A girl and I from work had an affiar. We were both married, however during our time we both got divorced. Well, I should say we're separated. Our relationship wasn't supposed to be anything emotional, but we ended up falling in love with each other. I ended up getting burned really bad. We talked about everything including children. I've never wanted kids before this girl. She told me that no man has ever treated her so nicely and cared for her so much and that if we are together, she only wishes that I never change. How can she go from being in love with me to not wanting it anymore? And how do I finally put the relationship to rest even though I don't want to give up?
2006-08-17 05:58:04 · 10 answers · asked by woodersondylan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is called REALITY....you need to deal with it. What kind of relationship did you think you'd have with someone who'd sneak around on their spouse? Forget about her, and try to become an upstanding man, and apologize to your ex wife....you probably blew the best thing you ever had for a piece of @@@ that wasn't even worth the cost...
2006-08-17 06:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by occasionallyrowdy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times affairs are feelings caught in the moment, the feeling of going behind your spouse back and sleeping with someone else. It seems to be exciting. Maybe her feelings were coming from there, and thats what shes means when she says how you have changed. Because she liked the daring of getting caught or what not. Its hard to say this but, if she doesnt love you anymore there is not much you can do. YOu and her can talk, Ask her what do you mean that i've changed? talk about it before giving up. dont give up yet, tell her that I have gone to the ends of the world for you, given up everything to be with you
fight fight fight
2006-08-17 13:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to hear you divorced because of this affair. You emotions get so confused when you are involved in two relationships at one time. You have to move on with your life and quit worring yourself with this women. I am sure in the moment she felt this way for you, but sounds like she wasn't sincere and maybe she was just caught up in the moment.
2006-08-17 13:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there are people, men and women both, who are more attracted to the taboo and the excitement of that, than actually to the person they are having the affair with. I'm very sorry for your pain. If you find a way to un-fall in love I'd love to hear about it. I fell in love with a guy who I thought was unattached and then found out he wasn't. Sorry, I digress here. It sounds like she may be one of those people who simply love the taboo, and lost interest when you weren't taboo anymore. Best of luck to you in coming to terms with your situation.
Peace.
2006-08-17 13:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by Annie Answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh, you cheated on your wife and she cheated on her husband and now you complain about this???? you were falling in love that co-worker and now she not in love with yoiu??? LOL, you learned the hard way LOL that sure crack me up! See why, I marred to my wife ?? becasue we talk about everything every day and we trust eachother and we so much in love and 2 kids and 3rd on way. I was like you didn't want kids guess what First child born so glad it happen and become best father and husband.
You made the choice to screw your wife... you made that choice for not sit down and tell her the plm or try to find a way to fix it... Now you try to save the relationship with cheating girlfriend? not even try fix with your ex wife??/ oh man... you got Karma back to you.
LOL, sorry it seem it funny, I am so glad I am not in your shoes smiling... You been screwed biggiest time with your damn KARMA!!!!!! face it be a man and moved on dude.
2006-08-17 13:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you're not a good man and she's not a good woman, either. the reason being is that you both are still married and you both committed adultery. what makes you think she wouldn't cheat on you once you both hook up for real? just as quickly as she fell out of love for you, she can change men. but, you both suit eachother if you both are willing to cheat on your spouses. naughty, naughty!
2006-08-17 13:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
common sense that's what happened, u messed around with her while u were already married. u have already proved 2 her u can't b trusted, she sees it as soon as the next best thing comes around ur going to do the same thing 2 her. get ur mind guy think b 4 u do.
2006-08-17 13:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand-- Maybe she is afraid- reality can be tough after a whirlwind romance- just be patient but take care of yourself-- if she really doesn't want to be with you-- take this as a catalyst to move your life forward-- I wish you luck-- my heart hurts too-- but this will pass- and youll be better for it
2006-08-17 19:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be so pusssy struck dude she was playing and you fell for her. your a cheating bastard and so is she don't mistake it for love you had love in your wife you gave that up so now all you have is a lie...... live with your screw up for a while and learn something from it. then try again with a new woman and next time don't be a foolish horny guy.
2006-08-17 13:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats cause she met me now leave her alone you big bully
2006-08-17 13:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋