My current bf thinks that my ex and I talk too much even though it's about our son.
We e'mailed every other day or so.
2006-08-17 06:11:59 · 26 answers · asked by tamilynn 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Talk as much as yo want about your son, the more the better. Good for you 2, the kids are very important! Especially email. your boyfriend needs to respect the importance of your son having the most comfortable childhood possible. Divorce is hard so the more communication the better. Tell your bf to get over it.
2006-08-17 06:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My ex husband is one of my best freinds. We had 2 children together so we keep in contact on a very regular basis.
It must be hard for your new boyfriend to understand this. He will see your ex as a threat and as much as you get on with your ex, you have to consider the feelings of your current blokey.
Explain the situation to your ex and try to tone down the communication.
Maybe save up all the information during the week and then write him a long email telling him all the news etc. Your boyfreind shouldn't object to that. You still have a right to talk to whoever you want to regardless of whether you share a history with them or not.
Sit down and explain to your boyfriend how you feel and if he still isn't sure, let him see some of the e-mails to put his mind at rest.
I know you shouldn't have to resort to that, but if it helps your relationship where is the harm.
Try putting the boot on the other foot too........ how would you feel if he kept a constant line with his ex girlfriend?
Good luck, i hope you can all work it out.
2006-08-17 06:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by Gillipoos 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Almost every day. My ex is a good father, and I am glad he is there for our son.
I have been dating off and on, nothing serious yet. But when I do date seriously, then I will make sure that my boyfriend understands that it is very important for my son's well-being that his father and I have a civil relationship.
I would also try not to talk too much with my ex while my boyfriend is home or in the same room. And I shouldn't be spending any unecessary time talking with him once I have a boyfriend, because I wouldn't want to give him any reason to be jealous.
2006-08-17 06:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by kikisdragon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I only talk every 2 weeks to set up the time for him to pick up my son from me. But it's different in that my ex chooses not to be as involved with his life. If your ex and you are successfully co-parenting it is perfectly normal and RIGHT for you to be in ongoing communication. If your boyfriend cannot be supportive of that (which really is whats best for your son) than a re-evaluation of the relationship may be needed. Good for you and your ex for being mature about the situation...now it's your boyfriends turn! Good luck honey! my very best wishes!
2006-08-17 06:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since there is a child involved, I would say as needed as it pertains to the child, especially if it bothers your current bf. It is in your son's best interest to have you getting along as best you can but sometime it goes beyond that and causes problems with current relationships. My husband's ex used to call for just about any reason and it was ridiculous. They email and text message as needed regarding the kids only now and it's a whole lot easier to deal with.
2006-08-17 06:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I don't have an ex, but I think it's good that you and yours have a good enough relationship that you can talk peaceably. Too many marriages end in bitter ugly divorces which only make it that much more difficult for the kids. Your child comes before your boyfriend. You said you're emailing your ex, not dating him. Your boyfriend is just going to have to find a way to deal with it.
2006-08-17 06:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by Quartro Ninos 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The longer between speaking to my ex the better. It has been at least 8 months since we last spoke. Thankfully it was regarding our grown kids, he used to call all the time and whine for me to take him back. He would change. Boy, isn't that a novel concept.
Yeah, right, after 18 yrs of it, I don't think so.
2006-08-17 06:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by shewolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are only talking about your son, then fine. However, emailing every other day to your ex does seem a bit excessive even if it's about your son. Could you really have THAT much to say about him? And, are you keeping the discussion STRICTLY limited to comments about your son? Of course, this is only your boyfriend who is objecting (not like he's your husband or that you are even engaged to him) so I think he too may be overstepping his bounds.
2006-08-17 06:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When it is regarding your children no amount of time is too much. Every other day is completely reasonable. Sounds like your boyfriend is a little jealous of your ex or your son.
2006-08-17 06:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I only speak to my ex-husband every two or three weeks when he will be visiting with our son. We only speak a few days before to plan pick up and then a few days before he returns him to plan that exchange. My husband NEVER speaks to his ex-wife as they have no reason to communicate. I feel for your bf as I imagine he is likely insecure that you may possibly still have feelings for your ex. If that isn't the case then please limit your conversations to only when neccessary and don't rub them in his face by telling him about any that aren't required for him to know of. Best wishes
2006-08-17 06:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by colorist 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋