my boy friend said that it going to be over between us because my mom doesnt know about him and i dont want to tell her cause i dont want to hurt her and i dont want to lose him, what do i do?
2006-08-17 04:38:36 · 10 answers · asked by I can be your Juliet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what you are a liar or doing something you feel ashamed of.
Tell your mom the truth regardless of your bf. You do not deserve him.
2006-08-17 04:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by jercha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're over 18 I don't think your mom really has an opinion on who you date anymore...atleast she shouldn't. I don't see any reason why you shouldn't tell her. What about your happiness? Isn't that worth something? If you really like this guy there should be no reason (just excuses) why you won't tell your mom about him. Think about it this way...someday your mom is going to die, if your life pans out the way it's supposed to it will be before you, what are you going to do then...look for this guy you let go of so many years before because you were afraid of what she might think? Just to find out that he got married and had kids, or are you going to do what it takes to make it work now so he can be there with you to help you through the hardship? think about it
2006-08-17 11:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by Passionfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would your relationship hurt your mother?? If your of age, then you are enititled to have your own life and live it any way you see fit. A good mother should not have you make such choices. I can understand your Boyfriend wanting to leave because it's disrespectful to him and can be very hurtful at the same time. if you feel that your boyfriend is what you want and saving your relationship, then I suggest that you come clean to your mother and stick to your guns. sometimes parents have a good way of munipulating their children in order to gain control. But, you have to nip it in the butt because it could become much worse leaving you to miss out on alot in life. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-17 11:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And how old are you...? Your boyfriend is right...does his parents know about you? When you really like someone you shouldnt be scared to admit it even if its to your parents....why would you hurt your mom? My father passed away when I was 2...so I grew up only with my mother ...when i got my first boyfriend I was worried because I didnt know how she would react....she was so close to me ...for her I was always he LITTLE girl ....When I told her she was happy with me because she WANTED to share that with me...she wanted me to tell her about boys and not keep anything from her.... It makes it easier that you wont have to sneak around...and bringing him to your house sit in the living room and watch a movie...things like that will sure help your relationship. good luck...and dont be scared...
2006-08-17 11:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by yeah yeah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care so little for him or you're ashamed of him then you deserve to lose him. No one should be made to feel less than what they are. You're unwillingness to tell your mother is sending him a very negative message, as if he's not good enough and no one wants to feel that way. Who's life are you living, yours or your mother's?
2006-08-17 11:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a right unless he's married or you are to expect a open relationship and he shouldn't be kept in the background and it wouldn't be a way to start off a potential relationship so I suggest you be open and honest as to why you can't introduce him or face the fact he will have to be gone.
2006-08-17 11:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there another reason why you don't tell your mother. If you are old enough to date and your parent s agree then tell her. He probably thinks you are ashamed of him. You need to understand how he feels. How would you feel if he hide you from his parents?
2006-08-17 11:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by angeldolls4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hurting both and gaining nothing.Be open to ur mom about ur boyfrnd.Tell her.By not telling her u are hurting her more.
2006-08-17 11:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to introduce him to your mom.your should undertsand you that having a boyfriend is part of gworing up
2006-08-17 11:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would it hurt her to meet him?
2006-08-17 11:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by nicky2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋