Are they secretly wishing to be 'out' or something. I get asked all the time about my girlfriends, and it absolutely drives me insane.
These people act is if gay people dont bleed and are not human. how do you feel about it?
2006-08-17 05:04:13 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Tact is a great skill. I believe that people should be taught how to use it in schools....
forgive my outburst. some people just need to get their brain seeing to.
2006-08-17 05:33:22 · update #1
As a straight guy I feel like I have alot to learn about you people as just that people. It's hard to drive silly thoughts out of my mind when i see a Lez couple, like "Oh look at those man haters" it's immature and stupid but it doens't stop it from happening. For a long time I thought that; because my Mom is gay that she hated my dad. This all happend to me as a young child, and I didn't know any better at the time.
I remeber asking her that will she like me becasue one day I'll grow up to be a man. She told me she loved me, but becasue she didn't love my dad (in that way)so I didn't belive her because he is the man I want to be like. So for what 18 years I didn't believe her, I didn't think she had a heart because of how she left my dad and I. Now that I'm on here posting questions (granted some are stupid)but I'm learning.
Please know there are straight men that are respectable and aren't concerned with your sex life, but just trynig to see that you are prolly just like me, we may be able to relate on alot of different issues. I had a real disdain for lesbians, becasue of what happend to me as a kid and my dad. It's not your fault, but it's the same way when someone gets robbed by a big black guy, everytime a big black guy comes around they go back to that memory, until they get to know a few and realize we all aren't that way.
The Crazy thing is when I truly found out why my mom left, I studied up on Lesbian everything, I wanted to know all about it, the sex the lifestyle every subtle difference "listening, touching, responding, the sex I wanted to know everthing this was as a what 8th/ 9th grader just so that hopefully my biggest fear won't happen. My wife (furturistically speaking) doens't leave me for another may it be male or female.
So there you have it. Not all straight people are coming from the same place when we have questions. I opened up a bit this is online so I'm sure someone will take some stabs at me.
Just my openny
2006-08-17 06:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of straight people don't think about the fact that they are asking a personal question, more often then not they're thinking that by asking the question they seem open minded and curious about the facts. I guess it's better for a straight person to ask rather then make assumptions. Some people still think that lesbians just kiss and cuddle or try to emulate straight sex (why would we wanna emulate 'straight sex'? for a straight womon having penetrative sex statistically she's got 30% chance of having an orgasm, maybe this is why some are asking)
2006-08-17 06:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Chez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You used the word "fascinated" because you want to make yourself believe that straight people are or would be fascinated by two people of the same sex proclaiming they are no different than an opposite sex couple. But, in fact there are very big differences.
Two people of the same gender trying to mimic the lifestyle/sex of straight couples, baffles, not fascinates, most of the minds of straight people.
If straight people are being inquisitive to a gay person, they are merely trying to figure out how your thinking process operates.
It takes a man and a woman to produce human life. Then along comes a (lesbian) human who rejects the opposite gender. The very gender that was needed to produce them. They reject the very thing that is necessary to their creation. If your parents had decided to pursue same sex relationships before you were born, you wouldn't be here.
It is like an anorexic, they reject food. They reject the very thing they need to survive. It is baffling.
2006-08-17 06:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by invisable_id 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, and I think the same thing goes for other men, (though, in all honesty, I haven't got an affinity with them) I don't give much thought to what gay men get up to, but can't help but be fascinated by lesbians because they are so exciting a prospect I can't fail to get excited even if I try. It's rather uncouth and poor form to question someone on their sex life unless under special circumstances - but that's the masses for you - bunch of thoughtless dimwits.
2006-08-17 05:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by Silkie1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im straight, and think its a number of things
1 We dont understand it, to us it shouldn't of evolved as two people of the same sex can't have kids
2 Straight people dont see how you can be attracted to the same sex
3 Some straight people find it fascinating just because it's not seen as the norm, I suppose like women being mechanics or men working with children.
4. It makes us uneasy to think someone of the same sex may be eye-ing us up (because we don't understand it).
Personally I don't care as long as men don't 'come on' to me but my brother in law can't even watch the TV if a gay actor is on (even if playing a straight role and not being camp at all)
2006-08-17 06:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mark T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two factors going in to these questions that people ask you. I get asked them too. Sometimes people are asking because it's a huge turn on for them to be able to relive it in their own heads. A lot of women ask it because they're wondering if the grass is greener on the other side. I get asked all the time what attracts me to women that I can't get from men. To those who are straight the answer is never understandable.
2006-08-17 19:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mama23Girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just dont have anything better to do than hate on people that ask a question that makes people think...
To answer your question... For St8 people being gay is something different to them, no matter how many times they see two men or two women, it's something different... St8 people are some what close minded, they try to imagine "WHAT WE DO IN THE BED ROOM" so when they think like that, they ask stupid questions...because it's something that they just can't picture...
They have a lot to learn.........
2006-08-17 05:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by T@J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it's not normal and it's a sin, even people who don't believe in god think it's wrong. You guys are messing with god's plan, which was for Man and woman. Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve or Eve and Ivette, sperm and an egg, not sperm and sperm or egg and egg. Like how do you guys reproduce? Sure lesbians are having babies, but not from their partners DNA. They form the baby from a sperm Donner. Which goes to show you homosexuality is not normal. You guys were not born that way. The bible saids, "Homosexuals will not inherit the kingdom of god." Which means you guys are going to HELL. Now why would god take the time to create a person, already knowing they're going to hell? Where the freak does the bible say, "homosexuals were a form of gods birth control." Nowhere so it's not normal, and most of us hate it. Do what you gotta do! The world ain't perfect!
2006-08-17 06:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it is no more than idle curiosity...I really do not think it is meant to be disrespectful...they just are dying to know! IT doesn't mean they are gay, it means they are somewhat dense. Nothing more, nothing less. I suspect they think we have some kind of magic lurking about and want in on the secret...After all, they are taught that this stuff is really taboo all their lives, yet we "chose" to do it...therefore, there must be something terribly exciting about it, and they want the same thing. Good luck
2006-08-17 05:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the ones that shout the loudest have the most to hide...pearls before swine.
i enjoy informing str8 people of their misconceptions about gayness etc. i still do get shocked by peoples ignorance sometimes though. there are still people who think you can get aids by sharing a glass or cup with someone.
i also enjoy educating people because i am so nice/boring that these folk realise being gay doesnt arlways mean youre absolutely fabulous.
peace swot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2006-08-17 06:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by swot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋