truly love her, you will have to stop. Do you not realize that it is not just hurting her, but it could be a death warrant for both of you? AIDS, other STD's or just one of your girlfriends might take the notion into their head that they want you, and will risk confronting her to drive her off. It is a crazy world we live in, and you owuld be so much better off if you would just keep your dingaling in your pants. What do you think this is doing to your children? Are you setting a good example for them? However you do it, you have got to get help.

Answer 6

I divorced... I found this joke on yahoo answeres...
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Anyway I have a nice joke for you.

A young couple just married after two weeks realized that they were the most happy for 20 years before they met each other.

Hare Krishna
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Think your GF will like it the same as you?

Answer 7

Sometimes people just aren't right for each other but they try for the kids. Life is too short if shes out let her go, wouldn't you rather be separate and happy in the future than stay together and be miserable

Answer 8

I hope I never have a so-called love like yours. you have a nerve even mentioning she had a bf. Stop being so damn selfish.You want the good girl at home and the whores in your bed. trying to have your cake and eat it too.I hope you choke on it, Get yourself some help and find out why you are such a pathetic loser. shes already gone in her heart.

Answer 9

If you don't be a good boy and try to make it work, she'll leave you for sure. If she catches you doing something bad again, she'll have enough and leave you. If you make the effort to try to make things work, she will see that and also put in some effort as well if she really loves you.

Answer 10

You killed it, now you have to live with the results and let her go like a man. She is going to leave. Maybe soon, maybe later.

If she didn't have the kids, I think that she would already be gone.
If she wasn't going to leave she would not be so calm. Her mind is made up already. Deal with it and go your separate ways.