my wife (or chubby, as i call her) has gained a few pounds in the last 8 months, its turning me off. i'm going to divorce her if she doesnt fix it really soon.
she needs to start taking care of herself, its disgusting. i dont want our baby born to a stupid mother who is fat and has such low self esteem.
2006-08-17 05:50:03 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im in perfect shape, and i think the rabbi warned her about weight gain at our wedding
2006-08-17 07:07:11 · update #1
Wow, now that's a lot of anger provocation. (But only one thumb down?) Plus, I don't think anybody noticed that she's 8 months pregnant.
2006-08-17 07:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dialup, Avatar, Jones! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't make anyone lose weight. However, if she has expressed a desire to lose weight herself, there are some things you can do to help and encourage her. This means NOT calling her names or insulting her, but making it clear to her that you care about her health and want to help her.
You can offer your support should she chose to go on a weight loss program. That means not having tempting foods in the house, even if you like them and don't have a weight problem. It means not going to fast food restaurants and not eating fattening foods in front of her in social situations. Sometimes, that is enough to give someone a push in the right direction.
You could also buy her a health club membership as a gift to encourage exercise, or simply offer to go on a bike ride or walk with her every evening (or a few evenings a week). Sometimes, people are unwilling to take on a task alone, but if she feels she truly has your support (and NOT you CRITICISM), she will give it a try.
Regardless of what she decides, remember that she is your wife and if her weight determines whether or not you're going to stay with her, then there are probably more problems with the marriage than you're admitting and her losing weight will not ultimately solve them. Be there for her and she will appreciate the effort (and you), even if she doesn't lose the weight.
2006-08-17 06:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by sellb123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know let me start by saying that I really am normally a very nice person and would never do anything to hurt anyone's feelings but this is just too much!
What kind of a F@@@@ing A@@ are you? Who the hell do you think you are telling your wife she has to lose weight or you will divorce her? What kind of a sick inconsiderate bastard are you?
You obviously have no clue what it mean to love someone and should have never gotten married in the first place! You want advice well her it is Divorce her so that she can find a real man that will love her inside and out and will appreciate her for the wonderful woman that she is! How can you degrade woman like that? I hope that she sues you for alimony and takes everything you own! If my husband EVER, EVER said something like that to me, I would pull a Lorianna Bobbitt on his ***! You are a sick pig!
2006-08-17 06:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by iLoveDawnDawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ROFLOL!!! Occasionally....love your reply!!!
I agree...divorce her and she'll be rid of 200 pounds of stupid!!! Hey, it's one thing to say sweetie, I'm worried about the weight. Could we start walking together or something? And then it's a whole 'nuther ball game to say what you have said. Firstly, you took vows...for better or worse. Dang...you still at that *perfect weight*? And her being heavy has nothing to do with how big or stupid or what self esteem your child will have. I think YOUR attitude will affect a child's self esteem more than her size.
I hope she reads this and dumps your butt!!! 'Course, is she 8 months pregnant too?? 'cause if that's the case, you ARE a goober....
UPDATE
So I'm replying to something sent to me. To clarify, I think the husband is wrong here. I think if he divorces her she'll be rid of the 200 pounds of stupid...meaning the jerk of a husband. I think the mail was sent to me by mistake, but.....
2006-08-17 06:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What she needs to lose is you, you are terrible. If you are calling her chubby no wonder she has low self esteem. Have you checked yourself in the mirror? If your willing to divorce your wife because she has gained a few pounds your the problem not her weight gain.
2006-08-17 05:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by Bassetlover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the hell talk about being shallow. you should be more concerned for her heatlh. she deserves better then you anyways because you clearly don't even love her. it sounds to me that you fell in love with her looks instead of the kind of person she is. if you really loved her though you would say to her that you are concerned for her and that you would like to help her. you can do that by going on a diet with her or at least not flaunting anything that she can't have in her face and you can also suggest working out together by getting a gym membership and saying that you want to work on your body too. you can also go walking or jogging with her. you know i was just thinking maybe she is gaining weight because she is depressed because she has to deal with your inconsiderate ***.....what's more disgusting to me is you and your pig headed ways and she would only have a low self esteem because of you. you need to encourage the people that love and support them not put them down....you need to grow up. in my opinion if you did divorce her you would be doing her a favor.
2006-08-17 06:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by beautiful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make your wife (or anyone) lose weight!
But you could stop calling her chubby, encourage her to see a psychologist re her self esteem which you are aggravating. When she loves herself and realizes how good she is she will probably lose the weight.
P.S. Meanwhile, take her for a friendly stroll when you can, hold her hand and show that you care for this mother-to-be.
2006-08-17 06:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you insensitive jerk, being overweight does not make you stupid! The only stupidity is from close minded ***** like you who think their better than everyone else. And just maybe her self esteem is low because you make her feel bad about herself. Grow up man, hope she divorces you. Sounds like she may be pregnant? You are the disgusting one! Next time keep it in your pants buddy!!
2006-08-17 07:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by gemm77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HUH Wha HUH?!?!?! I cannot believe I just read that question!!!! "make" her lose weight? Dude grow up. Maybe she is eating to replace something YOU are not giving her!
You are worried about her self esteme then quit calling her chubby! God some people are such IDIOTS!!!!!!! I wouldnt want your kids growing up with YOU having such a sexist pig attitude!
2006-08-17 06:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by just me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really do love her. You need to sit with her in a caring way and just say that lately you are not attracted to her anymore because of her wait gain and that its a really serious deal breaker for you and that you still love her but give her like two months to see if she is actually trying to lose the weight. because realistically if she gained like 20 pounds it could take her like at least 2-3 months to get rid of it. I lost about 10 pounds in a little over a month...because my bf wasn't attracted to me as much because of weight but I lost it with out any problems because I was really committed and had a lot of self-control to lose the weight.
2006-08-17 06:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are an A S S
You do not deserve to be a husband or a father!
The only stupid Fat head here is you idiot
You are the reason your wife has no self esteem!!!!
Give me your wifes number and i will help her lose...
YOU!!!!!
2006-08-17 06:13:16 · answer #11 · answered by daack7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋