been married 33 yrs and recently found out she has had at least 4 affairs in the last 10 yrs or so. we are trying to work thru it thou. in public or at dances she is good as gold, hugging and kissing me but when we at home in other rooms she is same way but when we get to the bedroom she is like a cold fish. i v investigated found out things are true and even talked to guys she has been with and found out things from her she has done with them but i cant even get her to have sex except when she wants to do herself. ive been told by several of thing it included oral which i cant even get her to do to me in 33 yrs of marriage. what can i do.
2006-08-17 04:30:08 · 16 answers · asked by l m larry moore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u may be experiencing a condition which is rare, investigate her fantasies, maybe urwe not giving her what is needed or what she wants.. women after 33 uyears want a good f*ck if u know what i mean.. ure most welcome to give her my email adress and Ill give her what is needed ..
2006-08-17 04:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by tariq k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry man, but she's not attracted to you anymore.
But with 4 affairs in the last 10 years? That's kind of a hint why she won't have sex.
She's had it too many times!
2006-08-17 04:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by ☼ becki ☼ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe some woman get bored on a relationship.What you need to do is be more aggressive. She wants attention and she is obviously getting it from somebody else. She might be saying you want it come and get it. You need to be more in control of the situation if she just tells you I'm not in the mood and you just stop she will just not give it up but if you might continue she will just get into it and give it up.
2006-08-17 05:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Bea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like she's not really attracted to you anymore.. and if she's has so many affairs.. maybe you should move on ... she obviously doesn't deserve you.
or you know... you should ask her why she's not having sex with you... or ask her what you can do to make her want to have sex with you.. could be littles things that can be resolved...
but do you honestly want to be with someone that goes around and cheats on you all the time ? without giving you the opportunity to fix things first...
2006-08-17 04:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she had out at least 4 affairs(that you said you found out);you have the answer to your question.This is a very delicate and very difficult question to answer.Good luck!!!!
2006-08-17 04:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
harsh. 33 years is a long time to be together, and it hurts to be cheated on, why dont you cheat on her. sometimes a woman feels lonley and sex only makes her feel worse. why did she have affairs?
2006-08-17 04:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by nicky2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring the sex out of the bedroom try diferent places ,outdoors, public bathrooms, parking places
2006-08-17 04:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not attracted to you sexually. Or you are not that good in bed or she is still having an affair.
2006-08-17 04:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to leave. it aint worth it to her and she keeps showing u that. so show her its over and she dont have to worry about doing it behind your back anymore cause u aint there.
2006-08-17 04:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by why?? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how about trying this---while she is playing with herself maybe you can put yours in....if u know what i mean....its something to try anway...have her lay on her back with her legs spread open--she can play--u can watch --and then u can also play with her
2006-08-17 04:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋