i need to know if it is really love?

Question

i really like this person but they are 16 yrs older than me and ive liked this person for 3 yrs now and not once out of the three years have i stopped thinking about them im only 14 but ppl say tht u cant be in love at this age but i really think i am pleases will you tell me what you think and how i should tell this person i no theres 16 yrs difference but this person always gives me looks which make me think tht they like me please help thanks x

Answer 1

I know u think that this is love, but honey I honestly think it is LUST. You are 14, I'm not gonna say that you are too young to be feeling LOVE, but I think that you need to live your 14 year old life, don't be trying to be in LOVE already you have many years ahead of you to find your true love. Just be a kid, please!

Answer 2

I have to say this, first of all, if you are 14, and there are 16 years difference, then you are in love with someone that is 30 years old? Do you really think that someone who is 30 years old is going to care that you are in love with them? If you are a female or male either way, please I am begging you, finish school, concentrate on your education and forget about it for now! If it is true love then it will wait till you are done with your schooling and you are of legal age to act upon your feelings! I am not saying that you are not in love but you need to be a child as long as you can, you have no idea how hard your life is going to be when you are an adult and then you will long for the days when you were 14 years old! I hope that you can understand what I am saying and put your priorities in order! And for God's sake, Talk to your parents!!!!!!
If you can't talk to them find another adult that you trust, grandparent, friends mom, guidance counselor, or someone who is older than you and can give you advice and help you keep your head on straight! Hope this helps, good luck and God bless!

Answer 3

Oh, kiddo - just a quick lecture on how it is simply NOT POSSIBLE for you, at age 11-14, to know and understand "love." Heck, honey, many people don't master that their entire lives! A person's brain - and all its powers of reasoning and comprehension DOES NOT MATURE until about age 25. Physical, scientific fact. Just like you CANNOT grow breasts until your body grows to a certain point....physical incapability. So - while I know that you feel this infatuation - it is not love.

Now then, as for your actual question. You are 14. They are 30. Whether they could care for you at all is simply NOT RELEVANT because it is SO ILLEGAL! It is criminal. To say nothing of just how wrong this would be, morally, spiritually, emotionally..... If you "did" anything, it would be stautory rape - whether you wanted to do "it" or not. And statutory rape would put this guy in jail. And he would have to register as a sex offender. For the rest of his life.

And you ? Your emotions would be badly damaged - badly damaged. And it would take years for you to full form as an adult, if at all.

So, whether or not this is love, the consequences (something next to impossible for you, at your age, to understand right now) of acting on these feelings are very, very, very bad.

Keep your feelings to yourself - if he doesn't feel the same way, you will only embarass yourself. If he does feel the same way, then you two run the risk of ruining both your lives.

Give yourself time - you have it, use it! Take the time to grow up; to learn about life; to go out with friends and learn how to interact with boys; to learn how to handle yourself in boy-girl situations; to learn how to say "no" - to learn how to be a good person, a good friend, a good girlfriend....you will need all these skills to have a relationship with a man in your future.

If this guy is "the one" then he will be "the one" when you are 18 and he is 34. It does not have to be now and---if tyou wait,--- then you will be better prepared for a relationship later.

Answer 4

You are still very young thus your teen love may be browsing in your heart. I do not believe in age gaps since your match maker might be somebody who is much older than you are.

Try and loosen up a bit, go out with other friends or join a club group. At your age you should be studying in achieving a brilliant career and not be wasting your energy thinking about this guy. Let your friendship sail in bright seas no problem, but do not settle for something which you might later on regret.

enjoy your youth, it will not come back.

Answer 5

I am not going to tell you are to young to know what love is. You may feel a genuine feeling of love for this person, but listen to me YOU CAN'T BE WITH THIS PERSON because of the age difference. The age difference alone will cause you many problems, not to mention the legal end of this. This is wrong. Don't do anything with this person because I promise you you WILL regret this later on.

Answer 6

You don't love this person, you have a crush. This man is 30 yrs old what can a 14 years girl give him. If he goes their he will go to jail. Do him and yourself a favor and go find a boy your age.

Answer 7

Okay, if you're 14, any adult should stay the heck away from you in a romantic situation. You might love this guy, and he might love you, but the law says he can't do anything with you until you're 18. Otherwise, they could wind up in jail.

Why don't you just wait. If you love them and they love you, then they'll still love you in four years time and you will still love them in four years time (heck, you say you've already loved them for 3, so what's a little more?). Don't say anything to them. Just wait.

That'll give you the chance to grow up and when you're old enough, you can make your move.

Answer 8

You are young and you have your whole life to fall in love...When I was your age I thought I was 'in love' several times, but honestly, you are too young to truly understand it. I know the thought of an older man is exciting and you've probably written down your name with his last name a million times and have even secretly thought about how many children you will have with him someday. There is nothing wrong with you feeling the way that you do, but coming from someone who's been where you are....Be a kid....Worry about 'love' when you get older.

Answer 9

I will only tell you the truth..... if you are 14 and a 30 year old is looking at you like that....there is something wrong!!!! You are in love with the idea of being in love....this person may hold qualities that you admire, and you "dream" of being with them, but it is just that a dream.....do not persue this...it can only lead to trouble. you are young, frankly still a child.....this person ia an adult and has been for over ten years.....there is no common ground here. feel free to enjoy their company, but find a person who is 16 to date.

Answer 10

oka that makes the other one 30 years old.
if you two start dating they would be put in jail for dating you as a minor.
so be carful.
i really dont think its love.
your in lust.
i know iv liked someone back in my younger days for very many years. but that was just lust. it goes away when you get older.
you can tell that person how you feel so that you two understand where your at.
but if you two start dating then im sure he will be put in jail for dating a minor.
again, be carful.