I am talking to this guy only as a sex thang. I kind of like him. My BEST friend knows it and her and her husband are having problems and she slept with him! She asked me before but i thought she was joking. I mean my god i didn't think she would. They(husband) have a 1 year old and 1 month old together. i don;t know if i should be trusting her or not. She didn't seem like the type to do it. Now i want to cry all the time. She says it is a 1 time thing but now it seems she is always flirting with him or something. What should i do? I am very hurt and confused.
2006-08-17 05:21:48 · 14 answers · asked by SweetS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
errr,,
2006-08-17 05:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by bbygrl<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The deciding factor is did she know that you liked him before she slept with him? If so then that is a typical female thing to do! But, not a typical friend move. If another girl says someone is hot or likes someone the first instinct the other girl is to do is make him want her or get with him. Your friend is not so much a friend at all. First can you respect her after that. Maybe, but I don't see how. Number 1). She cheated on her husband. Number 2). She cheated on her husband with someone you were interested in Number 3). She risked her marriage, friendship, and for what for "female competition".
Furthermore how can the guy you liked have any respect for your friend? The other question is: Does he know that you like him because you would think that if he liked you he wouldn't have dabbled with your friend. I say, "LOSE THEM BOTH"!They are not worthy of your friendship. Don't waste your energy and time on people that don't place value in friendships and partnerships. You just don't do that to friends. Like they say Bro's before Ho's. Same goes for us girls. Chicks before *****. Having a good friend is important. Unfortunantly, they are very far and few in between. Good luck, I hope everything works out in your favor. :)
2006-08-17 13:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by AJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....Your friend has issues...Not only within her marraige but with her friendships as well. It sounds to me like she is very much lacking in the sensitivity and moral issues. She shouldn't have cheated on her husband and she shouldn't have stabbed you in the back. I'm not really sure if telling her husband is your place, but you can stop being her friend. She will eventually back herself into a corner and get too caught up in everything - Don't hang around to see the s*** hit the fan. I'd forget about that guy, too...If he slept with her after you AND knowing she is married he's a JERK! He's only using you two! Get out now!
2006-08-17 12:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by Brea1243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its only a sex thang to you, I guess it must be to her also.
I understand that you fill betrayed because someone has been bumping your grinder and its your so called friend. I say so called because with friends like her, I wouldn't know my enemies.
Any so called friend who would sleep with the man I am sleeping with, wouldn't be worth my friendship.
Furthermore, I wouldn't be considering anything else whether sex or a relationship with a guy who would disrespect me in such a manner.
The fact that you agreed to be on sexual level place you in a position to be no better than your girlfriend.
Sex is sex and when you put yourself on such a level with a guy, why would he turn down other sex.
2006-08-17 12:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is impossible to have only a sex thing. If it were 'only a sex thang' you wouldn't give a damn with whom he fornicated. As for your best friend, she was only responding to him and if you said it was omly physical I do not see how she has harmed you at all. Stay away from him; a sex thang is not worth a friendship and a true friendship lasts longer. As far as your best friend's judgement goes, that's her deal not yours. And HE screwed her too.
2006-08-17 12:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by stealm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i would get rid of your friend. you should not be friends with people like her. I just could not trust her anymore. What if her husband and her going to have problems again will she be running for comfort to the guy you like?
2006-08-17 12:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With friends like that, who needs enemies. Forget about the guy, and I would seriously reconsider the friend.
2006-08-17 12:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by Lemme tell ya... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he is a sex thang to you maybe thats all it was to her and its like so wrong to have felling for a sex thang so dont get mad at her
2006-08-17 12:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by pretty gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to find a new best friend, and the husband needs a new wife! What a *****
2006-08-17 12:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like she's not your friend, no friend sleeps with a guy that their friend slept with
2006-08-17 12:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fr ind ship is name of trust,and if you have lost trust in her ,better leave her.
2006-08-17 12:31:27 · answer #11 · answered by lucky s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋