When I have been told that it is our closeness that has ruined or is ruining her current relationship. I was informed by a mutual friend that her boyfriend is jealous of our friendship. I do spend a great deal of time with her and are very close but friends are all we are. Do I back off although she hasn't said anything and risk losing a friendship I treasure greatly or do I carry on as if nothing has happened and let his jealousy possibly break her heart?
2006-08-17 06:00:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
NO! No, no, no!
My friend, I am in the exact same boat. Many of my friends are female and their partners are all jealous of me. All I can say is this. It's their problem, not yours not your friends, and they should grow up and get over it.
Why don't you talk to your friend about it, check her point of view on things. Maybe by telling her the problem she can reassure her boyfriend and u can all live happily ever after and all that.
Don't risk your friendship. Relationships come and go, your friends remain always.
Good luck with it. Let me know how it goes.
2006-08-17 08:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by Knight-wing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, be honest with her. We like and admire that. If she is truly your friend then she will understand and appreciate that you care about her and your friendship enough to take on a "problem" head on. If you like her more than "just friends" you need to talk about it. You need to be upfront with each other and define your friendship to prevent any misunderstandings. As for the jealous boyfriend....it's that animal thing. He feels that he is the alpha male protecting the female. Talk to your friend and see how she feels about his possible jealousy. Don't ever take second hand info. Get it directly from the source. He may not be actually be jealous. Good Luck!
2006-08-17 15:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by gotomon6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until she says something to you, don't do anything. It is probable that she knows there is a problem but refuses to change her relationship with you on account of her boyfriend. She will ask for space if you need it. At most you could ask her if she is having relationship problems because of you and ask her what she'd like to do. But don't take any decisions that will affect both of you without consulting her first. If you do, you will end up hurting her, possibly much more than her boyfriend ever could.
2006-08-17 13:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him about the situation and reassuring him about the platonic nature of the relationship. If that doesn't work then it's up to your friend to resolve it, unfortunately friendships can come in second place to a love interest. I think it's rather shortsighted when that happens but that's ppl for you!!
2006-08-17 13:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friend with her. I was in situation to choose between a friend and a boyfriend, and I chose the friend. Boyfriend came back crawling. So, let her decide and I am sure she'll make the right desicion depending on her relationship with her boyfrined
2006-08-17 13:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by Danijela D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u love her as more than a friend. if so go after her. if not then sit her down and tell her that u heard it from a friend that her guy is jealous and the two of u have to come up with a solution to the problem to make it easier to all.
2006-08-17 13:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get too close to her or really start to like her, or you won't be friends anymore. Just hang w/ her as you would your male friends! tell her bf that you 2 are just friends and nothing more, tell him you see her as a little sister and the point should come across! Good Luck!
2006-08-17 13:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by Alexikai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her out to a fun place like the movies or better bring her to the mall and spend about 100 dollars.
2006-08-17 13:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by carecherl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the boyfriends insecurity thats ruining their relationship. She probably knows that and doesnt want to lose you over his problem. If she wants you to back off she will tell you.
2006-08-17 13:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly care for her you will back off and let her explore her relationship. If you secretly are interested in having her for yourself then you should be honest with her.
2006-08-17 13:06:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋